Absolutely terrified!

Terrapinface · Apr 12th, 2012, 12:53 PM

Is anyone else terrified of giving birth?
I'm 27 weeks + 3 days so have just over 12 weeks left and the closer I get, the more terrified I become! I mean, some of my little ones kicks hurt so god knows how I'm going to cope with labour and birth!?
I keep reading these amazing birth stories and some go really well and some are full of pain and medical interventions that scare me even more.
I'm such a wuss, if my baby kicking me in the ribs hurts, surely labour is going to kill me?! I've always said I only want gas and air but now I'm starting to change my mind. I am absolutely terrified but I know she has to come out somehow!
Sorry, this is a pretty pointless post but I'm really scared

xx

Miss_Quirky · Apr 12th, 2012, 12:55 PM

I was like that too. >.< Honestly, just read and learn as much as you can. The more you know, the more prepared you are....Also, just wait until your last month -.-

I think it's nature's way of making women who are scared of labour not afraid anymore

I am SO uncomfortable, I don't care how he comes out anymore!

Linzi_x · Apr 12th, 2012, 13:39 PM

i'm petrified too. i've just received my Hypnobirthing book by Marie Mongan so i'm going to read that to see if it helps me relax more about it. hopefully it works! hehe, i shall let you know when she's here

Terrapinface · Apr 12th, 2012, 14:15 PM

Oooo well I hope it works for you! Lol. I'm super terrified, god knows how I'll cope lol xx

Miss_Quirky · Apr 12th, 2012, 14:28 PM

A lot of the breathing things they suggest you do are very similar to anxiety breathing, practicing it when you think of labour can help you calm down so you don't get the panic-y feeling every time you think about it.

Try 4-square breathing (my favorite), pick a number (usually 4 or 5) and sit in a quiet place. Think about whatever is stressing you out and slowly breathe in while counting to 4...hold your breath for 4...let it out for 4...and hold it again for 4, and repeat it that way. It helps change how your body is reacting to stress, and eventually it will stop the physical signs which tell your brain that there is no need to panic.
If you do it while focusing on something that really upsets you or stressed you out, you can teach your body NOT to let you panic about it.

Just at thought, helps me a lot

Terrapinface · Apr 13th, 2012, 15:18 PM

Thanks! I'll be giving it a try

xx

Raspberries · Apr 13th, 2012, 17:02 PM

I'm a mum of 1 and expecting my 2nd in August, and I would say go into labour with an open mind, don't decide what pain relief etc you want now, because in the situation you may change your mind. And yes labour and birth does hurt, but its not unbearable, many women do it several times over so its not the worse thing in the world. I had a 41 hour labour where I had every option of pain relief under the sun, but my boy came out fine, and the moment I saw him, the pain was over and almost forgotten, its is so worth it to get to your baby. I saw every contraction as getting closer to meeting my baby, and I could either fight it and just say 'I can't do it' or listen to the midwives/partners advice and breathe through them.

I know its easier said than done, but try not to worry so much, you will get through it and come out the other side with your baby no matter how you get there, the pain has the most amazing end in that you have your baby.

Apr 12th, 2012, 12:53 PM	#1
Terrapinface Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Blackpool, Lancashire - UK Posts: 305	Absolutely terrified! Is anyone else terrified of giving birth? I'm 27 weeks + 3 days so have just over 12 weeks left and the closer I get, the more terrified I become! I mean, some of my little ones kicks hurt so god knows how I'm going to cope with labour and birth!? I keep reading these amazing birth stories and some go really well and some are full of pain and medical interventions that scare me even more. I'm such a wuss, if my baby kicking me in the ribs hurts, surely labour is going to kill me?! I've always said I only want gas and air but now I'm starting to change my mind. I am absolutely terrified but I know she has to come out somehow! Sorry, this is a pretty pointless post but I'm really scared xx

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Apr 12th, 2012, 12:55 PM	#2
Miss_Quirky Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: California Posts: 1,216	I was like that too. >.< Honestly, just read and learn as much as you can. The more you know, the more prepared you are....Also, just wait until your last month -.- I think it's nature's way of making women who are scared of labour not afraid anymore I am SO uncomfortable, I don't care how he comes out anymore!

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Apr 12th, 2012, 13:39 PM	#3
Linzi_x Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Essex, UK Posts: 1,056	i'm petrified too. i've just received my Hypnobirthing book by Marie Mongan so i'm going to read that to see if it helps me relax more about it. hopefully it works! hehe, i shall let you know when she's here

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Apr 12th, 2012, 14:15 PM	#4
Terrapinface Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Blackpool, Lancashire - UK Posts: 305	Oooo well I hope it works for you! Lol. I'm super terrified, god knows how I'll cope lol xx

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Apr 12th, 2012, 14:28 PM	#5
Miss_Quirky Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: California Posts: 1,216	A lot of the breathing things they suggest you do are very similar to anxiety breathing, practicing it when you think of labour can help you calm down so you don't get the panic-y feeling every time you think about it. Try 4-square breathing (my favorite), pick a number (usually 4 or 5) and sit in a quiet place. Think about whatever is stressing you out and slowly breathe in while counting to 4...hold your breath for 4...let it out for 4...and hold it again for 4, and repeat it that way. It helps change how your body is reacting to stress, and eventually it will stop the physical signs which tell your brain that there is no need to panic. If you do it while focusing on something that really upsets you or stressed you out, you can teach your body NOT to let you panic about it. Just at thought, helps me a lot

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Apr 13th, 2012, 15:18 PM	#6
Terrapinface Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Blackpool, Lancashire - UK Posts: 305	Thanks! I'll be giving it a try xx

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Apr 13th, 2012, 17:02 PM	#7
Raspberries Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: West Midlands, England Posts: 372	I'm a mum of 1 and expecting my 2nd in August, and I would say go into labour with an open mind, don't decide what pain relief etc you want now, because in the situation you may change your mind. And yes labour and birth does hurt, but its not unbearable, many women do it several times over so its not the worse thing in the world. I had a 41 hour labour where I had every option of pain relief under the sun, but my boy came out fine, and the moment I saw him, the pain was over and almost forgotten, its is so worth it to get to your baby. I saw every contraction as getting closer to meeting my baby, and I could either fight it and just say 'I can't do it' or listen to the midwives/partners advice and breathe through them. I know its easier said than done, but try not to worry so much, you will get through it and come out the other side with your baby no matter how you get there, the pain has the most amazing end in that you have your baby.

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