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Old Nov 17th, 2011, 08:32 AM   1
Miz Krystal
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Can a 14 year old get married?


My 14 year old daughter wants to marry her 21 year old boyfriend. I know she is young but she is very mature for her age and they are a real couple. They live together with me and sleep in the same bed. Her boyfriend has a job and buys things for her. Me and my daughter have a good relationship and I am involved in her life. My daughter is responsible and has been sexually active for nearly two years, she don't get pregnant. Will they make an exception for my daughter to get married if I provide parental consent and tell them how mature she is?

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Old Nov 17th, 2011, 08:33 AM   2
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no advice sorry



 
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Old Nov 17th, 2011, 08:38 AM   3
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it depends on where you live for a start.

personally i think a 14 year old getting married without having experienced life or even finished high school is not a good idea. If she really wants to marry this guy then suggest to her that she waits until they are both in stable jobs, and enough money to support themselves in their own place.

My biggest concern would be the age gap between your daughter and this man when your daughter is evidently under-age, although obviously i don't know him or the situation.



 
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Old Nov 17th, 2011, 08:38 AM   4
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I'm sorry, I hate to judge, but I think that's a very horrible decision you will be making if you allow your 14 year old daughter to marry a 21 year old. Just my opinion.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriag...#North_America

This shows you a list of states and what the minimum age is to get married w/ parental consent. Most are 16 or 17, but there are a few exceptions.




 
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Old Nov 17th, 2011, 08:44 AM   5
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Depends where you live, but them having sex is completley illegal...



 
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Old Nov 17th, 2011, 08:45 AM   6
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Shes been having sex since she was 12 with a grown man? Mature or not that's paedophilia and no she should not marry him. Beyond wrong.



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Old Nov 17th, 2011, 08:48 AM   7
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Old Nov 17th, 2011, 08:51 AM   8
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Them having sex has been, and continues to be, illegal until she is at least 16 in ANY state. It's a good thing she's not pregnant because the hospital can file a legal complaint if they find out the father is over 18 and she's 14. In Florida its 16-24 years old can have sex. 16 and anyone older than 24, illegal. But a 16 year old having sex with a 15 year old would be considered illegal also.

There's really no way to justify your situation legally. If you are really okay with it, then she's going to have to be at LEAST 16 before you can consent to them getting married. But if your states consent age is 18, if she isn't pregnant then I don't believe that you will be able to do that.



 
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Old Nov 17th, 2011, 08:53 AM   9
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Oh and honestly if this is real, it sounds like you are trying to basically sell your daughter to this grown man. Way to go mom of the year.



 
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Old Nov 17th, 2011, 08:54 AM   10
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I hope you don't get offended by this but speaking as a responsible adult I cannot believe you are letting your 14 year old daughter sleep with a man is wrong and illegal and since she was 12? how on earth can you justify yourself?

she is not legally old enough to have sex so no marriage shouldn't be a consideration, this is so cliche but buying things doesn't equal love, it doesn't matter how mature she is that just makes her a mature child, and how well do you know your daughter that you need strangers to tell you if she's ready or not? I'm sorry but I think what your doing is so wrong and you need to call child protection services so they can help you see why its wrong to have a 12 year old sleep with a grown man and why having him in your house is soliciting underage sex. I am horrified sorry



 
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