I don't know if it my hormones getting the best of me.. i am crying as i write this.
This was a pregnancy where it was not being prevented. he warmed me up to the idea it happened.. i suspected i was pregnant comes out to be i am pregnant.. 6 weeks 5 days. til this day my boyfriend does not know... my mum knows my mum is the only person been by my side beside my bestfriend. my dad does not know so as you see this is a quiet pregnancy til i am ready to come out. But gah i think my boyfriend has anger problems.. either i am just being hormonal or have a reason to feel this way. Sometimes when he gets mad not like a upset mad like anger.. he just got his 1st job i lost my job to my pregnancy from being un well missing too much. i have the newest iphone not a cheap bill. i had to get a extension on it he said he pay it but can't anymore because he wants to save for a car has to pay his own bill and insurance. i understand that i am trying my hardest to find a job hard when i have to depend on my feet he has his dad and brother who drives him around. anyways this morning were talking about this he;s like "you need to expand your job options in miles and take a city bus" like one i don't feel safe and cause of past experiences and i need a job i can get to. his response was " your so fucking dramatic jeeze" like really? one day i woke up late about 3 he wanted me to come over like well i would have to get you now i am leaving school be there in real quick... i had to shower get dress i was eating lunch i kept telling him i needed more time he flipped was like seriously ? he got all angry.. sometimes the things he says makes me cry... i break down crying sometimes cause of him.. he just replied i don't want to text back i am just hurting also he's like this with his sexual side... like i have not been in the sex mood since i found out and he gets too horny sometimes and gets mad when i don't want to do something like he's too sexual and it bothers him when i am like i am just not in mood..
Ok, firstly take a deep breathe and wipe your tears away!
Secondly, I don't know if I'm over stepping the line by saying this...
But from previous experience with men like this, you need to back away and think about yourself?
Do you see him as your potential husband?
A good father?
Someone you feel safe with and trust?
I know it's hard but if he is acting like this now do you think that his behaviour will change/ improve?
Is this what you thought LOVE makes you feel like?
Sometimes you need to be selfish not only for your own benefit but now for the sake of your unborn baby.
Can I ask how long you've been together?
There is NO easy way of sorting this, but a good indication of peoples future behaviour is the way they have behaved in the past.
Is that what you want/ need?
You need to realise your worth, don't allow yourself to be taken advantage of in anyway.
As women we need to be strong together.
I have to agree with Ginagg here and I hope I'm not stepping over the line either. I can be a bit brusque.
I also have experience with men like this and it really does come down to stepping back and looking (realistically) at what's best for YOU and what will make YOU happy in the long run, rather than what you WANT right now. In my case he ended up leaving me and it took me just 2 months to realize how much better off I was and to find my OH.
If he's been like this for a while and hasn't tried to change anything now that you're carrying HIS baby, maybe you need to do some real evaluation. Especially is he's suggesting you compromise your safety/security and aggressively pressuring you for sex. That's a no go and a real red flag in my book. If my OH were getting angry over my "not being in the mood" we'd have some serious talking to do about his priorities. I know it seems so hard and it's so scary but you really truly deserve to feel safe and secure and loved right now and if being with him isn't helping or is making you feel worse then maybe being with him isn't the right thing. Maybe you need a break.
I don't personally believe in breaks, but if it might give you the space to evaluate yourself and decide whether you and your baby actually NEED him... maybe it would be a good idea.
I hope everything works out and if you need to talk I'm here any time, really. Feel free to PM me.
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