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Old Feb 22nd, 2016, 09:26 AM   1
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Finally success after 5 years unexplained infertility


I thought about starting this journal off by outlining my struggle with infertility over the years. Then I thought, why tarnish this great achievement with the things I went through. I am PREGNANT, finally!

I did think that once I got pregnant my worry would lessen and I would just be so happy happy happy. I am happy but unfortunately the worry is still here but as many of your have told me, that's normal.

I'm having a hard time figuring out what to write in here. I've thought about this moment for a long time but now that it's here I'm really not sure what I'm supposed to be talking about. For the longest time it was talking about IVF protocol, or my BFNs. Bear with me, I really need to get the hang of this.

I guess I'll just start by telling you some things that have been on my mind and going on in my life outside of fertility (although still related someway or another).

The day we found out we were pregnant my DH FINALLY got on board with moving to a bigger apartment. I wanted to move baby or not because we have outgrown our 1 bedroom apartment but he was very apprehensive. When we got that he changed his mind.

We move into the new place on February 29th and I'm really happy about that because 1. I get to pack and do things to keep my mind off of my ultrasound that's on the 3rd 2. I get to nest when we move into the new place, there is a room just for the babies and hubby said I can start buying stuff once we move since we'll have a place to put all of the stuff. That brings me to one of my fears though. Is it too early to buy baby stuff? What if something goes wrong? Ugh the worrying just never ends even though I know they're genetically normal and I have no history of recurrent miscarriage.

I called my OBGYN the other day just to see what protocol was because nobody at CCRM has told me anything about graduating (I know it's not until 9 weeks but still). Being pregnant is all new territory for me. I have no idea where to go from here so I called to get an idea. Well, the front desk receptionist basically told me that they wouldn't be able to promise that my doctor would be the one to help when I went into labour. It's a huge medical facility (The palo alto medical foundation). They are great at what they do but are very busy. I digress. That is just not going to work for me. I want my doctor, the one who knows my sensitive situation, the one who will be seeing me for most of my appointments pre birth to help me when the time comes. Is this wrong? Anyone who has been pregnant before, what has your experience been? Now I'm nervous that I'm going to have to go around and look for an OBGYN that is going to be there for me during birth and ... what do I ask? There has to be a book on this right?

Sorry for the long post. I am so happy to be at this place in my life finally. I am so happy to have had all of your support and I'm sure continued support. You girls are awesome and I wish the best for every one of you!

xx Ashli



 
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Old Feb 22nd, 2016, 09:36 AM   2
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Hey Ash, this is exciting, love the journal.

Yes, its quite common to have to see several doctors at your facility when pregnant, mostly because when you do give birth, you have no idea what doctor will be on call. I loved my doc when I joined the practice and saw him maybe 2x during my entire pregnancy, and it was fine, the doc who delivered Avery was so awesome and Im so happy with her. My practice is Maternal Fetal Medicine and high risk, it was noted in my chart that my pregnancy was a result of IVF.

Cant wait for your u/s to see how many babies you have cooking and looking forward to reading your journal.



 
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Old Feb 22nd, 2016, 09:40 AM   3
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One - Thanks for the info. I obviously have no idea what happens from this point on so I am grateful for any info I can get! Regarding a birth plan? I'm not sure if you had one or not but if you did were the doctors respectful of what you wanted even though they hadn't been monitoring you through your entire pregnancy?



 
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Old Feb 22nd, 2016, 09:40 AM   4
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Old Feb 22nd, 2016, 09:57 AM   5
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Old Feb 22nd, 2016, 10:48 AM   6
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Old Feb 22nd, 2016, 12:00 PM   7
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One - Thanks for the info. I obviously have no idea what happens from this point on so I am grateful for any info I can get! Regarding a birth plan? I'm not sure if you had one or not but if you did were the doctors respectful of what you wanted even though they hadn't been monitoring you through your entire pregnancy?
I did not have a birth plan to be honest, obvouisly I just wanted to make sure she arrived without any complications, however, they asked me questions before doing anything, such as epidural etc. It was all new to me and I was not opposed to anything, I trusted the docs that they know best, I did not have a doula and it was just my hubby in the room. Fortunately for us, its was a very easy delivery.

But I am almost 100% sure that any docs in your practice will respect your birth plan, assuming there are no medical complications. Im sure they heard it all as well, my doc asked me if I wanted to save my placenta for consumption.



 
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Old Feb 22nd, 2016, 12:07 PM   8
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Old Feb 22nd, 2016, 12:42 PM   9
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Old Feb 22nd, 2016, 13:52 PM   10
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I actually knew that my gynaecologist would not be there for the delivery of my baby (I had planned to birth at a midwife-led facility, but then developed gestational diabetes and so I had to register at the hospital). When I registered, I was very clear about what I wanted and didn't want, had a very comprehensive birth plan that I went through with them (no IV, no interventions unless medically unavoidable, no constant checking / monitoring, no epidural - want to be left to labour and let my body do what it needs to) ... and although they were supposed to monitor towards the end, things went faster than they anticipated, so I totally got to birth the way I wanted. When I got there and they wanted to place the IV - I said, that I didn't want one ... so didn't get one (until after baby and placenta were birthed and I haemorrhaged and lost 1,5 litres of blood - but then I was of course fine with whatever they needed to do) ... they were very good at respecting my wishes

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