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Old Jul 31st, 2018, 21:52 PM   11
MissMarpleFan
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Can you try to imagine what your dad might be feeling underneath his anger? If you have a daughter, will you be ready and wanting to become a grandmother in 15 years?

I think your father will come around eventually, but it will help the healing between you if you can try to put yourself in his shoes and understand where his feelings are coming from. In the mean time, I’d give him (and you) some space.



 
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Old Jul 31st, 2018, 22:31 PM   12
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I mean I can totally understand where he is but I dont know i just cant help but let the mean things that he said to me get to me. Like some of it was really mean and then to tell my mom that I just have to deal with it. Like I already know I made a mistake I've known for 3 months that's why I didnt tell them. If I have a little girl I will make sure she learns from my experience. I dont think of my baby as a mistake, the mistake was the one time having sex with out protection. I try and see how my dad feels and I feel like I do but I also just cant stop crying as his child. I



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Old Aug 2nd, 2018, 18:19 PM   13
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I've been feeling very down and depressed the past couple days and I just cant seem to get out of it at all. I have my first real doctors appointment tomorrow. I was going to the clinic but they wouldn't do ultrasounds cause I didnt have a parent with me but they did prescribe my prenatal. Kalebs mom got me and appointment with her doctor. But even the thought of getting to see my baby hasn't been able to make me feel better. I feel like all I do all day is sit here and cry I dont know what else to do. I can see Kaleb beginning to worry about me but I cant help it. Any advice on how to feel better?



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Old Aug 2nd, 2018, 18:35 PM   14
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I've been feeling very down and depressed the past couple days and I just cant seem to get out of it at all. I have my first real doctors appointment tomorrow. I was going to the clinic but they wouldn't do ultrasounds cause I didnt have a parent with me but they did prescribe my prenatal. Kalebs mom got me and appointment with her doctor. But even the thought of getting to see my baby hasn't been able to make me feel better. I feel like all I do all day is sit here and cry I dont know what else to do. I can see Kaleb beginning to worry about me but I cant help it. Any advice on how to feel better?
I remember feeling the same in the first couple of weeks after telling my parents, the stress of their reactions ontop of being so young and pregnant was really tough. Try keep yourself busy, even when you really don't want to, going out on walks etc can help keep your mind off things, even if only for a short while. Good luck at your appointment! I hope you start feeling a bit better soon but it might also be worth mentioning how you're feeling at your appointment.



 
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Old Aug 8th, 2018, 11:06 AM   15
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Hi x my sister got pregnant at 19 and I remember my Dad telling her she ruined her life and she needed to get an abortion or she'd amount to nothing. She went for the appointment, found out she was having twins and left. They are now 10 years old, she is married to another man and owns her own tattoo shop. It hasn't ruined her life at all although I wont lie and say it wasn't hard because it was. I was actually 18 at the time and I tried to be with her as much as possible and stayed with her for about a week after she came home to help her. Can you reach out to your sister for support, she has gone through this.



 
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Old Aug 14th, 2018, 15:24 PM   16
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I agree with giving your dad and yourself some space, it is a lot for him to take in and you being around him just now is not good for you. Try and do things to take your mind off things and keep things as normal as possible, your dad will come around eventually. Good Luck



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