So, I'm 12w1d. And I'm very excited for this baby, we've been wanting another since November. But I just can't seem to get "connected" with the baby. Iykwim? I know it's really early but last time I felt so connected with LO, I started talking to my "bump" before I even got a positive. Felt her move for the first time at 12w0d. Just "knew" she was there from the start.

But aside from horrid sickness, I don't "feel" pregnant at all. I feel so bad because it makes me feel like I don't "love" this one as much because it just doesn't seem real yet. I just don't feel like I'm having another baby. It's just upsetting me. I know this will change later on when I get huge and he/she is bouncing off my bladder every time I walk and perma-foot in the ribs, but just sad that I don't feel anything emotionally yet. Maybe because I didn't have a LO to run after all day last time?

Pointless thread I guess, just feeling a little down. I want to be overwhelmingly in love with this baby already and I'm not yet My gender scan is in 13 days (almost 12 now ) so I'm hoping seeing him/her dancing around in my tummy will do the trick. I hope it goes really good.

I don't know if it helps but i have sort of felt the same. But i honestly think it has come down to having done it already thats its not just quite as exciting i know what to expect and everything and tbh it feels tiring. It has got a bit better but its hard but i expect by the time shes born or i hold her it will be much better. Honestly we havn't thought of any names yet and feeling like this probably just isn't helping on that front.

Aww. Like you said you probably will feel connected when you get little reminders that LO is there - Like little pokes to begin with and that little butterfly feeling in your tummy I think with you already having your LO you probably are occupied a lot and can imagine it's quite tiring. Pregnancy is tiring just by itself! You'll be okay

Have you any gender feelings? Or preference? Or just happy aslong as they are healthy? it's defo natural worrying about something being wrong on lead up to a scan. I remember that feeling too well!

I honestly think its a girl. (watch me be wrong though, i'm never right about gender haha) I don't care either way! I'm just really hoping to hear "Your baby looks perfect and 100% healthy!"

i know how you feel, dont get me wrong im excited as i get closer about meeting the baby and seeing what it is, but thats about it and i do feel bad about it, and i havnt hidden the fact i want another girl and although i feel bad thinking it, its not that i dnt want a boy i just want a girl iykwim, i think like said we know what we've got to come to an extent. but im sure once we have these babies in our arms there will still be that overwelming love we felt with our firsts

You shouldn't feel bad, I think I only started feeling 'connected' when I was about 16 weeks. But even if I hadn't, I know that sometimes you have to see your baby in scans or when they are born to feel properley connected. It doesn't make you a bad person just shows that you do care.

Is this on and off hun or all the time? I feel this way too and it really scares me. I go for my (quad screening I think it's called) next week. I am also using my doppler constantly because sometimes I really don't feel pregnant and like there isn't a baby there.

I think when I find out the sex it might seem more real to me...we will see.