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Old Jun 19th, 2017, 06:01 AM   31
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Well done for having the courage to go to your doctor, that took a LOT for you to do and you should be incredibly proud of yourself right now



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Old Jun 19th, 2017, 08:44 AM   32
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I am also so glad to read that you've seen your doctor, and have received some medical attention. Being that you're so young, and having twins, you will need to be monitored closely...I would begin reading up on having a c-section birth also, as that is often the safest option for delivering twins.

I'm glad you're coming to terms with the need to tell your parents. You need lots of love and support right now...I'm sure it will feel good to open up to them and let this off your chest, no matter their initial reaction.

September isn't too far off, dear. Do you have any ideas as to what you're planning to do once the girls arrive? Are you wanting to keep and parent them with help, or have you any thoughts on adoption?

If you're wanting to keep the babies, do you have any baby supplies or equipment? Babies don't need a lot of fancy stuff...clothes, diapers of some sort, a safe place to sleep, and YOU. You will also need a carseat or stroller/pram travel system/baby carrier depending on how you get around. Just some things for you to think about...as if you didn't have enough, right?

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Big well done to you for letting the doctor know. And congratulations for your twins xx



 
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Old Jun 19th, 2017, 16:32 PM   34
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I am also so glad to read that you've seen your doctor, and have received some medical attention. Being that you're so young, and having twins, you will need to be monitored closely...I would begin reading up on having a c-section birth also, as that is often the safest option for delivering twins.

I'm glad you're coming to terms with the need to tell your parents. You need lots of love and support right now...I'm sure it will feel good to open up to them and let this off your chest, no matter their initial reaction.

September isn't too far off, dear. Do you have any ideas as to what you're planning to do once the girls arrive? Are you wanting to keep and parent them with help, or have you any thoughts on adoption?

If you're wanting to keep the babies, do you have any baby supplies or equipment? Babies don't need a lot of fancy stuff...clothes, diapers of some sort, a safe place to sleep, and YOU. You will also need a carseat or stroller/pram travel system/baby carrier depending on how you get around. Just some things for you to think about...as if you didn't have enough, right?

We're here. Please continue to keep us updated.
100%. I think OP is pretty amazing. I wasn't anywhere close to as brave when I was in a similar situation at her age.
OP I hold my hands up to you. You took such a huge step and the outcome was so positive, your doctor is clearly a good woman in full support of you which is excellent. Perhapd she could be with you when you tell you parents? I'm sure it could be arranged, and since you have her support and clearly trust her, I think she may be a good person to have with you. Everyone needs someone to hold their hand sometimes, even me in my thirties still get scared of certain situations! It's ok to ask for help



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Old Jun 23rd, 2017, 01:10 AM   35
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You will still need to tell your parents. They need to be aware. They won't be angry with you at all and you will need their support and advice what ever you choose to do with your babies. Letting your parents know is vital because you will need to get to hospital when labour starts. Secondly, your mother will be able to answer any questions you may have about pregnancy or labour as well as make sure you and your pregnancy is progressing safely. Remember, pregnancy, labour and birth is a natural event in a woman's life but sometimes things can go wrong. I'm not trying to scare you by any means. But sit down, explain what has happened to Mum and Dad. It's best for you and your babies. Best of luck OP.



 
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Old Jun 23rd, 2017, 07:08 AM   36
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For what it's worth, OP, if I was your mum all I would want to do is cuddle you and protect you. I'm a mother to a teenage boy and an almost teenage daughter, and younger children too. If any of them came to me in your situation I would be devastated they had been put through rape, but I would fully support them in whatever they wanted to do regarding that and regarding the babies. All I would want to do is comfort them and help them. There isn't an ounce of me that would, or could be angry at them



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Old Jul 6th, 2017, 03:33 AM   37
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Well getting a doctor involved is a huge step forward. Just remember that carrying twins means that you will stretch more and need a LOT more rest. If you start school later this year pregnant, it will be a challenge. I will support you however I can like everyone else on here.



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How are you doing OP?



 
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Old Sep 11th, 2017, 05:11 AM   39
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Honestly? I don't know... I'm feeling very nervous lately, because my due date is getting closer and closer and the twins haven't been born yet. I'm getting worried...
Also, I have told my parents about it... And now I wish I hadn't. At first they began to laugh, they didn't believe me. But then they got mad at me for not telling them, for lying, for not doing anything against the rape. I didn't want to listen anymore and I ran to my room, crying...
I didn't know what I had expected, but part of me was hoping that they would support me... They later said that they didn't want to have anything to do with the twins, and that I shouldn't count on them to support me...
I don't know what I should do now. I haven't told my doctor about this yet. Also school has started again, and it's worse than last year. I failed my class and I have to do it over now, but it's more work and it's quite stressful...
Oh God, I really don't know what I should do next. I decided that I want to give the twins up for adoption, but I don't know if I need my parents' permission to do that...



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Old Sep 11th, 2017, 09:18 AM   40
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Well, first, don't worry about the babies not having been born yet. The closer to your due date that you get, the heathier the babies will be! Are you seeing your doctor pretty consistently?

I am so very sorry to hear about how your parents reacted. A rape is in NO way your fault, and to ask why you didn't "do anything" against it is a very sad and unfortunate way to react. I do understand their feeling upset at the lying, it's a lot for anyone to take in- but to leave you alone to deal with this is, in my opinion, a terrible, heartbreaking decision. Are they still allowing you to live with them? If not, is there someone you know (family or friend) who would be willing to take you in for a while?

Finally, adoption is a wonderful idea. There are so many couples out there who would absolutely love a child but can't have one. I'm not sure how it works where you are, but what I would suggest is going to a counselor (is there one at your school you can talk to?) and also tell your doctor that you're considering adoption. They should be able to give you all the information you need.

I am so sorry you're going through this. I know you have so much to worry about right now, but the sooner you do this the better. (Before those babies are born).



 
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