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Old Oct 2nd, 2011, 14:51 PM   1
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When did you get excited about baby?


So, for those of you who had completely unplanned pregnancies, when did you finally start getting excited about it? I'm asking specifically about unplanned pregnancies because I would think someone who planned their baby would be excited from the start. Anyone can feel free to comment. I just see so many of you who are so happy and positive about your babies and I feel like I'll never get there. Did it take you a while to accept your pregnancy and get excited about it? Is there something wrong with me if I never really feel happy or excited over this baby?



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Old Oct 2nd, 2011, 15:01 PM   2
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I started getting excited around 18 weeks or so when I found out the sex, it just felt so much more realistic when I knew it would be a boy. Plus at 18 weeks I told my boss which took a big weight off my shoulders. When I was 24 weeks I found out my LO would be born with a cleft lip which really broke my heart, I really regret feeling this way now, but I hated being pregnant when I found that out and started not being excited anymore. I probably felt completely happy about pregnancy at 32 weeks. Then at like 36 weeks I felt like a swollen whale and start hating being pregnant again LOL. But you will feel happy about it eventually, I'm not sure how far along you are, but as you get further along you start having more scans, feeling kicks, etc.. you'll love it!



 
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Old Oct 2nd, 2011, 15:01 PM   3
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There's nothing wrong with you at all, it's perfectly normal, pregnancy hormones are just annoying :L
I felt excited when i first found out because it hadn't actually hit me that i was gonna be a mum. But from about 12 weeks onwards, after the first scan, i was so scared and not exactly excited. I hated talking about it and just wanted to forget about it, obviously i knew it wouldn't go away, and i didn't want it to, but i was terrified.

Until about 23 weeks i felt so lonely and down all the time about it, but now I do feel excited, but still have my depressed days where i cry over everything and just want to be on my own.
It's all normal though. I'm sure you'll start feeling better soon x



 
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Old Oct 2nd, 2011, 15:06 PM   4
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i got excited when i got my first ultra sound because i saw my baby, i saw movement and i heard LO's heart beat and it was the most special thing in the world i couldn't even describe how i felt , but when you leave that room with just a picture of your baby to last you weeks it really kills the excitement and for weeks after that i didn't feel pregnant( just looked fat no bump, no movement , no baby items bought) so i just felt like a normal teen again but now the excitement is back because it's getting closer to my gender scan and i get to see my little baby again, i have some stuff bought and im getting bigger,it's all so exciting because it is becoming real.
It doesn't make you a bad person atall that you aren't excited, trust me when you lay eyes on the screen your heart will just melt i swear it is so amazing



 
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Old Oct 2nd, 2011, 15:07 PM   5
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I started getting excited around 18 weeks or so when I found out the sex, it just felt so much more realistic when I knew it would be a boy. Plus at 18 weeks I told my boss which took a big weight off my shoulders. When I was 24 weeks I found out my LO would be born with a cleft lip which really broke my heart, I really regret feeling this way now, but I hated being pregnant when I found that out and started not being excited anymore. I probably felt completely happy about pregnancy at 32 weeks. Then at like 36 weeks I felt like a swollen whale and start hating being pregnant again LOL. But you will feel happy about it eventually, I'm not sure how far along you are, but as you get further along you start having more scans, feeling kicks, etc.. you'll love it!
Maybe part of my problem is that I haven't gone to the doctor yet, I haven't had a scan, part of me feels like it isn't real at all. I don't know.



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Old Oct 2nd, 2011, 15:09 PM   6
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i got excited when i got my first ultra sound because i saw my baby, i saw movement and i heard LO's heart beat and it was the most special thing in the world i couldn't even describe how i felt , but when you leave that with just a picture of your baby to last you weeks it really kills the excitement and for weeks after that i didn't feel pregnant( just looked fat no bump, no movement , no baby items bought) so i just felt like a normal teen again but now the excitement is back because it's getting closer to my gender scan and i get to see my little baby again, i have some stuff bought and im getting bigger,it's all so exciting because it is becoming real.
It doesn't make you a bad person atall that you aren't excited, trust me when you lay eyes on the screen your heart will just melt i swear it is so amazing
I'd be okay if I could just feel normal, but I just think about the baby all the time. All of my thoughts are negative though, which is my main concern. I'd be glad if I could just feel neutral, but I'm just so upset about it all the time.



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Old Oct 2nd, 2011, 15:23 PM   7
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I think I got really excited about the baby when I hit 19 weeks and found out she was a girl, sure I was excited the first time I saw her but like a PP said it felt like it was more realistic that I was actually pregnant. I still have my off days when I wonder if I'm doing the right thing for her and fear creeps in and I think the worst and my excitement crashes but for the most part I'm excited, I get even more excited when I get to buy things for her it just makes me realize even more that I'm pregnant.

Being excited over the baby will come as time goes on you have seeing your baby for the first time to be excited over, hearing it's heartbeat, feeling those first flutters, finding out the gender, feeling actual kicks and plenty other things. It's an exciting process but everyone gets excited at different times. If you think the way you're feeling is wrong (I honestly don't) maybe express your concerns with your doctor when you go in.



 
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Old Oct 2nd, 2011, 15:27 PM   8
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Friday when I felt my first flutter

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Old Oct 2nd, 2011, 15:30 PM   9
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i got excited when i got my first ultra sound because i saw my baby, i saw movement and i heard LO's heart beat and it was the most special thing in the world i couldn't even describe how i felt , but when you leave that with just a picture of your baby to last you weeks it really kills the excitement and for weeks after that i didn't feel pregnant( just looked fat no bump, no movement , no baby items bought) so i just felt like a normal teen again but now the excitement is back because it's getting closer to my gender scan and i get to see my little baby again, i have some stuff bought and im getting bigger,it's all so exciting because it is becoming real.
It doesn't make you a bad person atall that you aren't excited, trust me when you lay eyes on the screen your heart will just melt i swear it is so amazing
I'd be okay if I could just feel normal, but I just think about the baby all the time. All of my thoughts are negative though, which is my main concern. I'd be glad if I could just feel neutral, but I'm just so upset about it all the time.
alot of unplanned pregnancies feel like that, you feel like this is a burden on your life, you are goig to have no life ect you resent the pregnancy but im telling you hunnie when you see that baby you will think to yourself " what the hell was i thinking, this isn't a burden this is my little miracle".
I know its hard thinking about it now thinking this wasn't part of the plan but it will get better and if it doesn't there is always other options - adoption.
If you feel like that there is other options, i couldnt personally do it but i admire people who can it's amazing. I hope you feel better soon



 
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Old Oct 2nd, 2011, 15:32 PM   10
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Well mine was planned but hope you don't mind me commenting. I got excited yesterday finding out she was a girl



 
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