why do people think..

LittleAngel_x · Apr 9th, 2012, 01:14 AM

Why do people think that all teen mums are or will be ad mothers if we get pregnant in high school..

It irritates me more on how people who have nothing in life ahead of them are the ones saying it..

Like, they say we r going to be bad mums cos we cant afford a baby look after one cos we are still babies ourself etc. When they are teenagers themselves saying this about us?

Least we know we are and can be good mums and give our child as much as we can and all of that.

But i just hate how they dis young mums when any mum can be a bad mum? /:

AddidasBoo · Apr 9th, 2012, 04:46 AM

this is so true people are so judgemental these days like 50 years ago it was perfectly acceptable to have 3 or 4 kids at a young age i find younger girls to slag more than actually judge because they have no idea what there talkin about but older women judging is ridiculas as they no it can be hard for anyone being a parent and just because were young dosent mean we wont be able to handle it.. some teen mums actually cope better than older mums because they understand thier children i just dont get why people feel they need to judge us all the time

fl00b · Apr 9th, 2012, 05:51 AM

yeah totally agree :/ the only thing you can do tbh is walk away with your head up and not so much even look mad or upset!
it's amazing how many people are soon quick to judge, i kept getting hurtful comments from everyone saying i'd be a better mom if i had an abortion which tbh hurt! people never critisize 'older moms', you see more of them on jeremy kyle than anyone else + they're 10 times worse!

MarissaFaith · Apr 9th, 2012, 05:59 AM

because they're ignorant! i'm so tired of people judging young moms! my baby wont think of me as a "teen mom" - I'm just going to be his mom, just like any other mom out there. We sacrifice a lot for our baby's, that should SHOW how responsible teen moms are. I'd give up anything for my baby, but I know plenty of 25 year old mommy's that wouldn't!

Froglet · Apr 9th, 2012, 06:01 AM

I think it's difficult. I know I hated how judgemental some people could be when I found out I was pregnant (aged 15), but now I'm that bit older I can kind of understand that maybe they were just concerned. Being a parent is blummin' hard work whatever age you are, but when you're young and possibly don't have the stability and life experience that a lot of older parents have it's easy for people to think that you're going to struggle. Obviously everyone is different and there are many, many young parents who are flipping fabulous mums and dads, but you can't deny that there are also a lot who just don't have a clue, statistics show that unfortunately

Best thing you can do is try and ignore them and just do the best for your child(ren) x

LittleAngel_x · Apr 9th, 2012, 07:36 AM

i know, it just irritates me.

People i know who are close to me and my family and also my family say i will be a good mum because i have alot of experience with babies as my mum has a c-section in 2007 with Taj and another one in 2009 with Cruz, and with Cruz they had found she had an irregular heart (just before she went in for the c-section a male midwife had found it and he wasnt even supose to be near my mum and was supose to be at a different place, but lucky he was there otherwise we would of never found out) and having a newborn and a 16month old with an irregular heart i help my mum out for about 7-8 months aswell as her cut got infected aswell.
So i have quiet a bit of experience, and i know exactly what i am up for.
My little brothers sometimes come and sleep with me or want me instead of mum. Also call me 'mum' sometimes in the shopping centre and everyone looks at me with weird faces and everything. Cant even check the mail box with out them following, but its cute that they look up to me and love me like they do

muddles · Apr 10th, 2012, 09:30 AM

Just ignore them honey, they are probably jealous of what you have, if as you say they have nothing to look forward to in life.

I'm not a teen mum but I just read a thread (which is now locked) in a different part of this forum and it made me so mad as it was totally generalising all teen mums!

Yes some teen mums may be crap mums but some older mums are crap mums too. Age has nothing to do with it, it's all about how you are as a parent!

Sarahcake · Apr 10th, 2012, 09:38 AM

Not a teen mum (24 and pregnant...im still young right? Hint: Say Yes) But after reading a certain thread that popped up today, I just wanted to say ignore people like that. They spend so much time judging other people that they have no time to live their own lives.
The maker of that thread, too concearned with her rediculous judgments and opinions to enjoy all the awesome things thats happening to her no doubt. Whos the sad one now eh?

But yeah, people are gonna be judging everything you do ever in life, its the same for all of us, just some are more vocal about it. At the end of the day, stick 2 fingers up to them, laugh at how they are wasting their life by being overly concearned for your and carry on

BabyDuy · Apr 10th, 2012, 10:08 AM

Im a teen mom

and extreamly proud of it... i would tell you to just ignore them! I've been told that i am a better mom then some of the moms that are older than me... so some people just dont know what they are talking about! don't worry about them judging you and be the best mommy you can be!!!

tasha41 · Apr 10th, 2012, 11:03 AM

They don't understand and it's not fair... but they DON'T MATTER. Just keep that in mind, and focus on being the awesome mum you know you will be and your life will be much easier/happier AND you'll prove them wrong

