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Old Mar 11th, 2012, 21:21 PM   #31
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Try to hide any shock or disappointment so that he didn't feel alienated and support him and his GF in everything and make sure he supported her equally. If it was possible I'd also support them financially until they'd finished their education if that's what they wanted to do. I can't see it happening though as I've always assumed he'll be gay.
Really? what makes you say that hun?

(im kinda studying this at the moment- whether preference is innate, or through experience/ socially produced so im fasinated!)
im interested in what you are studying, Quintin has a thing for high heels ( i dont even wear them) and make up, and my dresses, and pink now I dont believe in gender rolls, but people keep telling me Im making him gay, but he also loves tools, and kissing girls


 
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Old Mar 12th, 2012, 05:47 AM   #32
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Try to hide any shock or disappointment so that he didn't feel alienated and support him and his GF in everything and make sure he supported her equally. If it was possible I'd also support them financially until they'd finished their education if that's what they wanted to do. I can't see it happening though as I've always assumed he'll be gay.
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Really? what makes you say that hun?

(im kinda studying this at the moment- whether preference is innate, or through experience/ socially produced so im fasinated!)
im interested in what you are studying, Quintin has a thing for high heels ( i dont even wear them) and make up, and my dresses, and pink now I dont believe in gender rolls, but people keep telling me Im making him gay, but he also loves tools, and kissing girls
Im studying child development!

Part of my psychology degree... IMO sexuality is innate- so i dont think you 'make' him gay I think a lot of it is just exploring though.. how an earth is a 2 year old supposed to know that makeups for girls and tools are for boys Its all just toys for them!

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Old Mar 12th, 2012, 05:48 AM   #33
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haha I know what you mean. Im pretty sure Ava is straight, just get that vibe lol she already runs around all the older boys at the park and trys to get their attention
I used to be the same!

OT but you're doing OU right or did I make that up?
I am yeah! I know you are starting soon too yeah? What are you taking? x


 
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Old Mar 12th, 2012, 06:23 AM   #34
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haha I know what you mean. Im pretty sure Ava is straight, just get that vibe lol she already runs around all the older boys at the park and trys to get their attention
I used to be the same!

OT but you're doing OU right or did I make that up?
I am yeah! I know you are starting soon too yeah? What are you taking? x
Yeah I am Doing Sociology and Philosophy, starting the Introduction to Social Sciences one next month, can't wait! Was just wondering, do you need childcare or do you manage okay in your spare time? I'm not sure what to do about that.


 
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Old Mar 12th, 2012, 06:31 AM   #35
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personally, i would react how my parents reacted.
relieved.
i would rather they came home pregnant, than with a terminal illness, or addicted to drugs.
some people react as if teen pregnancy is the end of the world (other members of my family did when their kids came home pregnant as young adults/teens) and even before i got pregnant myself, i just didn't understand it. i think that the parents with teenagers battling cancer, or going in and out of rehab, prison etc would much rather they came home and said "mum... I'm bringing a beautiful new life into this world, and im happy and healthy enough to do it."
i know teen pregnancy isnt what anyone would want for their child, and i dont want it for my children at all, but if thats the worst thing their going to do with their lives... i so welcome it with open arms, because theres a lot worse things i could have done, and that they could do in the future. personally, so far having my kids is the best thing ive ever done with my life... it just could have waited, so then i could have done it even better.
ofcorse i'll be encouraging them to get an education, find a person they are happy with and settle down with them, earn a living, financially stable ,actually grow up a bit first etc before they consider having children, and i would want them to plan a family. i wish that i had done that before i had my kids (both unplanned)
i would support them both how they needed me to, but i would try my best not to interfere. id wait for them to ask me for help. but i dont think i'd be disapointed, maybe hurt and confused... as long as they were happy and healthy i'd have no reason to complain.
but ask me again in 14 + years and my view may have changed lol, right now i just dont see it as a possibility EVER, as they will always be my babies.


 
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Old Mar 12th, 2012, 06:34 AM   #36
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haha I know what you mean. Im pretty sure Ava is straight, just get that vibe lol she already runs around all the older boys at the park and trys to get their attention
I used to be the same!

OT but you're doing OU right or did I make that up?
I am yeah! I know you are starting soon too yeah? What are you taking? x
Yeah I am Doing Sociology and Philosophy, starting the Introduction to Social Sciences one next month, can't wait! Was just wondering, do you need childcare or do you manage okay in your spare time? I'm not sure what to do about that.
No I manage without, Im doing 2 level 2 courses at the moment and im still just about keeping up lol

The weekly workload isnt that much, maybe reading 1 chapter of the coursebook and watching a DVD section or something. The hard part is at the end of the month when you have to write up your TMA. But as long as you dont fall behind you'll be fine x


 
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Old Mar 12th, 2012, 11:52 AM   #37
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I'd be SOOOOOO disappointed to say the least.

I can totally understand why my parents reactions were what they were when I found out I was pregnant. It's totally disappointed and unexpected especially if you're open with your children about sex and teach them about contraception. I hope I do everything in my power to try to teach him safe sex and how he doesn't want to be a young parent. I'd have a heart attack, be disappointed, wait a few days and than be supportive.


 
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Old Mar 12th, 2012, 12:10 PM   #38
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Agree with Amy. I would be INCREDIBLY upset because my children will learn a lot about the consequences of unsafe sex, I will take it on myself to ensure their understanding. It would feel like a disrespect to me in a sense. I would get over it and support them in every way possible, obviously, but they would also need to be helping themselves.


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Old Mar 12th, 2012, 12:41 PM   #39
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I was taught about sex from a young age and talked to about contraception in my teens. I don't think it had anything to do with it. I had all the knowledge I could need, it was the lack of love, self respect and self worth that ended with me having a baby at a young age. Of course, that's not what happens with everyone, but I think it's the case with many.


 
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Old Mar 12th, 2012, 21:53 PM   #40
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I agree with that too. Same goes for me.


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