*gentle hug* sorry to hear you're having a tough time. Normal in these circumstances but us saying so it doesn't make it any easier or comforting I'm sure. Sorry you dream of a happy family didn't work out and your ex is being a jerk.
Have you considered adoption? It would allow you to sort out your life, and have your own happy family when you're at that point in your life, when your life is more stable and you are ready and willing to have children.
Finally just a quick suggestion that you read up on 'focus on the family' before deciding to call them. I personally disagree with their approach to teen pregnancy. You'll be pushed/pulled in 10 different directions by people giving you all sorts of advice. What matters is what *you* want.
Oh and please make sure your ex supports the child too! He is as much the parent as you are, regardless on him wanting to keep partying as before
you truly do sound depressed dear, prenatal depression or however you call it, but you need to seek a therapist of some sort. try maybe talking to your mom and approaching your OB/GYN together, they definitely deal with women in your situation and could possibly direct you to a good therapist/councilor of some sort.
Focus on the Family is a Christian organization and more than likely anti-abortion, which may be why they seem overbearing to some. Please find somewhere that seems intentional about your needs though.
You do sound like you have depression. There are some anti-depressants which can be prescribed during pregnancy and breastfeeding such as fluoxetine. Maybe you would also benefit from speaking to a counsellor or a psychiatrist. There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking for help so please do not feel ashamed. Pregnancy can be a stressful time with so many conflicting emotions. It is perfectly normal to feel overwhelmed
I was in a somewhat similiar position with DD as I was 18 when she born. I already had mental health problems pre-pregnancy so I felt very emotional throughout. On one hand I did feel excited but on the other I felt extremely confused. I was living with my parents at the time who I did not have a close relationship with, I had lost my job, I was at college and for most of my pregnancy I was on and off with FOB because of his drinking and drug use. I felt similiar to how you do now (regarding the regret, feeling like I was too young to cope with this and that I was throwing my life away). I made plans and stuck to them. I had my daughter, started a foundation degree, moved into my own house and started working night shifts. My daughter is 5 now, I have a wonderful fiance, I'm studying a degree in History, I'm working part-time during DDs school hours, I have been living out on my own for the last 5 years, me and DH to be are saving to move into our own place together in March and we're currently TTC
Anyway, my point is that no matter how bleak and gloomy things look right now... this is temporary and your life WILL get better. Take things at your own pace. Please get some professional help to assist you during this time. Build a strong support network with your family and friends. Take this one step at a time. You will be amazed by what you can achieve by yourself. When you feel mentally strong enough you can start making plans for you and your babies future. Stay strong and remember you're never alone
Hey girl, BIG HUGS to you! You are in a tough spot. I agree with everyone who suggested counseling, it sounds like you need some professional help right now to help get you through this tough time. I also agree with PPs that mentioned adoption. I know it is not what you want right now but at least explore it. Go to some agencies and see what open adoptions are all about, perhaps you can even talk with moms who decided to adopt their children to other families and learn about their experiences. Sometimes the best thing you can do for someone else is the hardest thing for yourself. I think it will be good for you to have all your options out on the table.
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