Apr 9th, 2012, 01:14 AM	#1
LittleAngel_x Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Melbourne Posts: 1,041	why do people think.. Why do people think that all teen mums are or will be ad mothers if we get pregnant in high school.. It irritates me more on how people who have nothing in life ahead of them are the ones saying it.. Like, they say we r going to be bad mums cos we cant afford a baby look after one cos we are still babies ourself etc. When they are teenagers themselves saying this about us? Least we know we are and can be good mums and give our child as much as we can and all of that. But i just hate how they dis young mums when any mum can be a bad mum? /:

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Apr 9th, 2012, 04:46 AM	#2
AddidasBoo Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Ireland Posts: 237	this is so true people are so judgemental these days like 50 years ago it was perfectly acceptable to have 3 or 4 kids at a young age i find younger girls to slag more than actually judge because they have no idea what there talkin about but older women judging is ridiculas as they no it can be hard for anyone being a parent and just because were young dosent mean we wont be able to handle it.. some teen mums actually cope better than older mums because they understand thier children i just dont get why people feel they need to judge us all the time

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Apr 9th, 2012, 05:51 AM	#3
fl00b Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Birmingham, UK Posts: 2,228	yeah totally agree :/ the only thing you can do tbh is walk away with your head up and not so much even look mad or upset! it's amazing how many people are soon quick to judge, i kept getting hurtful comments from everyone saying i'd be a better mom if i had an abortion which tbh hurt! people never critisize 'older moms', you see more of them on jeremy kyle than anyone else + they're 10 times worse!

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Apr 9th, 2012, 05:59 AM	#4
MarissaFaith Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Virginia Beach Posts: 974	because they're ignorant! i'm so tired of people judging young moms! my baby wont think of me as a "teen mom" - I'm just going to be his mom, just like any other mom out there. We sacrifice a lot for our baby's, that should SHOW how responsible teen moms are. I'd give up anything for my baby, but I know plenty of 25 year old mommy's that wouldn't!

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Apr 9th, 2012, 06:01 AM	#5
Froglet Mum (Mom) New BnB member Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 3	I think it's difficult. I know I hated how judgemental some people could be when I found out I was pregnant (aged 15), but now I'm that bit older I can kind of understand that maybe they were just concerned. Being a parent is blummin' hard work whatever age you are, but when you're young and possibly don't have the stability and life experience that a lot of older parents have it's easy for people to think that you're going to struggle. Obviously everyone is different and there are many, many young parents who are flipping fabulous mums and dads, but you can't deny that there are also a lot who just don't have a clue, statistics show that unfortunately Best thing you can do is try and ignore them and just do the best for your child(ren) x

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Apr 9th, 2012, 07:36 AM	#6
LittleAngel_x Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Melbourne Posts: 1,041	i know, it just irritates me. People i know who are close to me and my family and also my family say i will be a good mum because i have alot of experience with babies as my mum has a c-section in 2007 with Taj and another one in 2009 with Cruz, and with Cruz they had found she had an irregular heart (just before she went in for the c-section a male midwife had found it and he wasnt even supose to be near my mum and was supose to be at a different place, but lucky he was there otherwise we would of never found out) and having a newborn and a 16month old with an irregular heart i help my mum out for about 7-8 months aswell as her cut got infected aswell. So i have quiet a bit of experience, and i know exactly what i am up for. My little brothers sometimes come and sleep with me or want me instead of mum. Also call me 'mum' sometimes in the shopping centre and everyone looks at me with weird faces and everything. Cant even check the mail box with out them following, but its cute that they look up to me and love me like they do

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Apr 10th, 2012, 09:30 AM	#7
muddles Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: UK Posts: 2,951	Just ignore them honey, they are probably jealous of what you have, if as you say they have nothing to look forward to in life. I'm not a teen mum but I just read a thread (which is now locked) in a different part of this forum and it made me so mad as it was totally generalising all teen mums! Yes some teen mums may be crap mums but some older mums are crap mums too. Age has nothing to do with it, it's all about how you are as a parent!

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Apr 10th, 2012, 09:38 AM	#8
Sarahcake Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 2,985	Not a teen mum (24 and pregnant...im still young right? Hint: Say Yes) But after reading a certain thread that popped up today, I just wanted to say ignore people like that. They spend so much time judging other people that they have no time to live their own lives. The maker of that thread, too concearned with her rediculous judgments and opinions to enjoy all the awesome things thats happening to her no doubt. Whos the sad one now eh? But yeah, people are gonna be judging everything you do ever in life, its the same for all of us, just some are more vocal about it. At the end of the day, stick 2 fingers up to them, laugh at how they are wasting their life by being overly concearned for your and carry on

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Apr 10th, 2012, 10:08 AM	#9
BabyDuy Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Ohio Posts: 347	Im a teen mom and extreamly proud of it... i would tell you to just ignore them! I've been told that i am a better mom then some of the moms that are older than me... so some people just dont know what they are talking about! don't worry about them judging you and be the best mommy you can be!!!

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Apr 10th, 2012, 11:03 AM	#10
tasha41 Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: The True North Strong & Free Posts: 25,675	They don't understand and it's not fair... but they DON'T MATTER. Just keep that in mind, and focus on being the awesome mum you know you will be and your life will be much easier/happier AND you'll prove them wrong

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