Well hopefully your parents realize that, as others have said, you didn't bring this on yourself. The rape, and correlating pregnancy, ARE circumstances beyond your control. As has been suggested, you need to involve the police. If you are scared to this directly, maybe talk to a school counselor or someone you trust who will help you get the police involved? Just try not to get overwhelmed and also work on getting the life inside you the care that it needs also.
Hi I know things are not ok now but I promise someday they will be again. This is too big to carry on your own , sharing with someone you trust will really help . Do you have a best friend ? Maybe you could talk to her mum ? Telling another adult is a good idea and I bet they will help you talk to your mum and dad when your ready .
What happened was NOT your fault . Getting pregnant was NOT your fault . Yes your mum and dad might be very shocked and very upset at first ( for you not at you ) but I'm sure they will want to be there to help you through this . You must be so scared right now. once you tell just one grown up things will be easier and will get better .
Sending you a big hug
Often when you're in the first trimester you can get morning sickness. No every pregnancy is the same some women are lucky and never got them.
I graduated from school long time ago but I had some friends that where 14, 15, 17 and got pregnant (different years) and they all finished school even after baby has come. Even when they were in a different situation than you and got pregnant accidentally by their boyfriends their parents had come to term with their daughters and help them. So yes you can finish you school.
Please, as soon as you tell you can start receiving help. Have you went to a doctor already? Are you taking prenatal vitamins? Is very important for you and the baby that you take care of yourself.
Please write a letter to someone like a teacher, nurse etc that you trust. Then ask if they'll help you tell your parents. The longer you delay, the harder it will be, the less options you'll have. Yes it will be very hard but you will feel better after - don't try to carry this huge emotional weight on your own *hugs*
I'm really sorry this happened to you. I hope you tell someone soon. This wasn't your fault, please remember that. You might feel better after you tell someone to not be going through this alone. We will be here to support you, but you need an adult in real life that you trust too. Thinking of you and sending big hugs!
I'm so sorry this has happened to you. I was in a similar situation myself at your age too so I understand how frightening this all is for you.
The first person I told was a teacher, my English teacher as I had always got on with her, she was so lovely. I didn't tell her any details, this was before I knew for sure I was pregnant, but I wanted to know much like yourself what the symptoms were and stuff like that and she was helpful and didn't push me for more. She just said I could talk to her if I wanted to. I then spoke to my psychologist and we did a test during the session to confirm and this is when I found out for sure I was pregnant. She told my parents. Unfortunately I didn't have any relationship with them though, so they weren't a source of support for me (or rather, my dad was, but I was being told so many lies by people, I didn't know and I thought he hated me). It was a complicated situation.
I did report it eventually but it took me a number of years to do so and I can say from experience that sadly this didn't do me any favours, leaving it so long, although he did go to prison. If there's any part of you that feels you can report this person then please try to do this sooner rather than later. It isn't a nice experience but this person shouldn't be allowed to get away with what he has done to you and the police will look after you, they can put you in touch with a wealth of support too. Huge hugs to you x x
I don't know if this has been asked yet, but do you know the boy who assaulted you? Have you sought any action against him? I know it's a great deal of time after the fact, but you need to report this to someone. Forcing someone into sex is a crime, and it will NEVER be your fault that this happened. You're right...you're very young, and your parents will be in shock. However, you will need support, and you do have options...but it's best to tell someone ASAP, so that you can get help both emotionally, and also physically for your pregnancy - no matter how you choose to handle it.
Honey, if you don't tell someone, this boy could very well be raping other people. He must be stopped, and cannot be allowed to get away with this. I know it's frightening, but you have to do it. It doesn't matter who you talk to, as long as it's someone who will listen, and help you take those first few steps. Your parents really must know...
Please keep us updated on how you're doing, and take care.
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