How is it being a young mom? and is the father involved at all? - Page 2

smatheson · Mar 22nd, 2012, 12:58 PM

Parenting young has been an amazing roller coaster ride for me. I never knew I could love someone so much. My son is my world and has pushed me to co to college.

Fob and in are together now butbbroke up after my LO was born. He decided to not help out as much as he neededto and really needed to grow up a lot. He finally grew up and we gave it another shot and now we are doing amazing and he is an amazing father to our son and works is ass off to provide for us.

lauram_92 · Mar 22nd, 2012, 14:49 PM

I got pregnant when I was 17, to my boyfriend. But when I found out I was pregnant we had broken up. He decided he didn't want contact, and I haven't spoken to him since I was 12 weeks pregnant.

Parenting is hard, stressful, lonely.. But also the most amazing thing you can do.

17thy · Mar 22nd, 2012, 15:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Blue_star

If you are a young or teen mom how has your experience been with parenting a child? and is the babies father still in the babies or your life and how did he react to it?

It has been the most amazing and fulfilling experience I've ever had. My husband and I found out we were pregnant right after I turned 17 and he was 18 (we were boyfriend and girlfriend at the time obviously) but I took the test with him, and *I* was in shock when I saw the positive but he just smiled and laughed and hugged me and said "I knew you were pregnant". He has been my rock through everything. We married when I was about 10 weeks pregnant. We've been married 2 years now next month. Our 16.5 month old daughter is our life, and he works extremely hard to provide for us, and is an amazing father. We are expecting our second child now, due in September and are finding out the sex tomorrow.

Mii · Mar 22nd, 2012, 18:17 PM

Crazy. In a good way haha.
When I got pregnant I was 18 and not in the best of situations. FOB verbally, emotionally and physically abused me and even once I fell pregnant it didnt stop so, at 14weeks I left and moved back in with my parents (I was living with him and his mom)

After that I cut all communications with FOB as he threated mine, my family and my babies safety. I half expected him to try and get at least visitations but I knew he didnt have enough money to try and bring me to court. So Myles is almost 8 months now and has not met his real dad, which is the best for now.

Having my son when I did was honestly the best thing that could have happened to me, having someone else to be responsible for really made me grow up and get my priorities straight and stopped me from procrastinating (which I am really bad for haha)
Every day I cant believe how lucky I am and how much I love my son

EllaAndLyla · Mar 22nd, 2012, 18:35 PM

I've found it to be a good experience. I think parenting at any age is a challenge but being younger it could interfere in things such as education etc. Lucky for me it hasn't and I finished college whilst pregnant. My OH (FOB) has been amazing, he never turned away. We are moving in together next month and are so excited for our future

Bexxx · Mar 22nd, 2012, 19:17 PM

It's alright. Lol, It's fantastic.
Her dad is very much involved.

octosquishy · Mar 22nd, 2012, 19:48 PM

Well, my case isn't quite the average "teen mom" case, my baby was planned and we got married when I was 16, and have been living on our own and paying our own bills ever since

But, he's definitely involved in Isiah's life, daily, and since I had a c-section he took a week off from work (even though we're staying with my mum until I'm fully healed) to help with the baby

He's changed immensely since I had the baby, he's a lot more caring and sweet, regardless of the fact he gets next to no sleep lol.
It's really amazing how it changes a person when they have a baby--for the better

xx~Lor~xx · Mar 23rd, 2012, 05:23 AM

Great!! Of course it's been tough in some areas, financially it can be a bit of a struggle. But I love having a family and feel lucky to have my kids in my life now. Yes their father, my OH, is still around. We've been together 4 1/2 years and living together for just under 4 years.

Wouldn't change it.

emmylou92 · Mar 23rd, 2012, 05:57 AM

I love being a young mum

OH and I had been together a year when we started TTC for Holle and fell pregnant after 6 months, things were amazing. Then at 30 weeks pregnant we were bth made redundant working for the same company, so things were hard for a little time. Once Hollie was born and OH business had picked up we started TTC (2weeks PP ) again. All in all, its been ups and downs, and struggles, but so worth every moment.

