There are men like this in this world unfortunately. They are bad news, no man in his right mind would actually treat a girl like this. Ever. He will not change unless he goes under counseling...
My cousin had an ex boyfriend like this, she was 22 at the time, and at the beginning he was an ok guy, pretty nice to her.. until he really started to show his true colors. She was with this guy for 3 years, and she ended up having lots of anxiety and close to depression. When she left him, he got so bad she needed to get a restraining order.. Now, presently speeking, she is going to get married to an AMAZING man, who loves her so much, who is like her bestfriend and who really respects her. Though he is not the biological father of her first born, (she had a son when she was 20 by accident from an old BF), but he honestly acts like his father and he loves him so much. They now have another LO who is 6 months old called Greyson. (First born called Jaxen) ... These men have serious problems.. Until he grows up in a few years and actually realises what he says and does hurts people, and then gets himself help, he will ALWAYS be like this. And he will probably get worst with time.. This behavior doesn't get better with time, it usually gets worst...
Im really sorry this is happening to you and that you fell on the wrong guy.. especially having him as the biological father of your baby.. But you should really just stay away from him. Seriouslly. Get child custody! He is not a good father figure.. Like Miss_Quirky said, just because he's the FOB dosn't mean he can be a dad. You will find a better man down the road, I promise you.
You need a man who can be like your bestfriend, someone you can count on, who makes you feel safe, who is respectful, faithful and loyal...
Be a smart woman and let this guy go, he will always be the FOB, but doesnt need to be a big part of your childs life if he cant be a good role model. Get custody so you can have control of all these things hun..
Again I am so sorry you had/have to go through all of this.. Keep your head up, and be strong, for yourself and your LO.. xox
If he had this side to him before you got pregnant hun i no way would of him have unprotected sex with me, but its easy to say that I know, so sorry hun I Hope he either clears his act up or clears off because you or baby don't need that in your lives how he is acting right now. and don't be scared to. cut ties with him if needs be there are plenty of men out there that will treat you right and love and raise your child like there own xx
I agree with the other girls that he might just be shocked, but then on the other hand if he already treated you like crap before you was pregnant then i doubt that he'll change. You shouldn't put up with him and his shit, its not fair on you and you obviously have to think about your unborn child too. I know a lot of girls that have had hope that there boyfriend will change when they are pregnant or when the baby actually gets here, but a lot of the time they don't change and continue to be an arrogant wanker.
As for him saying "i hope it dies" is he really that sick!? Saying that about your unborn child is disgusting, id have told him to fuck off!
If i was you then i wouldn't chase him, if he wants to man up then he'll chase you!
I hope that you get things sorted, at the end of the day everything will turn out ok, just keep your chin up and try not to worry about him. x
when me and my OH got together it was the first real relatioship where she wasnt to bothered if it wrapped it or not, she was adamant with her last bf to wrap it, but with me i think its not like she didnt care or not but i think deep down she knew that if she got pregnant then shed know that id be there for her we both knew what we were getting into, she was on the pill but like if she missed a day of taking it, we wouldnt be bothered and still have sex.
when we found out she was pregnant it was a rough start :/ i didnt want her to have the baby despite knowing it would happen eventually and my mum has been giving me a really hard time :/ but about a week after finding out i suddenly realised that this was my baby...and i realised that no matter what id be his/her true father and that im going to stick with my OH and show everyone that i can do this!
what im trying to get at here is that his reaction may only be because, well he is shitting his pants! :') i know that because i was, he is oin the exact same position that i was in, whether he chooses to stay with you and support you and your LO or goes off and wants nothing to do with them is his choice :/ you can only influence him so much, at the end of the day he will be the one missing out!! You seem like a lovely mum to be and i do wish all the best for you!!
if you ever need to talk or wanting a guys perspective on anything then just Pm me
also, my OH does some of the things yours does.
I usually let him run to me.. But i ignore him when he does so he truely realises what hes done then he really runs after me.
You should get full custody of LO incase he trys to take LO away from you (im not saying he will or anything) you always want to be on the safe side.
I know i want full costody of my LO and if something happens to me i would want my mum to be the guardian and not OH as i know my mum would be able to raise LO better then my OH (just what i want for my LO, as i really dont think my mum would see LO if OH had LO and i would hate for my family not to see LO.
I went over his house the first house was spent in slience no talking so i nap i was tired. then we talked and of course argued and i broke down he did comfort we bonded for the time being... but later that night of course he got in his mood we faught on phone and things got out of control and deep then when i opened up about how my body changing my symptoms it made him sick but i felt like it made him open up but things are not still perfect... our main problem is him getting kicked out... why he is freaking out because he will have no where to go he will lose his job and wont be able to save for a car etc... i know my dad will be pissed but i know i'll be okay.. so idk what to do like me him trying to get through it but he has it worst then i do so far ...
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