Not wanting my baby - Page 2

jay004 · Mar 7th, 2012, 18:08 PM

I'm so glad I'm not the only who has felt this way! The guilt on top of everything makes it a gazillion times worse, but this makes me a feel a bit better.

Thank you ladies so much

ChesMik4eva · Mar 7th, 2012, 19:22 PM

Hey love, I'm really sorry you're feeling like this. I would most definitely look at some options of people you can talk to about these feelings, start by telling your midwife. She might be able to suggest a counsellor or someone that specialises in this. Post natal depression isn't something you want so it's better to start taking steps about it now, before you're overwelmed with caring for a newborn as well.

The hormones really don't help, and even though I planned my pregnancy there are still days where I feel like I've made a mistake and wonder how on earth it's all going to work. We doubt ourselves and I don't think there would be a pregnant woman on EARTH who wouldn't have feelings like this. No matter how 'prepared' you think you might be you can never truly understand what it will be like until you're living it. I really wish you the best and please PM me if you want to vent to someone, I'll listen without judging I promise!

Good luck

xx

hanandbump · Mar 7th, 2012, 19:30 PM

I feel the same hun

Linzi_x · Mar 8th, 2012, 04:17 AM

to me that sounds perfectly natural hun, we're all extremely scared of what is going to happen and it is a new experience so you're bound to feel worry!

you should talk to your midwife about it too

they're there to help after all!

Abby_ · Mar 8th, 2012, 04:42 AM

I feel like that some days. I don't really feel like i'm bonded with my LO atm. I think i'm still in denial that i'm about to have a baby!
Like all the other girls have suggested, talk to a midwife or doctor. Depression is pretty common in pregnancy and it might help to talk about everything.
It is normal to have all these worries.

dudettex · Mar 8th, 2012, 08:59 AM

i know exactly how you feel. But atleast you have some support right? All I can say is just do the best you can.. that's pretty much what we all have to do I guess. People judge me often and give me stupid comments to get an abortion. But they don't matter just be the best mom you can be for your little one and stay positive and you can do it. I know it's really scary and it's gonna be hard but I'm sure once you have your little one he/she's the only thing that will matter and everything will be worth it! Having a baby is a precious gift don't forget that =) good luck. if you ever need to talk message me x

green_ · Mar 8th, 2012, 14:52 PM

It's normal to question yourself! Everyone has times where they think they can't do it. Please don't think you are bad. xx

GemmaLeanne · Mar 13th, 2012, 18:33 PM

Iv had days like this recently and im already a mummy to one little girl. I ended up with pre natal depression in the final weeks with my daughters pregnancy so I do suggest talking to someone about how you feel. but I can assure you you wont feel this way when you meet your baby

im feeling right now like I wont be able to be a good enough mummy to raise two babies but it really helps me to keep thinking about how I felt during ky last pregnancy and how my perspective totally changed after she was born. Its alot to take in and the fear of the unknown can be very overwhelming. It will get easier to cope with and things will be clearer once baby is here. This will all just be a memory youll look back on and think how much you underestimated your ability to be a wonderful mummy xx

Rhio92 · Mar 14th, 2012, 06:09 AM

I felt like this, especially from about 30 weeks or so, when it dawned on me that it was real, and there really would be a baby here soon.

But, you get through it. Talk to people hun, your family, doctor, midwife, friends. I cried to my teacher when I stopped going to college at 34 weeks.

Now, I've got a gorgeous 16 month old who I love with all my heart. Stay strong

nicoleJOLIE · Mar 14th, 2012, 08:49 AM

i felt the same way , and i was terrified of my daughter for a couple days .. i wasnt sure i could give her everything she needed i was even scared i'd be suffering PPD . but now shes almost 3 weeks and i wake up at 3 am to feed her and i love every second of it .. .dont worry as soon as you have your little one , you'll fall in love ... PM me if you wanna talk hun

Mar 7th, 2012, 18:08 PM	#11
jay004 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: United States Posts: 236	I'm so glad I'm not the only who has felt this way! The guilt on top of everything makes it a gazillion times worse, but this makes me a feel a bit better. Thank you ladies so much

