Thoughts on this situation? - Page 2

xx~Lor~xx · Mar 19th, 2012, 04:08 AM

I feel bad for her, but she shouldn't be demanding anything. I think it's probably best if she does move out as she could be a danger to you and your child, but I'm worried about the children in all fairness. They shouldn't be carted around with her, they need a stable home

danni94 · Mar 19th, 2012, 04:26 AM

In my opinion, you should both leave. Her because of her age, her children (which I can't imagine they have a good life) but I do understand her parents letting her be there, I would do the same for my children although I would also get her proper help with the drugs, or if that didn't work and she was an unfit mother I would make the hard decision to go for custody of the kids. I say you and your husband should leave because it can't be a good environment for you and your baby, I recently moved from my parents into my own place and have never been happier. Depends on your financial situation really, but perhaps you'd be happier in your own family home? But I definately think his sister is more than in the wrong, it's disgusting to act that way, reminds me very much of someone I used to know, and it's safe to say all the children she had were taken from her too. I hope you sort this soon, can't be nice xx

clogsy90 · Mar 19th, 2012, 04:29 AM

im a bit split i can see both sides, i mean you said she was on drugs possibly still on them and alcohol and in that case yes she has brought it on herself and no she sould go, but however you said she is bipolar and i have a friend whose parents are bipolar and she has herself been treated for it and in that case she should be able to go to her parents and have a room when, no offence, its only being used for things that it doesnt need to be. but having said this its not your fault and he shouldnt blame you and be treatening you, esp whilst pregnant. as for the baby shower i would invite her, even if its just to keep the peace, as she could use it as an excuse to kick off, hopefully she will get on her feet and move out before your baby is born.

MrsDani · Mar 19th, 2012, 05:53 AM

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Originally Posted by xx~Lor~xx

I feel bad for her, but she shouldn't be demanding anything. I think it's probably best if she does move out as she could be a danger to you and your child, but I'm worried about the children in all fairness. They shouldn't be carted around with her, they need a stable home

Well her daughter would stay with her dad (which she usually does anyways) and her son will actually be staying with us because we live a block from the school and she is moving somewhere all the way across town and cant drive. And her son prefers to stay here because my husbands parents pretty much raised him, they go to bed with him, get up with him, take him to and from school.

MrsDani · Mar 19th, 2012, 05:58 AM

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Originally Posted by danni94

In my opinion, you should both leave. Her because of her age, her children (which I can't imagine they have a good life) but I do understand her parents letting her be there, I would do the same for my children although I would also get her proper help with the drugs, or if that didn't work and she was an unfit mother I would make the hard decision to go for custody of the kids. I say you and your husband should leave because it can't be a good environment for you and your baby, I recently moved from my parents into my own place and have never been happier. Depends on your financial situation really, but perhaps you'd be happier in your own family home? But I definately think his sister is more than in the wrong, it's disgusting to act that way, reminds me very much of someone I used to know, and it's safe to say all the children she had were taken from her too. I hope you sort this soon, can't be nice xx

Well the thing is her parents DONT want her here, they are the ones that keep kicking her out. They are actually planning to move into a smaller place just so we could have the excuse of not having enough room. They are doing that because its hard for them to say no to her, but they cant handle her anymore. I really wish we could move out (eventhough I adore my inlaws) they are probably the best parents I have ever meet, they are very understanding and supportive. But I dont wanna end up like her if you know what I mean? But unfortunately the economy is crap and is hard finding a job that would support us enough to be able to move out, because Its really expensive in my area.

MrsDani · Mar 19th, 2012, 06:00 AM

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Originally Posted by clogsy90

im a bit split i can see both sides, i mean you said she was on drugs possibly still on them and alcohol and in that case yes she has brought it on herself and no she sould go, but however you said she is bipolar and i have a friend whose parents are bipolar and she has herself been treated for it and in that case she should be able to go to her parents and have a room when, no offence, its only being used for things that it doesnt need to be. but having said this its not your fault and he shouldnt blame you and be treatening you, esp whilst pregnant. as for the baby shower i would invite her, even if its just to keep the peace, as she could use it as an excuse to kick off, hopefully she will get on her feet and move out before your baby is born.

The thing is the parents dont really wanna deal with anymore, they said that there is only so much they can handle and that they have been dealing with this for 17 years. They are the ones that dont want to give her the room, I honestly dont care If she gets the room or not, But I dont really want her here if she is going to cause drama. :/

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Mar 19th, 2012, 04:26 AM	#12
danni94 Active BnB Member Mother of 1 soon to be 2 Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Outskirts of Norwich Country: Posts: 216 Thanked others: 59 Thanked 57 times in 36 posts Currently Feeling:	In my opinion, you should both leave. Her because of her age, her children (which I can't imagine they have a good life) but I do understand her parents letting her be there, I would do the same for my children although I would also get her proper help with the drugs, or if that didn't work and she was an unfit mother I would make the hard decision to go for custody of the kids. I say you and your husband should leave because it can't be a good environment for you and your baby, I recently moved from my parents into my own place and have never been happier. Depends on your financial situation really, but perhaps you'd be happier in your own family home? But I definately think his sister is more than in the wrong, it's disgusting to act that way, reminds me very much of someone I used to know, and it's safe to say all the children she had were taken from her too. I hope you sort this soon, can't be nice xx __________________
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Mar 19th, 2012, 04:29 AM	#13
clogsy90 Active BnB Member mummy of 2 girls Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: lincoln Country: Posts: 858 Thanked others: 147 Thanked 224 times in 219 posts	im a bit split i can see both sides, i mean you said she was on drugs possibly still on them and alcohol and in that case yes she has brought it on herself and no she sould go, but however you said she is bipolar and i have a friend whose parents are bipolar and she has herself been treated for it and in that case she should be able to go to her parents and have a room when, no offence, its only being used for things that it doesnt need to be. but having said this its not your fault and he shouldnt blame you and be treatening you, esp whilst pregnant. as for the baby shower i would invite her, even if its just to keep the peace, as she could use it as an excuse to kick off, hopefully she will get on her feet and move out before your baby is born. __________________
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