So for anyone who has been paying attention and knows things between me and OH arn't going well, input would be appriciated.

We got into another fight today, this time it started with me being majorly hormonal (thanks pregnancy -.-) and escalated into a much bigger argument. This time I told him if being with me wasn't going to make him happy, then to just stay in Sacramento Which I hate, but I'm tired of feeling like he'd rather do anything else instead of talk or be around me. We both calmed down and talked, and I told him I wished I didn't let myself feel pressured into this because HE wants to be a dad so badly.

I also mentioned I don't know how I am going to do this alone, I will have to put school on hold if I have to stay here (rent and such is SUPER high here) and work full time....And he threatened to take Devlin away from me....I freaked and told him I'd never take him away from him and he said he wouldn't take him away from me. He said that he only would if I couldn't support Devlin, but it still really pissed me off.

Eventually he got the picture on how upset I was -.- and I asked him to decide if he wants to even try to work things out or not. I'm tired of being told "I dunno" ALL the time. He said he does, but I'm not holding my breath to be honest

Guess my question is, how do you even start to repair a friendship? I have never had to before...ever. Especially with someone who used to be my best friend.

I don't have any advice, sorry - you'll get through it though

Thank you. He was kind of infuriating today for the first time, I've rarely ever been mad at him...

I don't have any advice but I can't believe he said he'd take your baby off you when you're feeling like this. I hope things work out for you, and just remember you'll have a beautiful baby soon

I don't know how I'm afraid but I really hope you both find a way to both be happy.

I'm afraid I have no advice hun, but hopefully you can work something out x

Well this is coming from a guy and from my perspective your OH really needs to control his emotions. From what I read it sounded like he is also pregnant too with the way he is responding to you by making ostensible threats. At this time of need he should be supporting you, not stressing you.

Thank you. Honestly, that's something I've thought about, I've heard that father's-to-be sometimes experience similar pregnancy symptoms and tbh I almost wonder if his moodiness is part of it...He gained sympathy weight with me, when my back hurts so does his, when I got nauseas so did he, and oddly enough when I broke out into a rash so did he...He's also usually very aware of his emotions and lately hasn't been at ALL.

This entire pregnancy, after I got to be about 4 months, he has NO Interest in hearing about the stress it is putting on me or how I feel. When I ask for a hug, he just walks away and tells me to find him when I'm done being emotional It's really unlike him....

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I don't have much advice but i can say if my OH said to me to come get him once i'd stop being emotional or threatened to take my baby away from me.. he'd have to come chasing and begging for me to forgive him.

I really hope you and him manage to sort things out.. i know i wouldn't want to do this alone and pregnancy does put a huge pressure on both mum and dad's emotion's i've noticed my OH being alot more emotional aswell.

Just talk things through before it escalates into anything i usually say this is going to end up in us arguing if we don't stop it now and my OH will agree and we'll talk as best we can.

^ Thank you

I just so do NOT get what is up with him lately It's awful. I know I've been different through pregnancy--but duh, my hormones are raging like crazy. Some days it feels like every few hours I had a drunken night just two hours earlier and groan and wonder WHY I said what I said....I have no CLUE what is up with him.

I am grateful that he said he wants to work on things though. I am SO done with being told "I don't know, I haven't decided yet" I'm kind of glad I told him to decide if he wants to TRY to stick this out or not. :/
I get that he misses being friends--we were so close for five years, I miss laughing and playing around and having fun with him too, but /I/ understand that things AREN'T normal right now. I dunno if he isn't dealing with that well?

the only thing I feel better about is that my first pregnancy/miscarriage, when I was pregnant I was f*cking NUTS. As soon as I wasn't anymore, it was like *poof* normal. -.-