Away from LO? - Page 6

QuintinsMommy · Mar 2nd, 2012, 10:02 AM

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Originally Posted by lauram_92

Do you guys think it is more 'acceptable' to go out and be away from LO more often depending on your situation (single/living alone/with an OH who doesn't help etc rather than in a happy, balanced relationship)? or do you not think it matters?

the only thing that I can think of is because I'm single, I feel or felt like I get less alone time? I know that sounds odd, but I would love if I had OH or something and I could be like "hey just going for a short walk,watch Quin" , or go out food shopping w/o Quin,

17thy · Mar 2nd, 2012, 10:05 AM

I do agree, I get to go food shopping without LO sometimes, and I can go take a shower without her etc.

I've gone out one time with my friends without LO or DH since she was born. :/ And I know several single moms that are out at least once a week for time alone with their friends and stuff. Makes me jealous.

AirForceWife7 · Mar 2nd, 2012, 20:53 PM

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Originally Posted by bbyno1

I'm a SAHM. Iv only left Aliyah maybe 10 hours all in so far. Me and OH get our time together once she's gone down for the night. If I wanna meet my friends I do in the daytime with Aliyah

Sames

We live 1000 miles away from family as well, so we don't have anyone to watch her if we wanna go out, etc.

cammy · Mar 3rd, 2012, 02:34 AM

never, Im always in the same house with him, every now and again I'll go to the shop but not for long.

Marzipan_girl · Mar 3rd, 2012, 05:05 AM

Awkward as I don't remember if I commented already or not but yeah Rory is away from me a bit actually. My mum takes him sometimes so I can go out with my friends or whatever. This was per arranged when I found out I was pregnant, and my mum didn't want me to have a baby if it meant giving up my youth....

rorys dad and his family take him too as obvs they want to see him. I'm still his number one primary Carer though and I'm with him more than most of the time. I'm his mummy and he def knows it! Sadly like Lorna I won't be with him as much soon due to uni

but I have to go, for both of us!

Marzipan_girl · Mar 3rd, 2012, 05:13 AM

Makes me feel sad that anyone feels guilty for not being with their little ones as much as they'd like. Your lo will grow up perfect, maybe differently to one who never left mummy but not worse, just with his own set of attributes that can only come from a more independent upbringing. There are pros and cons to both situations; being with mummy and being in nursery or whatever. I didn't get much time with my mum when I was small but I adore her to bots, we are super close and I was very outgoing, loud and independent and HAPPY growing up till my teen years...but that's a diff story lol.
Also makes me sad anyone should feel guilt for WANTING time to go out with friends without lo sometimes x

lauram_92 · Mar 3rd, 2012, 08:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Marzipan_girl

Also makes me sad anyone should feel guilt for WANTING time to go out with friends without lo sometimes

I feel so guilty when I want to go out. And I KNOW I shouldn't. I get up with Oliver in the night EVERY time, I get up with him EVERY morning. I spend all day with him - EVERY day. I feed him and buy his food, I also clothe him. I don't go to college or work so I am literally with him 24/7. I bath him, put him to bed etc. On my own. I don't have someone to help out, or take it in turns. I don't get a break, the only times I have been out is about 3 times and I have put him to bed and then got up with him in the morning. But when I went out I was constantly getting asked where he was/who was looking after him etc. and it made me feel shit, because they were purely pointing out the fact I shouldn't be out. I can't even have friends over to visit me during the day or night because I still live with my parents. But I see a lot of girls who have a boyfriend going out, and they don't get commented on - purely because they have an OH.

QuintinsMommy · Mar 3rd, 2012, 09:21 AM

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Originally Posted by 17thy

I do agree, I get to go food shopping without LO sometimes, and I can go take a shower without her etc.

I've gone out one time with my friends without LO or DH since she was born. :/ And I know several single moms that are out at least once a week for time alone with their friends and stuff. Makes me jealous.

i forgot people did that

shower alone , I shower alone when Quin goes to bed if I have to shave

Mar 2nd, 2012, 10:05 AM	#52
17thy Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Jacksonville, FL Posts: 2,978	I do agree, I get to go food shopping without LO sometimes, and I can go take a shower without her etc. I've gone out one time with my friends without LO or DH since she was born. :/ And I know several single moms that are out at least once a week for time alone with their friends and stuff. Makes me jealous.

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cammy Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: NSW, Australia Posts: 3,003	never, Im always in the same house with him, every now and again I'll go to the shop but not for long.

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Mar 3rd, 2012, 05:05 AM	#55
Marzipan_girl Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: London, England Posts: 1,221	Awkward as I don't remember if I commented already or not but yeah Rory is away from me a bit actually. My mum takes him sometimes so I can go out with my friends or whatever. This was per arranged when I found out I was pregnant, and my mum didn't want me to have a baby if it meant giving up my youth.... rorys dad and his family take him too as obvs they want to see him. I'm still his number one primary Carer though and I'm with him more than most of the time. I'm his mummy and he def knows it! Sadly like Lorna I won't be with him as much soon due to uni but I have to go, for both of us!

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Mar 3rd, 2012, 05:13 AM	#56
Marzipan_girl Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: London, England Posts: 1,221	Makes me feel sad that anyone feels guilty for not being with their little ones as much as they'd like. Your lo will grow up perfect, maybe differently to one who never left mummy but not worse, just with his own set of attributes that can only come from a more independent upbringing. There are pros and cons to both situations; being with mummy and being in nursery or whatever. I didn't get much time with my mum when I was small but I adore her to bots, we are super close and I was very outgoing, loud and independent and HAPPY growing up till my teen years...but that's a diff story lol. Also makes me sad anyone should feel guilt for WANTING time to go out with friends without lo sometimes x

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