help! problems with oh and porn????

first_time_ma · Mar 5th, 2012, 19:46 PM

so i got on my computer to talk to you pretty ladies and youtube is up on a video of erotic pictures!so i looked at the history and there is tons from today. i mean are you kidding me! ill admit since getting pregnant again i haven't been in the mood much anymore, but at the same time that doesn't help. i mean i just don't feel sexy anymore, i feel like oh isn't even interested in me anymore. what do i do. do i ask him about it or just ignore it? i mean we have never had this problem before. but lately i'm not sure where we are. i thought he was umm...... doing something(wink wink) the other night but i wasn't sure so it was a whatever i was half asleep and went back to bed but now i cant get it outta my mind. anyone else found them selfs in this situation or have any idea of how to go about this.......good it just makes me feel gross.

hot tea · Mar 5th, 2012, 20:11 PM

If your OH isn't respecting your bounderies, you have an issue. I know a lot of women here think porn is just a "guy thing" and should be accepted - but honestly, that is a bunch of bullshit. If it bothers you, speak directly and non accusingly to your partner. See if you can find a compromise.

vinteenage · Mar 5th, 2012, 20:11 PM

How about you dump him like everyone advised in your other thread?

Porn to me is not, necessarily, a big deal, but tied into all your other issues in this relationship, it sounds like he needs to hit the road.

first_time_ma · Mar 5th, 2012, 20:18 PM

im really beginning to think the same thing. porn isn't really a big deal to me, but with everything thats going on its making me feel disgusting and unwanted.

i think its time i face the facts and give my dad a call and see if i can stay with him for awhile till i get on my feet..

Hotbump · Mar 5th, 2012, 20:38 PM

I know its easier said than done hun but he should respect your boundaries, if you think its better if you guys broke up thats your decision.

unconditional · Mar 5th, 2012, 20:55 PM

I know how tough it is to go through this. But it does sound like you need to leave him. You WILL find someone who is worth your time and energy, and someone that respects you!!

amygwen · Mar 5th, 2012, 21:24 PM

Porn isn't a big deal. I watch porn, my OH watches porn.. we have sex... quite a lot so I know we're both attracted to each other. BUT, in your other thread, your OH is supposedly cheating on you, really, I'd have MORE of an issue with that than watching porn. It's really up to you though, if it's something you don't want him doing, than you need to make that clear, but I doubt you'll change his mind. He sounds like an inconsiderate asshole.... no offense.

stephx · Mar 6th, 2012, 01:39 AM

^ wss

mayb_baby · Mar 6th, 2012, 03:55 AM

Porn isn't a 'guy' thing or whatever some people like porn, some don't. I personally find nothing at all wrong with porn, I watch porn, my OH watches porn.
We have a good sex life and do not use porn as a substitute to sex IMO

However if someone is really insecure and really doesn't want there partner watching it, they clearly should respect your wishes.
However I think your OH is a joker and you need to leave him not for watching 'porn' but maybe because he is cheating

Melibu90 · Mar 6th, 2012, 06:23 AM

^ pretty much what the others have said
To me its not much about the porn OH is open to me about it and i respect that, i like it too, but if you have no honesty and trust he needs to go hun!

Mar 5th, 2012, 19:46 PM	#1
first_time_ma Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: indiana Posts: 312	help! problems with oh and porn???? so i got on my computer to talk to you pretty ladies and youtube is up on a video of erotic pictures!so i looked at the history and there is tons from today. i mean are you kidding me! ill admit since getting pregnant again i haven't been in the mood much anymore, but at the same time that doesn't help. i mean i just don't feel sexy anymore, i feel like oh isn't even interested in me anymore. what do i do. do i ask him about it or just ignore it? i mean we have never had this problem before. but lately i'm not sure where we are. i thought he was umm...... doing something(wink wink) the other night but i wasn't sure so it was a whatever i was half asleep and went back to bed but now i cant get it outta my mind. anyone else found them selfs in this situation or have any idea of how to go about this.......good it just makes me feel gross.

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Mar 5th, 2012, 20:11 PM	#2
hot tea Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Vancouver Island Posts: 4,415	If your OH isn't respecting your bounderies, you have an issue. I know a lot of women here think porn is just a "guy thing" and should be accepted - but honestly, that is a bunch of bullshit. If it bothers you, speak directly and non accusingly to your partner. See if you can find a compromise.

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vinteenage Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: PA Posts: 4,960	How about you dump him like everyone advised in your other thread? Porn to me is not, necessarily, a big deal, but tied into all your other issues in this relationship, it sounds like he needs to hit the road.

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Mar 5th, 2012, 20:18 PM	#4
first_time_ma Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: indiana Posts: 312	im really beginning to think the same thing. porn isn't really a big deal to me, but with everything thats going on its making me feel disgusting and unwanted. i think its time i face the facts and give my dad a call and see if i can stay with him for awhile till i get on my feet..

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Mar 5th, 2012, 20:38 PM	#5
Hotbump Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 4,156	I know its easier said than done hun but he should respect your boundaries, if you think its better if you guys broke up thats your decision.

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Mar 5th, 2012, 20:55 PM	#6
unconditional Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Canada Posts: 814	I know how tough it is to go through this. But it does sound like you need to leave him. You WILL find someone who is worth your time and energy, and someone that respects you!!

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Mar 5th, 2012, 21:24 PM	#7
amygwen Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: San Antonio, Texas Posts: 9,581	Porn isn't a big deal. I watch porn, my OH watches porn.. we have sex... quite a lot so I know we're both attracted to each other. BUT, in your other thread, your OH is supposedly cheating on you, really, I'd have MORE of an issue with that than watching porn. It's really up to you though, if it's something you don't want him doing, than you need to make that clear, but I doubt you'll change his mind. He sounds like an inconsiderate asshole.... no offense.

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Mar 6th, 2012, 01:39 AM	#8
stephx Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: UK Posts: 5,239	^ wss

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mayb_baby Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2009 Posts: 6,781	Porn isn't a 'guy' thing or whatever some people like porn, some don't. I personally find nothing at all wrong with porn, I watch porn, my OH watches porn. We have a good sex life and do not use porn as a substitute to sex IMO However if someone is really insecure and really doesn't want there partner watching it, they clearly should respect your wishes. However I think your OH is a joker and you need to leave him not for watching 'porn' but maybe because he is cheating

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Mar 6th, 2012, 06:23 AM	#10
Melibu90 Other Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Edinburgh Posts: 1,105	^ pretty much what the others have said To me its not much about the porn OH is open to me about it and i respect that, i like it too, but if you have no honesty and trust he needs to go hun!

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