Not to be rude but it's a 'damned if you do, damned if you don't' situation. At one stage your son will blame your decision that you make now as the one thing that caused him to act up. So do what you feel is right.
My FOB isn't around. I've spoken to him about two or three times in my pregnancy. He says all the right things, but never acts on them.
The best advice i can give is not to say 'You're never going to be involved', but let him make the first move. If he wants to be involved then he will have to make that effort. Your LO will resent you more if you're the one who has stopped him having his dad around.
If he's not being interested in LO and being horrible to you, I would cut him out, try not to let him ruin the last few weeks of pregnancy and go through courts for access! Then if he's as much of a twat as he sounds, he won't bother turning up or providing for your LO and you'll be entitled to stop access with good reason!
Don't worry bout what his sister thinks or any of his family. That's sad also that your sons aunt is like that... The apple doesn't fall far from the tree I'm guessing with his family? Lol... Don't worry hun you will be and are a terrific mother and your baby boy will always remember that. Do what is right and what you feel. In the end, your son will know it isnt because of you. You can't make his dad do anything. He has to want to. And maybe he will one his son Is born. You never know. Just let him know when is son is coming and when your going into labor. That's all you can do. It's his choice if he is there or not.
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