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Old Sep 29th, 2014, 03:38 AM   31
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Well done for telling him! You did good I'm sure he will come around, about the age thing as well as the baba after all, it's not as if you told him you are 15, it's not like you were underage or anything, it could be worse!

I agree that you should be completely honest with your parents - put an end to the lies!

Seeing as you think.you could be quite far along, I really think you should get a drs appointment asap! I'd suggest inviting the dada along to it, that way he can see for himself that the pregnancy at least is true, and also feel involved



 
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Old Sep 29th, 2014, 06:56 AM   32
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Well done for coming clean to him. I hope him and your parents surprise you with accepting baby.



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Old Sep 29th, 2014, 07:20 AM   33
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Well done! Hopefully he comes around soon!



 
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Old Sep 29th, 2014, 14:48 PM   34
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Good work! I can only imagine the anxiety you are dealing with.

I promise you it isn't going to be as bad as you think if you tell your parents. Despite what their first reaction may be, they are your biggest allies in this.



 
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Old Sep 29th, 2014, 15:20 PM   35
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Heather, I'm just seeing this thread now and I wish I'd chimed in earlier. Sounds like you've been dealing with a lot of tough stuff for a teenager.

Right now, the most important thing you can do is be seen by a medical professional. If you can't face telling your parents yet and are unable to visit your regular doctor, please find a Planned Parenthood clinic in your area. You need to be examined by a doctor and now is the time to make some very important decisions for yourself and the baby you're carrying. At Planned Parenthood (or a similar organization in your area) you can talk through your options with someone who's trained to assist women in your situation. Good luck to you in whatever you decide!

And I should add: If you haven't done so already, go to a drug store and purchase some prenatal vitamins and begin taking them daily.



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Old Sep 29th, 2014, 21:30 PM   36
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Thanks for all of the support.

When I tell my parents I will definitely tell them the entire truth because I don't want them to completely blame the guy and be even more upset with him than they already will be. Earlier today I thought I might tell them tonight. I have a tummy now where I never had one before. I am always paranoid that my mom is looking at me weird, like she knows something is going on. I try to avoid being alone with her because I feel she'll ask me. I bet if she really knew she would have said something already. I just couldn't tell them tonight. I got too nervous.

I talked to the father and he said I have to tell my parents NOW. I asked him what I should do and he said he didn't know, he's still processing it all - it's all he can think about, but he can't make me do anything and doesn't want to make me do anything. So, he isn't much help.

I thought I found a good solution and that I would just go to Planned Parenthood for now because I honestly don't know if I can tell my parents any time soon. I went to their site and it looks like the closest one is over 100 miles away.



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Old Sep 29th, 2014, 21:34 PM   37
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I promise, it won't get any easier as time goes on. You need to tell them ASAP. These are your parents. Do you really think they're going to throw their pregnant 17 y/o daughter out on the street? The worst thing that could happen is they get angry. You can't tell me your parents haven't been angry at you before, even had full blown screaming matches? They will eventually have to come to terms with it if they want to be a part of their grandchild's life. The sooner the better, because it's only going to get harder and give them less time to process it.



 
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Old Sep 30th, 2014, 04:39 AM   38
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It,sounds to me like the father is being pretty good!

Honestly, I'd just go up to your mum and say "I've got a bit of need for you" if you act positive you are more likely to get a positive reaction. I think the hardest part for you will be telling them that you lied to the father, but you have learned from that so make sure you let them know that

Everyone is right that the sooner the better, especially if it is the only way to get medical attention.

It's great that you and the dad have been keeping contact, really! Especially considering how you thought he'd react!



 
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Old Sep 30th, 2014, 04:54 AM   39
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i agree he sounds pretty promising despite the shock and still taking it all in. and i agree with the previous poster, approach them upfront, and the sooner you do the better.

if you think your mom has noticed something, well.. maybe she did. moms have a 6th sense sometimes. and if she did, maybe it is tough for her to break the silence as well and she sees you behaving strange (ie avoiding being alone with her)... so the sooner you spit it out, the easier it will be, at least it's out there and you can start making a plan and considering your options all together.

good luck!!



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Old Sep 30th, 2014, 11:42 AM   40
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Just wanted to stop by and say, you're doing great and will be fine! Congratulations feels funny to hear at first until you're ready to celebrate.
I got pregnant at 19 with a guy I had dated in the past but had broken up with and hooked up with one night. It was a really sucky situation because he was abusive and my parents HATED him and didn't know 1) I was even sexually active 2) that I was seeing him somewhat again.
Now I have a healthy 3 year old, married to an amazing man and trying for our 2nd!
Life throws curve balls but depending on what you do with what you're given, it can be the best thing that's ever happened!
Keep us updated and know you have a ton of support on here!



 
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