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Old Sep 24th, 2014, 15:37 PM   11
Candykisses
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First of all, congratulations

I think the advice you've been given here is really good and I definitely agree that you should really consider telling the father. I know it seems tough but he may be able to provide you with some support; he may be shocked about your age and about the baby but he is involved too.

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Old Sep 24th, 2014, 15:46 PM   12
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If I tell my parents the father is my ex boyfriend they won't know who I'm talking about. They will probably think I'm talking about the boyfriend I had before this guy. That's the only one they know about. That won't be enough for them, they'll want more information.

I guess the other issue is that I don't know if I will keep the baby. If I don't plan to keep it I don't feel like I would have to tell him. Or I guess I just tell him I'm pregnant and not keeping, that way he can't say he never knew.



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Old Sep 24th, 2014, 16:35 PM   13
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I would tell him first. How do you know he's going to react badly? Once he knows he's going to be a daddy he may just accept it and forgive you for lying. I met my partner when I was 17 and he was 24. I'm now nearly 21 and we are still together. I don't really think your age gap is that major. Once you've told him hopefully he will support you & it will be easier to tell family. Even if they fly off the handle I'm sure they will love little one once he / she arrives. You also need to get some medical care asap to ensure everything is going well in your pregnancy. Being a mummy is an amazing feeling, and trust me you will cope. Everyone finds their own way. Good luck xx



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Old Sep 24th, 2014, 18:37 PM   14
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You're right, ClaRav, I don't actually know how he'll react. I don't think he will be happy about any of it, but I won't know unless I tell him.



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Old Sep 24th, 2014, 19:42 PM   15
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Maybe if you write him a letter then you can get it all down in a composed way, then give it to him in person



 
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Old Sep 24th, 2014, 19:49 PM   16
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Yeah, a letter might be a good idea. I just worry that telling him I'm actually 17 will make him mad, but telling I'm pregnant first will upset him too, so I don't know where to start. Maybe writing it down all at once will be better.



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Old Sep 25th, 2014, 01:01 AM   17
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First of all, congrats! I'm Briana and I'm 19 and 25wks pregnant. So I know how you're feeling.

You need to be honest, with your parents and with the father, it's easier said than done. I was told I couldn't have kids and told my little one's dad that, then I had to tell him I was pregnant. I dreaded how he would react. I sent him a text and told him straight out what was going on. He wasn't happy, but he was somewhat supportive. Even now, he's still strange about it but he has agreed to meet his daughter once she's born. So he'll come around babe - and even if he doesn't it shows that you're better off without him.

As far as doctors appointments go, have you considered seeing family planning? I'm not in America so I'm not sure if they charge to insurance or what the age restrictions are but it's worth having a look into if you're not quite ready to tell your parents. Do you have another adult friend that you trust who you could talk to?
As far as telling your parent's who the babies dad is just tell them it's an ex. I told mine straight out that he wasn't someone I wanted around baby and that I didn't want to speak about him and they respected that (mostly) You do need to see a doctor, especially if you think you could be 11 weeks.

Good luck hun, pm me if you ever need to talk xxx



 
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Old Sep 25th, 2014, 03:56 AM   18
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I agree with writing a letter, it seems like a good idea in your situation so he can't walk away and not hear it all if he does get mad.



 
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Old Sep 26th, 2014, 23:21 PM   19
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So, I decided I am definitely going to tell the dad, but I'm trying to determine who I should tell first. I don't know which will be worse - him or my parents. Also, do you think it's ok to not tell him in person or should I do it face to face, even if it's giving him a letter?

I just keep telling myself I'll just do it, but then I start over thinking it.



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Old Sep 27th, 2014, 04:11 AM   20
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I think it's best to do it face to face, I'd just do it and get it over with so you don't have to keep thinking about it. Do it today! I'd probably tell him first, you never know he might help you tell your parents



 
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