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Old Oct 15th, 2015, 10:16 AM   11
candicelayla
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Good morning. Figured I'd update again. My bladder had gotten me awake… again. I dont know about you guys, but it seems like after I got my positive on a home pregnancy test, I've had to pee more often than usual, lol. But I did get to talk to mom after she came home and she managed to get me an appointment with my doctor this morning to confirm I'm pregnant. I dont know though if it would be too early to see the OB though. My moms a sweetheart and picked me up some prenatal vitamins. Ive started taking them along with a multivitamin.

I also told one of my besties I was pregnant as well. She huggedme and told me that she still thought I was one of the best and that I am like a sister to her. She also was telling me her 17 year old sister is pregnant as well and further along too. So this could be interesting.

I also look for my boyfriend to break up with me. I was checking my email on my phone and I got a scathing email from his mother which brought me to tears . She basically told me I was worthless, will be a welfare bum, that I'm nothing but a cheap tramp and some other not so nice stuff [Admin edited as per the forum rules] I feel I need to do this to prove I'm strong and I can do this. Plus shes doing this when I'm trying to quit smoking so the baby has the best chance. I think shes trying to drive me nuts.



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Old Oct 15th, 2015, 18:55 PM   12
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I just want to say, for next time so you're smarter. You can get pregnant even if your partner pulls out ( currently pregnant with my 4th baby from this ) but im a lot older and married now. If you have sex a few times in a day there will be sperm that can escape. Condoms and birth control is a smart choice.
You're only 14, having a baby is huge at your age, not many, if any 14 year old father's will step up and take on that roll. So if you're choosing to keep the baby prepare yourself to be a single mum. You're lucky you have such supportive parents and i wish you all the best. Don't be afraid to talk all your worries and concerns to your patents



 
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Old Oct 16th, 2015, 11:35 AM   13
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Just ignore his mother for the time being, I mean it's understandable that she could be shocked and disappointed but behaving the way she has is just unnecessary and helpful to nobody.

It's great your parents are being so supportive, it really does make all the difference. X



 
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Old Oct 16th, 2015, 14:36 PM   14
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First off

Second: The way his mother spoke to you is absolutely unacceptable. Don't let her get to you. She can't accept the fact that two people made this baby, and it's just easier for her to blame just you and not her son. It's not right, it's not cool, and you shouldn't take it to heart my dear.

Lean on your parents. Come here and talk to us. We all have your back hun.

Have you thought of options? Do you plan to keep the baby? Put it up for adoption? What are you hoping to do?

Please keep us posted on how the doctor appointment goes .



 
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Old Oct 16th, 2015, 19:00 PM   15
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agree with the pp regarding your boyfriend's mom. it is oh so much easier to blame it all on you that admit to herself that she has failed as a parent (because for her, him screwing up is her personal failure at parenting).

try not to take it personally, whatever she wrote. it is an immature, impulsive reaction to a shocking news, and there's nothing for her to be proud of there.

your parents and your best friend sound really sweet and supportive, and maybe the fact that your best friend's sister is also expecting could make your pregnancy feel less lonely. you'd also have someone to share the motherhood days with later, in case you decide against adoption. which is a great thing to have in real life, as i think most teen moms find themselves really lonely and isolated from their friends from this point of view. other teens worry about standard teen stuff, while you get to raise a baby, and adult moms can't really relate as their whole living situation is much different.

have you told your mom about this email? i think she should know, because it would only be fair for an adult to confront an adult in this kind of situation.



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Old Oct 16th, 2015, 19:04 PM   16
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ps. and if your boyfriend decides to break up with you and decides not to be in the life of his child either, it is HIS loss. not yours.

For you it will be loads of tough work and lots of things to prove, but you will also grow as a person (and you're already doing it by acting responsibly and telling your parents, going to docs, etc), one step at a time. and somewhere in the future, it will be way easier for you to find a new relationship to a man who is gonna love both you and your child, then for your now boyfriend to rebuild a relationship to his kid, in case he decides to run away completely now.



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Old Oct 16th, 2015, 19:25 PM   17
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I am SO GLAD you told your parents and they were so supportive. That's wonderful and you will definitely need that.

The way that your boyfriend and his mother are speaking to you is completely inappropriate. I agree with PP to let your parents know what his mother said to you. No adult should be speaking that way to a 14 year old. It is completely inappropriate, no matter how upset she is about the situation. After all, you did not get pregnant on your own. Her son had a little bit to do with that! ;-)

You sound like a wonderful person and I hope things work out well for you! Please keep updating us here. Xoxo



 
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Old Oct 17th, 2015, 10:00 AM   18
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Good morning guys. Thank you so much for the love and support you've shown me. I love you guys.

This blah, sick feeling is driving me nuts. I hate that I cant keep much down right now and that most smells are making me sick. However for some reason I'm craving peanut butter and pickles. The first time I requested it, it made my moms face scrunch up like she sucked on a lemon. Which was hilarious. Is there anything I can do to keep myself from feeling so sick? Also I'm noticing I'm devloping a bit of a soft, like speed bump protruding from my belly. Im starting to get excited this could be the start of my baby bump. Is this baby or bloat? If it helps, I just became 7 weeks.

I took you guys advice and showed my mom the email from his mom. She was livid. She said it would be taken care of. But, when I came home from school yesterday, which was hell because my "boyfriend" started spreading the word im pregnant, I got another email from his mom that said I cant see my boyfriend until I become "unpregnant".I know that she never really liked me, but she's being ridiculous.
I'm not punishing my baby because of our irresponsibility. If anything, shes making me more determined to keep my baby. Am I crazy?



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Old Oct 17th, 2015, 11:06 AM   19
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Sorry you are having morning sickness, I can relate. I'd think at 7 weeks it's.much more likely to just be bloat than anything else- going by my own experience anyway!

Glad you have your mother's support with regards to your boyfriend's mother. She sounds awful, just try not to talk to her or have anything to do with her for the time being. It's great you're using the negativity to feel more determined



 
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Old Oct 17th, 2015, 12:57 PM   20
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sorry about the morning sickness. but regarding your bf's mom and the way he is acting in school - again, tell your parents. also about the new email.

and for the school - can you schedule a meeting with your school councilor? maybe even with your parents there in case your councilor wants them present too? the sooner you make a plan regarding your schooling the better, and also your mom and dad may appreciate that, to see that you ain't giving up on those things because of the baby. and bring up the fact that he's been telling everybody in school. he doesn't have to support you but he also doesn't need to make it harder on you, and he definitely has no one in his family to offer him a good example on how to act and behave (seeing what his mom writes).



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