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Mar 7th, 2012, 19:22 PM	#12
ChesMik4eva Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Darwin, Australia Posts: 1,107	Hey love, I'm really sorry you're feeling like this. I would most definitely look at some options of people you can talk to about these feelings, start by telling your midwife. She might be able to suggest a counsellor or someone that specialises in this. Post natal depression isn't something you want so it's better to start taking steps about it now, before you're overwelmed with caring for a newborn as well. The hormones really don't help, and even though I planned my pregnancy there are still days where I feel like I've made a mistake and wonder how on earth it's all going to work. We doubt ourselves and I don't think there would be a pregnant woman on EARTH who wouldn't have feelings like this. No matter how 'prepared' you think you might be you can never truly understand what it will be like until you're living it. I really wish you the best and please PM me if you want to vent to someone, I'll listen without judging I promise! Good luck xx

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Mar 7th, 2012, 19:30 PM	#13
hanandbump Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: cardiff Posts: 126	I feel the same hun

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Mar 8th, 2012, 04:17 AM	#14
Linzi_x Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Essex, UK Posts: 1,056	to me that sounds perfectly natural hun, we're all extremely scared of what is going to happen and it is a new experience so you're bound to feel worry! you should talk to your midwife about it too they're there to help after all!

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Mar 8th, 2012, 04:42 AM	#15
Abby_ Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 1,868	I feel like that some days. I don't really feel like i'm bonded with my LO atm. I think i'm still in denial that i'm about to have a baby! Like all the other girls have suggested, talk to a midwife or doctor. Depression is pretty common in pregnancy and it might help to talk about everything. It is normal to have all these worries.

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Mar 8th, 2012, 08:59 AM	#16
dudettex Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: new brunswick canada Posts: 490	i know exactly how you feel. But atleast you have some support right? All I can say is just do the best you can.. that's pretty much what we all have to do I guess. People judge me often and give me stupid comments to get an abortion. But they don't matter just be the best mom you can be for your little one and stay positive and you can do it. I know it's really scary and it's gonna be hard but I'm sure once you have your little one he/she's the only thing that will matter and everything will be worth it! Having a baby is a precious gift don't forget that =) good luck. if you ever need to talk message me x

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Mar 8th, 2012, 14:52 PM	#17
green_ Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Posts: 86	It's normal to question yourself! Everyone has times where they think they can't do it. Please don't think you are bad. xx

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Mar 13th, 2012, 18:33 PM	#18
GemmaLeanne Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Coventry/UK Posts: 1,213	Iv had days like this recently and im already a mummy to one little girl. I ended up with pre natal depression in the final weeks with my daughters pregnancy so I do suggest talking to someone about how you feel. but I can assure you you wont feel this way when you meet your baby im feeling right now like I wont be able to be a good enough mummy to raise two babies but it really helps me to keep thinking about how I felt during ky last pregnancy and how my perspective totally changed after she was born. Its alot to take in and the fear of the unknown can be very overwhelming. It will get easier to cope with and things will be clearer once baby is here. This will all just be a memory youll look back on and think how much you underestimated your ability to be a wonderful mummy xx

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Mar 14th, 2012, 06:09 AM	#19
Rhio92 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Nottingham, UK Posts: 5,176	I felt like this, especially from about 30 weeks or so, when it dawned on me that it was real, and there really would be a baby here soon. But, you get through it. Talk to people hun, your family, doctor, midwife, friends. I cried to my teacher when I stopped going to college at 34 weeks. Now, I've got a gorgeous 16 month old who I love with all my heart. Stay strong

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Mar 14th, 2012, 08:49 AM	#20
nicoleJOLIE Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Toronto Posts: 887	i felt the same way , and i was terrified of my daughter for a couple days .. i wasnt sure i could give her everything she needed i was even scared i'd be suffering PPD . but now shes almost 3 weeks and i wake up at 3 am to feed her and i love every second of it .. .dont worry as soon as you have your little one , you'll fall in love ... PM me if you wanna talk hun

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