Getting OH more interested?

jonniegirl · Apr 13th, 2012, 12:35 PM

I know im lucky to still have him there supporting me full time, and i personally know alot of girls who got prego and the guy walked out, but does anyone have suggestions on getting him more interested and involved?

MIL asked us to go pick out a stroller/car seat combo today because she wants to order it as a baby gift, but when i talked to him about it he just said "its up to you" he says that about everything and I want him to be more involved in picking out LO's stuff.

Any ideas?

ClairAye · Apr 13th, 2012, 13:14 PM

No advice sorry, but my OH is like this too, I guess it's hard for them to be as involved until the baby is here and they can actually do stuff

Hope he does take an interest in it soon!

Linzi_x · Apr 13th, 2012, 13:17 PM

my OH was like this aswell, i bought him a book (pregnancy for men) and he started to read it and has understood everything more. i think it won't sink in until LO is here though. i think it's just a man thing

Miss_Quirky · Apr 13th, 2012, 13:36 PM

I think most fathers-to-be are like this..not all, but most. I know mine is. He let me choose all of the colours and everything, he's not thrilled with what I picked but knows better than to complain

I told my OH before I registered if he had ANY opinion, because if he did not tell me and I came back with something he disliked it was his fault.

He won't even read a baby book cause he was around when all his siblings were born, he thinks he knows everything (maybe he does, who knows :P )

jonniegirl · Apr 13th, 2012, 15:14 PM

When i asked my OH about colors and themes he wanted real tree camo (LO is a girl) I worked it in though and a friend is giving me a bedding set for her that is camo (but has bright pink bows all over). He also told me he doesnt like zebra because it makes him go dizzy. And the stroller he wants, the only reason he likes it is because it has diamond plate on it. That is all the opinions i get from him though.

What was in the book? Do they have one that tells the OH how they can be more interactive with LO before she is born?

Raspberries · Apr 13th, 2012, 17:08 PM

As the previous posters have said, I wouldn't worry so much, my OH was exactly the same and still is. I think it may be because your OH thinks you'll know best for the baby and perhaps doesn't want to give the wrong opinion? Besides we're the ones who have to go through pregnancy, so we should make the fun shopping choices

AS long as he seems comitted to you and the baby, don't worry if he doesn't want to choose the stroller or other things, it'll be you who probably pushes it more anywho! LOL.

Apr 13th, 2012, 12:35 PM	#1
jonniegirl Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: LA, CA Posts: 91	Getting OH more interested? I know im lucky to still have him there supporting me full time, and i personally know alot of girls who got prego and the guy walked out, but does anyone have suggestions on getting him more interested and involved? MIL asked us to go pick out a stroller/car seat combo today because she wants to order it as a baby gift, but when i talked to him about it he just said "its up to you" he says that about everything and I want him to be more involved in picking out LO's stuff. Any ideas?

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ClairAye Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 6,317	No advice sorry, but my OH is like this too, I guess it's hard for them to be as involved until the baby is here and they can actually do stuff Hope he does take an interest in it soon!

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Linzi_x Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Essex, UK Posts: 1,056	my OH was like this aswell, i bought him a book (pregnancy for men) and he started to read it and has understood everything more. i think it won't sink in until LO is here though. i think it's just a man thing

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Apr 13th, 2012, 13:36 PM	#4
Miss_Quirky Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: California Posts: 1,216	I think most fathers-to-be are like this..not all, but most. I know mine is. He let me choose all of the colours and everything, he's not thrilled with what I picked but knows better than to complain I told my OH before I registered if he had ANY opinion, because if he did not tell me and I came back with something he disliked it was his fault. He won't even read a baby book cause he was around when all his siblings were born, he thinks he knows everything (maybe he does, who knows :P )

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Apr 13th, 2012, 15:14 PM	#5
jonniegirl Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: LA, CA Posts: 91	When i asked my OH about colors and themes he wanted real tree camo (LO is a girl) I worked it in though and a friend is giving me a bedding set for her that is camo (but has bright pink bows all over). He also told me he doesnt like zebra because it makes him go dizzy. And the stroller he wants, the only reason he likes it is because it has diamond plate on it. That is all the opinions i get from him though. What was in the book? Do they have one that tells the OH how they can be more interactive with LO before she is born?

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Apr 13th, 2012, 17:08 PM	#6
Raspberries Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: West Midlands, England Posts: 372	As the previous posters have said, I wouldn't worry so much, my OH was exactly the same and still is. I think it may be because your OH thinks you'll know best for the baby and perhaps doesn't want to give the wrong opinion? Besides we're the ones who have to go through pregnancy, so we should make the fun shopping choices AS long as he seems comitted to you and the baby, don't worry if he doesn't want to choose the stroller or other things, it'll be you who probably pushes it more anywho! LOL.

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