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Old Jul 24th, 2018, 22:26 PM   1
Sky0818
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My name is Skylar. I will be 15 in a few weeks and I'm about 3 months along in my pregnancy. I havent told my parents yet I've been hiding it but its getting harder to hide. I told my boyfriend and he wants me to tell my parents and his because we are going to need support I'm scared cause my sister got pregnant at 17 and my dad flipped out and kicked her out for 3 months he eventually came around but they always tell me to make better decisions than my sister. I want trying to get pregnant we used protection every time except one time we ran out of condoms and I figured one time wouldn't be a problem now I'm in this situation. I'm only gunna be a sophomore in hifmgh school how am I supposed to do this please any advice.



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Old Jul 25th, 2018, 19:38 PM   2
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I think you should listen to your boyfriend on this one.



 
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Old Jul 26th, 2018, 01:06 AM   3
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You’re going to have to tell your parents eventually. Might as well rip the bandaid off. Since you seem to have decided to keep the baby, they’re gonna notice sooner or later. Tell them now so they have time to be upset, get over it, and come around to help you.



 
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Old Jul 26th, 2018, 04:50 AM   4
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Hello! I was a couple years older but fell pregnant with my first at 16 and had him at 17. It's not going to be fun or easy but you need to tell your parents sooner rather than later, it gives them more time to wrap their heads around the idea. My dad was also NOT happy (I had already moved out though) and didn't mention my pregnancy positively or really talk to me until I was almost 30 weeks, he only fully came around after my son was born but he was estatic. I fell pregnant with my second 10 months later at 18 and I was most scared of my dad's reaction but he gave me a hug and told me it was my life, he wasn't dissapointed in me or whatever. Though that was both me his reaction was a thousand times better the second time, you never know what reactions will be. As for school I have no advice as I left school as soon as I could and fell pregnant after that.



 
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Old Jul 27th, 2018, 09:51 AM   5
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Telling mom and dad


I told my sister about a month ago because I couldn't keep it to myself anymore. I talked to my boyfriend yesterday and we decided to tell my mom and dad Sunday after we tell his parents tomorrow. I'm just hoping that they all take it well. We have decided to keep the baby. My sister said that hopefully my dad wont get as angry as he did with her but that if there are any issues I'm more than welcome to stay with her, so at least I wont end up with no where to go.



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Old Jul 27th, 2018, 15:03 PM   6
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I told my sister about a month ago because I couldn't keep it to myself anymore. I talked to my boyfriend yesterday and we decided to tell my mom and dad Sunday after we tell his parents tomorrow. I'm just hoping that they all take it well. We have decided to keep the baby. My sister said that hopefully my dad wont get as angry as he did with her but that if there are any issues I'm more than welcome to stay with her, so at least I wont end up with no where to go.
I hope it goes well telling your parents. It really is better to get it over and done with.



 
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Old Jul 29th, 2018, 08:20 AM   7
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How did it all go?
Hopefully everything is okay on your end.



 
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Old Jul 30th, 2018, 16:14 PM   8
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So we told my boyfriends parents first and they were totally accepting a little disappointed with us but told us that they would help any way that they can that I am always welcome there. Then we went and told my parents the day after that did not go so well my mom was upset but she didnt yell or anything just looked disappointed. My dad started screaming at me and my boyfriend telling him he should have kept it in his pants and that I should have kept my legs closed. I'm worse than my sister at least she was older he cant believe I went and did this. He kept screaming but I stopped listening at that point because I was balling my eyes out into Kalebs (my boyfriend) chest. My mom kept trying to get him to stop. So I finally screamed fine I'll just go stay at Kalebs. To which my dad screamed good get out. So I packed a bag with clothes and things that I needed. My mom pleaded with me to stay I told her it wasn't her fault but that I couldn't stay there with him acting this way. She gave me a hug and told me she would call me. I left, it just feels like this is my sister all over again. I just dont know of he will come around. My mon texted me today to see how I was feeling. She told me she will let me know when he calms down but she doesnt want me to cut her out of my life cause she wants to be there for me even if my dad doesnt. I told her that it wasn't her fault but i didnt feel comfortable around my dad right now. She was okay with that, me and her I going out shopping tomorrow when my dad is working. I'm staying at Kalebs right now his parents are fine with it they said i can stay as long as I want. I just really hope my dad comes around at some point thinking about him and what he said is really bumming me out.



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Old Jul 31st, 2018, 04:47 AM   9
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I'm so sorry it didn't go well with your dad but it is great everyone else is offering their support and help. I hope your dad just needs some time to come around.



 
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Old Jul 31st, 2018, 20:16 PM   10
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So I went shopping with my mom today I thought it would make things better but it really didnt. My dad called while we were out and when my mom told him she was out with me he started yelling at her that I dug my self into this hole and now i have to lie in it. She took me home after that and I've basically been crying ever since I dont kno what to do...I'm just so upset over all this...plus Kaleb is working a late shift tonight so I'm sitting in his room crying by myself:'(



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