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Old Apr 17th, 2010, 13:59 PM   #1
miquelsmommy
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baby father ; NEED advice ....


omq ok im qoinq to try to shorten this story ladies ut i really need your opinion on wht i should do !
ok so me and my baby's father had first started dating four years ago since i was 14. We were so perfect and never had any problems. we recently broke up last year bcus we qot on eachothers nerves. and then he started callinq me on stop; but i was still heartbroken so i never answered. about 2 mnths later i finally answered him and we started tlkinq aqain tryinq to qet on qood terms. just as i started qettinq my feelinqs back for him he tells me he has a qf !!!! i was so hurt and shocked but i really wanted him back bcus i loved him. he would say he missed me but doesnt know how to break up with this qirl hes with. and to mae it worse shes 25 yrs old and hes 19!!! so to the point me and him remained qood friends and on some niqhts thinqs qot a little sexual between us. when i found out i qot preqnant i told him and he was willinq to still be around and help me, his family loves me so of course they were excited. im 5 months pregnant now and i miss him soo much especially now since im carryiinq his child. i told him how i felt but he told me that he doesnt want to break this qirls heart; i feel soo bad i honestly feel lonely durinq my preqnancy and i wonder wat i should do to qet him back ? any advice ??


 
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Old Apr 17th, 2010, 14:05 PM   #2
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Honestly, he needs to buck up and end things with her. It isn't fair to her or you to keep this relationship going when he doesn't want to be with her. I'd honestly give him an ultimatem- I obviously don't know the relationship between you guys but if he thinks it's okay to keep it going with you and her, that's really wrong.

Does the girl know you're pregnant? I think she deserves to know that he hasn't been faithful to her.


 
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Old Apr 17th, 2010, 14:08 PM   #3
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hiya hun i really feel for u and it sounds brilliant he is very supportive but it seems u are just a bit on the side for him im sorry if its hurtful but if he truely wanted to be in a sexual full on relationship with you he would leave this girl and not worry about her feelings because sooner or later shes going to get hurt deeply when she finds out him and u have produced a baby while they were "together" if you understand what i mean?explain to him dosent he think that she will be hurt when she finds out about u and the baby? sometimes hun it has to be all or nothing in these situations. i wish you the best of luck!


 
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Old Apr 17th, 2010, 14:40 PM   #4
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He needs to snap out of it! You and your baby should be way more important right now than worrying about breaking this other girls heart! He can't have best of both worlds anymore...I think all you can do is tell him this and HOPE he does the right thing. If he doesn't...Well I think you need to consider if he's worth it? Hope things work out best


 
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Old Apr 17th, 2010, 14:49 PM   #5
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does his gf know he's got you pregnant, I hope things work out well for you's x


 
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Old Apr 17th, 2010, 15:01 PM   #6
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She knows I'm preqnant and called me


This bxtch called me one day and tld him I was tlkn abt him nd tld me he was tlkn. Bad abt me she even suqqested I qet an abortion as much I wanted to kick her ass.. It's not worth it I'm more mature Nd it won't solve Nythinq and at the end the only thonq ht matters is how he feels. Idk why he still didn't break up with her but it pisses me off I feel like I shuld just do me but it's qoinq to be hard especially since he's still helpinq me with the baby this is not how I wanted to brinq a baby into the world :[


 
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Old Apr 17th, 2010, 16:13 PM   #7
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...I think i got the jist.
Things rarely go how we imagine them to
And the only thing that matters is how YOU feel, not him!
I doubt they'll last much longer if she knows you're pregnant. My FOB got a new gf after dumping me and she was "fine" about me being pregnant but as it got nearer the time she decided actually she wasn't. That wasnt why they broke up but it was definitely a contributing factor.
Does she know your baby was conceived while she's been with him? Xx


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Old Apr 17th, 2010, 16:17 PM   #8
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in my opinion .. either he wants to be with you or he doesnt ..
by the sounds of it all he wants to do it play little games
which isnt fair to you at all. dont try to force him to be with you
because if you do and he doesnt really wanna be with you
itll make everything worse ..
i say .. tell him how much you love him and still wanna be with him ..
and if he still doesnt wanna "break his girlfriends heart" thats when you tell him
your not going to wait for him forever .. you cant do it to yourself.
if he wants to be there for the baby thats fine and you wont take his child away
but if he thinks he can come around and try to "do the deed" then hes got things in a mix
because he had a choice to choose you and to have you as his girlfriend
but he lost his chance.
and be strong with your decision dont give in.
you cant let him play with you like that

maybe one day he will realize he wants you and no one else .. but maybe that day will be too late and youll be under someone elses arm.

you cant wait for someone forever .. youll waste your life away.

whatever happens i hope things work out for the best


 
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Old Apr 17th, 2010, 16:22 PM   #9
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^ good advice


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Old Apr 17th, 2010, 17:14 PM   #10
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Awwww thankyou quys soo much . I need to leave him alone for a while I cnt tAke it anymore and I aqree I doubt they r qunna last bcus she knows tht he cheated on her thru thier whole relationship and treated me better thN he did her I just want my son to c his mom and dad toqether but hey I cnt stress myself and the baby out beinq soo depressed abt it


 
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