I'm new, pregnant and scared!

sp92 · Apr 9th, 2012, 10:13 AM

Hi! I'm Sarah, I'm 19 and I found out on Saturday that I'm 4 weeks pregnant. It was definitely a shock for my partner and I as I was on the pill (Marvelon). It hasn't quite sunk in yet for me, I still feel in shock and like it isn't real.

Not told my parents yet, very scared of the reaction.

Really glad I found this forum. Haven't told my friends yet either, so it's good to have somewhere like this to ask questions and chat!

Kim91x · Apr 9th, 2012, 10:19 AM

Welcome and congratulations!

I'm Kim, 20 & 27 weeks pregnant with a little boy.

Wishing you a happy & healthy 9 months! How are you feeling so far? How do you think your friends and family will react?

xx

Linzi_x · Apr 9th, 2012, 10:22 AM

hi sarah! welcome to baby and bump

first of all i'd like to say congratulations on your pregnancy!

my name is linzi and i'm 20 but i was 19 when i found out i was pregnant. i was also on the pill (yasmin) when i became pregnant, it's more common than people think! :P

the worst stage is telling your parents, i'm not going to lie to you, it's very difficult. my mum didn't react well at all but my OH's parents were over the moon - then again, my OH is 27 (26 when we found out) so he is slightly older and 'of age' to have a child. looking back, i couldn't believe how my mum reacted because now she is more excited than me! hehe. it was just the initial shock at first but now all of my family couldn't be more supportive

i didn't find this forum until after i told my parents and it would have been great to have all the support! if you ever feel you need to chat, i'm just a PM away!

Jennaxo · Apr 9th, 2012, 10:22 AM

Hello, welcome to B&b. The girls on here are absolutely brill. I joined early and it helped me so much!
I'm Jenna, 18 and 29 weeks pregnant with my little boy

wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months

sp92 · Apr 9th, 2012, 10:26 AM

Hi Kim.

Thank you!

I'm feeling okay, I'm not really sure how to handle it. I've been quite nauseous already, so not looking forward to the next few weeks! I quit smoking yesterday, so that's definitely a good thing. I just feel a little out of my depth, I'm not too sure what to do next. I'm going to book an appointment with my GP this week, and I guess she'll take it from there!

I think my mum will be disappointed to begin with, but then pretty excited because she just loves kids. My dad won't be happy. I think they'll mostly be concerned with money issues, because I'm living back at home with them right now and I don't have a job yet since I dropped out of uni last year. My partner is just about to graduate uni, so hopefully he'll get a decent job. Think his parents will take it worse than mine!

sp92 · Apr 9th, 2012, 10:29 AM

Thanks Linzi! I know it's going to be really hard to tell them.

I know they'll be supportive, but it's just that initial shock/anger/disappointment that I'm terrified of! I kept nearly blurting it out to my mum in the car today, but I just couldn't get the words out. I haven't even said it out loud yet!

Thanks Jenna. God, I'm so glad this forum exists!!

Jennaxo · Apr 9th, 2012, 10:32 AM

Aww I know the feeling. Just gonna say though, don't be so afraid to tell your parents, you never know how they're going to react. I thought my parents were going to go ballistic, my mum had always told me not to get pregnant young and although I didn't mean to I thought she'd be so disappointed in me because of it, when I told her I cried and was more upset than she was. She was nothing but supportive and has been my absolute rock throughout the whole thing, my dad too has be brilliant. They're your parents, they only want what's best for you, you just have to get it out there, sooner than later. Good luck

Kim91x · Apr 9th, 2012, 10:37 AM

Well done on quitting smoking!

My family was disappointed when I told them I was expecting, mainly because I hadn't been with my OH for long, but were so happy now and they see that and there excitement is amazing! Hopefully once your parents get over the shock they will support you.

We had money issues too, so we decided to move out of our flat (was to small for a baby anyway) and now live with OH's nan to help us save up. My OH is still looking for a job but hopefully something will come up! We've been really lucky and have been getting things from family and friends so our little boy won't go without!

What is your EDD? Have you worked this out yet? I'm due in July but time seems to be going so slow!

sp92 · Apr 9th, 2012, 10:52 AM

Jenna, you're definitely right and I'm glad your mum is so supportive! I know that they'll be okay with it once they've come to terms with it, I just need to grow some balls and say it haha.

Kim, I'm sure they'll come round. My mum knows that we've talked about marriage, so she already knew that things were getting serious. Weird thing is when I told her I smoked (had been a smoker for 5 years, and only told her about a month ago!), she said that she was really disappointed and would rather I had told her I was pregnant! Wee bit ironic haha...

Aw, I hope he finds a job soon! It's so tough just now. My partner lives about 2 and a half hours away, so he's not too happy about having to move over my way, but I told him that there's no way I would move away from my family now, need their support now especially! Really hope he manages to get a grad job.

I'm due December 15th. Feels like forever away, though! July will come so quickly for you! I can't wait to get to the 12 week mark, I'm already terrified of miscarrying. Google is not my friend today.

Jennaxo · Apr 9th, 2012, 11:05 AM

Yeah, it really is a just spit it out job, no delicate way around it

hope it all goes well for you, time will fly before you know it, I remember thinking that June would take forever to come round in october but not I've only got 10 and a bit weeks left!

