Would you ever, under any circumstances, put your child up for adoption? - Page 2

krys · Aug 4th, 2011, 23:09 PM

Never

Chelsea.ann1 · Aug 4th, 2011, 23:25 PM

I DID consider adoption...

A little earlier in my pregnancy I took a look at how much I loved my daughter in such a way that I still don't know how to cope.... It's indescribable.... Than I looked at my life, where it's going, who I am, who I want to be, and what I have to offer her...

Honestly if I didn't have so much support and I wasn't so confident that I could provide her with everything she deserves... I would have looked into it more...

All because I love her... and usually I'm a selfish person but my love for her is so selfless...

Leah_xx · Aug 4th, 2011, 23:56 PM

I thought about adoption at one time because i thought to myself can i really do this? can i give her everything she needs?
then i went YES i can. it may not be the most expensive but i can give her everything she needs. its going to be tough but i love her so much.
Well here i am and Gracelynn is almost 10 months old.

x__amour · Aug 5th, 2011, 00:33 AM

I think it's a wonderful thing I don't think I could, tbh...

HarlaHorse · Aug 5th, 2011, 01:03 AM

My family has been so supportive and so has my OH, I have so many supportive friends. Honestly, I'd be crazy if I even considered adoption. My whole family would be so upset and disappointed in me, and my mum would probably want to adopt my baby. So, in my situation, no I would not ever, ever consider it an option. But then again, I'm not against it. It does amazing things for other people, if you don't think you can give your baby his/her all, then maybe someone else will be quite happy to. Like the last series of Teen Mom, with Caitlin and Tyler. Putting myself in their shoes, they didn't have the best family so adoption may have been the smartest option, although I don't understand one bit; his mum was really supportive?

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Lucy22 · Aug 5th, 2011, 03:21 AM

If I were single, with no assistance from family, nowhere to live and no job, I'd like to think I'd be selfless enough to give LO up for adoption, to give her the life she deserves.

I don't think I could actually do it, as selfish as it sounds. But I admire those that make the decision to do it..I just don't think I could.

HarlaHorse · Aug 5th, 2011, 03:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Lucy22

If I were single, with no assistance from family, nowhere to live and no job, I'd like to think I'd be selfless enough to give LO up for adoption, to give her the life she deserves.

I don't think I could actually do it, as selfish as it sounds. But I admire those that make the decision to do it..I just don't think I could.

It would be SO hard. You have to carry that baby for 9 months, feel bub kick, feel bub get the hiccups, then give birth to that very same baby, then part with them

that would be so difficult.

Chelsea.ann1 · Aug 5th, 2011, 03:37 AM

Just cause somethings hard doesn't mean it's impossible, or not the right choice...
Sometimes for some people it's what's right and I have so much respect for them, it's such a loving, selfless act IMO.
It's realizing you want better for your LO than your able to provide and giving them just that because you love them.
The easy way out isn't always the best way out KWIM?

aidensxmomma · Aug 5th, 2011, 03:42 AM

If my situation was a lot different and I had no support, no where to live, no help at all, then I would definitely consider it. I would have to know from the start of my pregnancy that I was going to go through with an adoption that way I could prepare myself iykwim?

Aug 4th, 2011, 23:09 PM	#11
krys Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: NV, US Posts: 2,244	Never

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Aug 4th, 2011, 23:25 PM	#12
Chelsea.ann1 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 1,533	I DID consider adoption... A little earlier in my pregnancy I took a look at how much I loved my daughter in such a way that I still don't know how to cope.... It's indescribable.... Than I looked at my life, where it's going, who I am, who I want to be, and what I have to offer her... Honestly if I didn't have so much support and I wasn't so confident that I could provide her with everything she deserves... I would have looked into it more... All because I love her... and usually I'm a selfish person but my love for her is so selfless...

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Aug 4th, 2011, 23:56 PM	#13
Leah_xx Other Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2010 Location: Ohio Posts: 3,708	I thought about adoption at one time because i thought to myself can i really do this? can i give her everything she needs? then i went YES i can. it may not be the most expensive but i can give her everything she needs. its going to be tough but i love her so much. Well here i am and Gracelynn is almost 10 months old.

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Aug 5th, 2011, 00:33 AM	#14
x__amour Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Colorado Posts: 16,568	I think it's a wonderful thing I don't think I could, tbh...

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Aug 5th, 2011, 01:03 AM	#15
HarlaHorse Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Bundaberg, Qld Posts: 2,228	My family has been so supportive and so has my OH, I have so many supportive friends. Honestly, I'd be crazy if I even considered adoption. My whole family would be so upset and disappointed in me, and my mum would probably want to adopt my baby. So, in my situation, no I would not ever, ever consider it an option. But then again, I'm not against it. It does amazing things for other people, if you don't think you can give your baby his/her all, then maybe someone else will be quite happy to. Like the last series of Teen Mom, with Caitlin and Tyler. Putting myself in their shoes, they didn't have the best family so adoption may have been the smartest option, although I don't understand one bit; his mum was really supportive?

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Aug 5th, 2011, 03:21 AM	#17
Lucy22 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 2,933	If I were single, with no assistance from family, nowhere to live and no job, I'd like to think I'd be selfless enough to give LO up for adoption, to give her the life she deserves. I don't think I could actually do it, as selfish as it sounds. But I admire those that make the decision to do it..I just don't think I could.

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Aug 5th, 2011, 03:37 AM	#19
Chelsea.ann1 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 1,533	Just cause somethings hard doesn't mean it's impossible, or not the right choice... Sometimes for some people it's what's right and I have so much respect for them, it's such a loving, selfless act IMO. It's realizing you want better for your LO than your able to provide and giving them just that because you love them. The easy way out isn't always the best way out KWIM?

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Aug 5th, 2011, 03:42 AM	#20
aidensxmomma Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2008 Location: Wisconsin, U.S. Posts: 3,503	If my situation was a lot different and I had no support, no where to live, no help at all, then I would definitely consider it. I would have to know from the start of my pregnancy that I was going to go through with an adoption that way I could prepare myself iykwim?

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