really upset :(

MarissaFaith · Apr 11th, 2012, 15:10 PM

I feel like I don't have a home. Like I'm trapped where I am now, and I have no control.
I moved out of my moms house last summer (before I got pregnant) and moved into my boyfriends house with his mom and brothers, and I was really happy then because I wanted to be around my OH all the time.
While I was out of my moms house my older sister, her two kids, husband, and little sister moved into my moms house so it's SUPER crowded now. It's only a little 2 bedroom place.
But now I'm so upset I don't want to live here because it doesn't feel like "home" anymore.. I feel like I'm trapped here because the house is bigger, and my house is small and overcrowded and even my moms house doesn't feel like home. I have no where to go that I can call my own.

I just.. I don't know if it's hormones or not but I can't stop crying, and I hate feeling like this. I just feel like I have no control over my life anymore and I don't want to tell my OH how I feel because I don't want him to feel like I hate him

BigZai · Apr 18th, 2012, 13:09 PM

Just be happy you have shelter thats whats important not a place to call home
If you have everytging you need for lo then Get ove it

I dont want to be harsh but thats what being a parent is about, sacrificing your needs and happiness for you lo
Really just grow up.

tentoes92 · Apr 18th, 2012, 14:21 PM

I know how you feel. I live wih my oh and his parents and they are great but it isn't home. I get so homesick

I feel like I can't even go there anymore. I would love for me and him to have our own place that is neutral, but who knows when we will have the money. I miss my dog and kitties most of all

LittleAngel_x · Apr 18th, 2012, 15:07 PM

im sorry.
Every time i go to OHs i feel awkward, tho last time i was there it was fine. He always asks me when am i staying over but i dont want to and i tell him that. Haha! (he has his own bungalow and i hate it as its outside and you have to walk outside just to use the toilet and i dont wana disturb his family as that toilets freaking loud when it flushes)
I really feel more comphy at my own house if i dont feel 100% and i chuck up id feel so awkward and not know what to do. I know where everything is in my house if i need anything.
OH doesnt really understand and he says he'll look after me but i think its best to be in my own enviroment.

As for you living with your OH, maybe its just your hormoans or maybe you really do feel like you dont feel comfortable there and with you stressing, you stress bubs out too.

maybe you could ask your mum to stay there for a night or two and sleep in her bed with her so you dont sleep on the couch whilst being pregnant?

BigZai · Apr 18th, 2012, 15:36 PM

My reasponse was a little mean but i do get it i live with my mom i am a single mom i dont own a car i am not 100% happy but i try to remind myself of what i do have
Remember the saying

* * *
“I cried because I had no shoes, then I met a man who had no feet.”

MissR · Apr 18th, 2012, 15:40 PM

Ahhhh I really do feel for you. I understand what you must be feeling like. I haven't had a permanent home since I was 12. Moved around 7 times in the last 10 years and have never settled anywhere. I finally got a place of my own which I could settle into a while ago, but now were having LO I'm looking at moving to a bigger place. Can't wait to get a home for us all and finally settle!

Just try not to get too upset over it. I know it's hard... Hormones are probably playing a big part in how your feeling and I'm sure once LO is here, it will feel more like home to you. I hope you start to feel better soon! Sending hugs your way xx

Apr 11th, 2012, 15:10 PM	#1
MarissaFaith Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Virginia Beach Posts: 974	really upset :( I feel like I don't have a home. Like I'm trapped where I am now, and I have no control. I moved out of my moms house last summer (before I got pregnant) and moved into my boyfriends house with his mom and brothers, and I was really happy then because I wanted to be around my OH all the time. While I was out of my moms house my older sister, her two kids, husband, and little sister moved into my moms house so it's SUPER crowded now. It's only a little 2 bedroom place. But now I'm so upset I don't want to live here because it doesn't feel like "home" anymore.. I feel like I'm trapped here because the house is bigger, and my house is small and overcrowded and even my moms house doesn't feel like home. I have no where to go that I can call my own. I just.. I don't know if it's hormones or not but I can't stop crying, and I hate feeling like this. I just feel like I have no control over my life anymore and I don't want to tell my OH how I feel because I don't want him to feel like I hate him

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Apr 18th, 2012, 13:09 PM	#2
BigZai Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Posts: 684	Just be happy you have shelter thats whats important not a place to call home If you have everytging you need for lo then Get ove it I dont want to be harsh but thats what being a parent is about, sacrificing your needs and happiness for you lo Really just grow up.

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Apr 18th, 2012, 14:21 PM	#3
tentoes92 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Posts: 498	I know how you feel. I live wih my oh and his parents and they are great but it isn't home. I get so homesick I feel like I can't even go there anymore. I would love for me and him to have our own place that is neutral, but who knows when we will have the money. I miss my dog and kitties most of all

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Apr 18th, 2012, 15:07 PM	#4
LittleAngel_x Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Melbourne Posts: 1,038	im sorry. Every time i go to OHs i feel awkward, tho last time i was there it was fine. He always asks me when am i staying over but i dont want to and i tell him that. Haha! (he has his own bungalow and i hate it as its outside and you have to walk outside just to use the toilet and i dont wana disturb his family as that toilets freaking loud when it flushes) I really feel more comphy at my own house if i dont feel 100% and i chuck up id feel so awkward and not know what to do. I know where everything is in my house if i need anything. OH doesnt really understand and he says he'll look after me but i think its best to be in my own enviroment. As for you living with your OH, maybe its just your hormoans or maybe you really do feel like you dont feel comfortable there and with you stressing, you stress bubs out too. maybe you could ask your mum to stay there for a night or two and sleep in her bed with her so you dont sleep on the couch whilst being pregnant?

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Apr 18th, 2012, 15:36 PM	#5
BigZai Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Posts: 684	My reasponse was a little mean but i do get it i live with my mom i am a single mom i dont own a car i am not 100% happy but i try to remind myself of what i do have Remember the saying * * * “I cried because I had no shoes, then I met a man who had no feet.”

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Apr 18th, 2012, 15:40 PM	#6
MissR Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Herts, Uk Posts: 567	Ahhhh I really do feel for you. I understand what you must be feeling like. I haven't had a permanent home since I was 12. Moved around 7 times in the last 10 years and have never settled anywhere. I finally got a place of my own which I could settle into a while ago, but now were having LO I'm looking at moving to a bigger place. Can't wait to get a home for us all and finally settle! Just try not to get too upset over it. I know it's hard... Hormones are probably playing a big part in how your feeling and I'm sure once LO is here, it will feel more like home to you. I hope you start to feel better soon! Sending hugs your way xx

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