Apr 9th, 2012, 10:13 AM	#1
sp92 Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Scotland Posts: 542	I'm new, pregnant and scared! Hi! I'm Sarah, I'm 19 and I found out on Saturday that I'm 4 weeks pregnant. It was definitely a shock for my partner and I as I was on the pill (Marvelon). It hasn't quite sunk in yet for me, I still feel in shock and like it isn't real. Not told my parents yet, very scared of the reaction. Really glad I found this forum. Haven't told my friends yet either, so it's good to have somewhere like this to ask questions and chat!

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Apr 9th, 2012, 10:19 AM	#2
Kim91x Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Surrey, UK Posts: 282	Welcome and congratulations! I'm Kim, 20 & 27 weeks pregnant with a little boy. Wishing you a happy & healthy 9 months! How are you feeling so far? How do you think your friends and family will react? xx

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Apr 9th, 2012, 10:22 AM	#3
Linzi_x Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Essex, UK Posts: 1,056	hi sarah! welcome to baby and bump first of all i'd like to say congratulations on your pregnancy! my name is linzi and i'm 20 but i was 19 when i found out i was pregnant. i was also on the pill (yasmin) when i became pregnant, it's more common than people think! :P the worst stage is telling your parents, i'm not going to lie to you, it's very difficult. my mum didn't react well at all but my OH's parents were over the moon - then again, my OH is 27 (26 when we found out) so he is slightly older and 'of age' to have a child. looking back, i couldn't believe how my mum reacted because now she is more excited than me! hehe. it was just the initial shock at first but now all of my family couldn't be more supportive i didn't find this forum until after i told my parents and it would have been great to have all the support! if you ever feel you need to chat, i'm just a PM away!

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Jennaxo Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Norfolk, England. Posts: 1,332	Hello, welcome to B&b. The girls on here are absolutely brill. I joined early and it helped me so much! I'm Jenna, 18 and 29 weeks pregnant with my little boy wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months

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Apr 9th, 2012, 10:26 AM	#5
sp92 Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Scotland Posts: 542	Hi Kim. Thank you! I'm feeling okay, I'm not really sure how to handle it. I've been quite nauseous already, so not looking forward to the next few weeks! I quit smoking yesterday, so that's definitely a good thing. I just feel a little out of my depth, I'm not too sure what to do next. I'm going to book an appointment with my GP this week, and I guess she'll take it from there! I think my mum will be disappointed to begin with, but then pretty excited because she just loves kids. My dad won't be happy. I think they'll mostly be concerned with money issues, because I'm living back at home with them right now and I don't have a job yet since I dropped out of uni last year. My partner is just about to graduate uni, so hopefully he'll get a decent job. Think his parents will take it worse than mine!

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Apr 9th, 2012, 10:29 AM	#6
sp92 Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Scotland Posts: 542	Thanks Linzi! I know it's going to be really hard to tell them. I know they'll be supportive, but it's just that initial shock/anger/disappointment that I'm terrified of! I kept nearly blurting it out to my mum in the car today, but I just couldn't get the words out. I haven't even said it out loud yet! Thanks Jenna. God, I'm so glad this forum exists!!

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Apr 9th, 2012, 10:32 AM	#7
Jennaxo Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Norfolk, England. Posts: 1,332	Aww I know the feeling. Just gonna say though, don't be so afraid to tell your parents, you never know how they're going to react. I thought my parents were going to go ballistic, my mum had always told me not to get pregnant young and although I didn't mean to I thought she'd be so disappointed in me because of it, when I told her I cried and was more upset than she was. She was nothing but supportive and has been my absolute rock throughout the whole thing, my dad too has be brilliant. They're your parents, they only want what's best for you, you just have to get it out there, sooner than later. Good luck

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Apr 9th, 2012, 10:37 AM	#8
Kim91x Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Surrey, UK Posts: 282	Well done on quitting smoking! My family was disappointed when I told them I was expecting, mainly because I hadn't been with my OH for long, but were so happy now and they see that and there excitement is amazing! Hopefully once your parents get over the shock they will support you. We had money issues too, so we decided to move out of our flat (was to small for a baby anyway) and now live with OH's nan to help us save up. My OH is still looking for a job but hopefully something will come up! We've been really lucky and have been getting things from family and friends so our little boy won't go without! What is your EDD? Have you worked this out yet? I'm due in July but time seems to be going so slow!

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Apr 9th, 2012, 10:52 AM	#9
sp92 Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Scotland Posts: 542	Jenna, you're definitely right and I'm glad your mum is so supportive! I know that they'll be okay with it once they've come to terms with it, I just need to grow some balls and say it haha. Kim, I'm sure they'll come round. My mum knows that we've talked about marriage, so she already knew that things were getting serious. Weird thing is when I told her I smoked (had been a smoker for 5 years, and only told her about a month ago!), she said that she was really disappointed and would rather I had told her I was pregnant! Wee bit ironic haha... Aw, I hope he finds a job soon! It's so tough just now. My partner lives about 2 and a half hours away, so he's not too happy about having to move over my way, but I told him that there's no way I would move away from my family now, need their support now especially! Really hope he manages to get a grad job. I'm due December 15th. Feels like forever away, though! July will come so quickly for you! I can't wait to get to the 12 week mark, I'm already terrified of miscarrying. Google is not my friend today.

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Apr 9th, 2012, 11:05 AM	#10
Jennaxo Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Norfolk, England. Posts: 1,332	Yeah, it really is a just spit it out job, no delicate way around it hope it all goes well for you, time will fly before you know it, I remember thinking that June would take forever to come round in october but not I've only got 10 and a bit weeks left!

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