So disappointed

tentoes92 · Apr 12th, 2012, 22:25 PM

I have. My first drs appointment tomorrow at ten weeks and I just found out today that not only is my mom not coming but she isn't paying the co pay either which is $356. I knew she wasn't going to be giving me money anymore but I thought she would at least pay my insurance. I can't afford it. The delivery alone has a co pay of $5000. I'm so disappointed. I'm gonna have to cancel my appointment tomorrow and reapply for the Medicaid that I decline
Thinking my mom actually gave two shits about me. Who knows when I'll actually hear babies heart beat now. I hate this and I'm really starting to resent her....

MUM0FTW0 · Apr 12th, 2012, 22:47 PM

This happened to me with my first pregnancy...me and mt mom got huge money settlements for a car accident we were in when I was 9....she gots millions...I didn't get jack shit,and it was also locked till I turned 18..so when I was 14 and 15 with a baby I expected her to pay for everything and I also resented her. But really you have to realize...this is YOUR baby,not hers,and you are the mommy now and are responsible for these things. It doesn't mean she doesn't love you or doesn't care for your well being or her grandbabys well being,she just may have boundaries set. If your mom DID pay the Co pay for your appointment,if she didn't next time,maybe you wouldn't appreciate it since you're expecting it..if you try to do things to help yourself out,you will feel a lot better and will have no resentment towards your mom. I learned this the hard way nut now that I do it all for my son and my soon to be LO with my OH I get along better with my mom knowing that the pressure is off with my mom. I'm so not judging or being rude,I just went through the SAME thing and een though it sucks,you gotta just keep movin and try to do what's best for you and your baby

sorry for writing a journal lol

MumToBe2012 · Apr 13th, 2012, 02:51 AM

I can understand you feeling upset, but I agree with MUMOFTWO. This is your baby, and you're the one that's responsible for providing for him/her. Don't get me wrong, having your parents help you IS a big help, but you can't always rely on your parents. It's not fair on them. They've already had to provide for you and any brothers/sisters whilst you were young, they shouldn't have to do it with yours too. This could be good for you anyway, it gives you a chance to prove to your mum your capable of looking after your baby yourself.

Apr 12th, 2012, 22:25 PM	#1
tentoes92 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Posts: 498	So disappointed I have. My first drs appointment tomorrow at ten weeks and I just found out today that not only is my mom not coming but she isn't paying the co pay either which is $356. I knew she wasn't going to be giving me money anymore but I thought she would at least pay my insurance. I can't afford it. The delivery alone has a co pay of $5000. I'm so disappointed. I'm gonna have to cancel my appointment tomorrow and reapply for the Medicaid that I decline Thinking my mom actually gave two shits about me. Who knows when I'll actually hear babies heart beat now. I hate this and I'm really starting to resent her....

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Apr 12th, 2012, 22:47 PM	#2
MUM0FTW0 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: U.S.A Posts: 1,505	This happened to me with my first pregnancy...me and mt mom got huge money settlements for a car accident we were in when I was 9....she gots millions...I didn't get jack shit,and it was also locked till I turned 18..so when I was 14 and 15 with a baby I expected her to pay for everything and I also resented her. But really you have to realize...this is YOUR baby,not hers,and you are the mommy now and are responsible for these things. It doesn't mean she doesn't love you or doesn't care for your well being or her grandbabys well being,she just may have boundaries set. If your mom DID pay the Co pay for your appointment,if she didn't next time,maybe you wouldn't appreciate it since you're expecting it..if you try to do things to help yourself out,you will feel a lot better and will have no resentment towards your mom. I learned this the hard way nut now that I do it all for my son and my soon to be LO with my OH I get along better with my mom knowing that the pressure is off with my mom. I'm so not judging or being rude,I just went through the SAME thing and een though it sucks,you gotta just keep movin and try to do what's best for you and your baby sorry for writing a journal lol

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Apr 13th, 2012, 02:51 AM	#3
MumToBe2012 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: UK Posts: 1,471	I can understand you feeling upset, but I agree with MUMOFTWO. This is your baby, and you're the one that's responsible for providing for him/her. Don't get me wrong, having your parents help you IS a big help, but you can't always rely on your parents. It's not fair on them. They've already had to provide for you and any brothers/sisters whilst you were young, they shouldn't have to do it with yours too. This could be good for you anyway, it gives you a chance to prove to your mum your capable of looking after your baby yourself.

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