A little earlier in my pregnancy I took a look at how much I loved my daughter in such a way that I still don't know how to cope.... It's indescribable.... Than I looked at my life, where it's going, who I am, who I want to be, and what I have to offer her...
Honestly if I didn't have so much support and I wasn't so confident that I could provide her with everything she deserves... I would have looked into it more...
All because I love her... and usually I'm a selfish person but my love for her is so selfless...
I thought about adoption at one time because i thought to myself can i really do this? can i give her everything she needs?
then i went YES i can. it may not be the most expensive but i can give her everything she needs. its going to be tough but i love her so much.
Well here i am and Gracelynn is almost 10 months old.
My family has been so supportive and so has my OH, I have so many supportive friends. Honestly, I'd be crazy if I even considered adoption. My whole family would be so upset and disappointed in me, and my mum would probably want to adopt my baby. So, in my situation, no I would not ever, ever consider it an option. But then again, I'm not against it. It does amazing things for other people, if you don't think you can give your baby his/her all, then maybe someone else will be quite happy to. Like the last series of Teen Mom, with Caitlin and Tyler. Putting myself in their shoes, they didn't have the best family so adoption may have been the smartest option, although I don't understand one bit; his mum was really supportive?
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Just cause somethings hard doesn't mean it's impossible, or not the right choice...
Sometimes for some people it's what's right and I have so much respect for them, it's such a loving, selfless act IMO.
It's realizing you want better for your LO than your able to provide and giving them just that because you love them.
The easy way out isn't always the best way out KWIM?
If my situation was a lot different and I had no support, no where to live, no help at all, then I would definitely consider it. I would have to know from the start of my pregnancy that I was going to go through with an adoption that way I could prepare myself iykwim?
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