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Old Oct 29th, 2012, 07:29 AM   1
JessicaM123
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can't believe my friends :(


My friends have been so supportive over the last few months, like amazing, ive been so happy with how they have treated me.

However the last 3 weeks i feel so alone. I feel like im a burden on them. I drove them all down to birmingham the other weekend for a night out, and the next day they made me leave and wouldn't let me eat or nap in the afternoon. I took one of them aside and was like look, let me have some food and a sleep and im happy to go, but you need to put me first as its sort of my needs first, but no.

Ever since that night, this weekend they made plans with me to go shopping, (of course i was driving them) but then didnt reply when i text them saying i was ready and ignored my calls all saturday, then uploaded photos of all 6 of them round one girls house eating a roast and watching a film. I finally got through sunday night and was like why did you ignore my calls? and she was like "oh sorry i had too many people over".

i feel completley ignored. my gender scan is in 2 weeks and i can just see it now, thats when they will finally be intrested. i expected it from a couple of them but not all of them. Even my girls at uni are being distant, but thats expected i guess.

blehhhhh and to top it off i have the worst back pain ever.

i want to make some mummy friends



 
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Old Oct 29th, 2012, 07:52 AM   2
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hope you feel better. You will always find friends like that. Just try to ignore it because running after them will put so much stress and worry on you. Focus on those friends who always stick with you



 
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Old Oct 29th, 2012, 08:10 AM   3
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Where about do you live?

I hate to say it, but this seems to be a typical thing during pregnancy. I literally have like 2-3 friends now. But they're real friends who I actually want to talk to. My best friend makes the effort to come here when I can't be bothered to go out, understands I don't always have time to text back, and no matter how many times I say no, she always invites me out!

You'll learn who your true friends are



 
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Old Oct 29th, 2012, 08:28 AM   4
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Sending hugs, I know I'm no longer a teen but i have found once I had the LO's I made so many new friends while the others buggered off. My best friend, I met here on BabyandBump.

Life gets better You meet the mature mums and leave the rest behind, they dont sound very friendly.



 
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Old Oct 29th, 2012, 09:42 AM   5
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thanks girls, i do hope so. I just always thought they'd be the kind to stick around.

Emma i'm from oxford.



 
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Old Oct 29th, 2012, 09:44 AM   6
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I have like no friends any more I can't wait to move away and make some new friends! You'll definitely learn who your true friends are



 
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Old Oct 29th, 2012, 10:07 AM   7
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I'm not sure if they would do it where you are, but the children's centre by me does a 'bumps and babies' group of wednesday morning I think it is, so pregnant girls can go too. Maybe look at something like that? You could meet other mums/mums-to-be there?



 
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Old Oct 29th, 2012, 10:09 AM   8
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Just searched for you, there's loads of centres in Oxford you could look at. See if you can fit one in



 
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Old Oct 29th, 2012, 11:09 AM   9
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Sounds like they were using you hun.
You will find out how little people care when you are pregnant and need them most, and its not a bad thing..its better to know now than later and gives you the chance to surround your LO around positive caring people instead of introducing them to fake ones and finding out later on.

Hugs to you. It seems so hard, but seriously, when the baby comes NOTHING else will matter and you wont care about those friends!
Dont let them jump back into your life when they want you and they feel like it!
Here if you need to talk xxxxx



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Old Oct 29th, 2012, 11:12 AM   10
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And I'm not a teen either but I worked out for myself what friends really are like.
I've had friends I thought who would always be there like yours too but they arent.



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