I really love being a mummy

amygwen · Mar 23rd, 2012, 07:49 AM

My LO was born when I was 20 years old and even though I'm not a teen, I still find it extremely difficult. I think no matter what age you are, 16, 36 or 50.. being a first-time mom is difficult in itself because you're experiencing a bunch of new things and it can be really hard to cope. In my own experience, I have found it hard. In the beginning its hard because you have a newborn and you're so paranoid. Plus being young I'm still in the process of university so it's difficult working full-time and going to school as well, but you do learn to manage, in the beginning it can be difficult.

Thankfully OH (FOB) is still around and he's been there since day one. I do have to say that I had my doubts about him whilst I was pregnant because I thought that he wouldn't be involved but he's exceeded my expectations and is an excellent father.

Mar 22nd, 2012, 12:58 PM	#11
smatheson Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Houston Texas Posts: 750	Parenting young has been an amazing roller coaster ride for me. I never knew I could love someone so much. My son is my world and has pushed me to co to college. Fob and in are together now butbbroke up after my LO was born. He decided to not help out as much as he neededto and really needed to grow up a lot. He finally grew up and we gave it another shot and now we are doing amazing and he is an amazing father to our son and works is ass off to provide for us.

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Mar 22nd, 2012, 14:49 PM	#12
lauram_92 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 3,777	I got pregnant when I was 17, to my boyfriend. But when I found out I was pregnant we had broken up. He decided he didn't want contact, and I haven't spoken to him since I was 12 weeks pregnant. Parenting is hard, stressful, lonely.. But also the most amazing thing you can do.

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Mar 22nd, 2012, 18:17 PM	#14
Mii Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 1,149	Crazy. In a good way haha. When I got pregnant I was 18 and not in the best of situations. FOB verbally, emotionally and physically abused me and even once I fell pregnant it didnt stop so, at 14weeks I left and moved back in with my parents (I was living with him and his mom) After that I cut all communications with FOB as he threated mine, my family and my babies safety. I half expected him to try and get at least visitations but I knew he didnt have enough money to try and bring me to court. So Myles is almost 8 months now and has not met his real dad, which is the best for now. Having my son when I did was honestly the best thing that could have happened to me, having someone else to be responsible for really made me grow up and get my priorities straight and stopped me from procrastinating (which I am really bad for haha) Every day I cant believe how lucky I am and how much I love my son

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Mar 22nd, 2012, 18:35 PM	#15
EllaAndLyla Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: London Posts: 4,250	I've found it to be a good experience. I think parenting at any age is a challenge but being younger it could interfere in things such as education etc. Lucky for me it hasn't and I finished college whilst pregnant. My OH (FOB) has been amazing, he never turned away. We are moving in together next month and are so excited for our future

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Mar 22nd, 2012, 19:17 PM	#16
Bexxx Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Highlands and Islands Posts: 2,479	It's alright. Lol, It's fantastic. Her dad is very much involved.

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Mar 22nd, 2012, 19:48 PM	#17
octosquishy Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Arkansas Posts: 324	Well, my case isn't quite the average "teen mom" case, my baby was planned and we got married when I was 16, and have been living on our own and paying our own bills ever since But, he's definitely involved in Isiah's life, daily, and since I had a c-section he took a week off from work (even though we're staying with my mum until I'm fully healed) to help with the baby He's changed immensely since I had the baby, he's a lot more caring and sweet, regardless of the fact he gets next to no sleep lol. It's really amazing how it changes a person when they have a baby--for the better

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Mar 23rd, 2012, 05:23 AM	#18
xx~Lor~xx Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Essex, UK Posts: 7,177	Great!! Of course it's been tough in some areas, financially it can be a bit of a struggle. But I love having a family and feel lucky to have my kids in my life now. Yes their father, my OH, is still around. We've been together 4 1/2 years and living together for just under 4 years. Wouldn't change it.

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Mar 23rd, 2012, 05:57 AM	#19
emmylou92 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Uk Posts: 5,523	I love being a young mum OH and I had been together a year when we started TTC for Holle and fell pregnant after 6 months, things were amazing. Then at 30 weeks pregnant we were bth made redundant working for the same company, so things were hard for a little time. Once Hollie was born and OH business had picked up we started TTC (2weeks PP ) again. All in all, its been ups and downs, and struggles, but so worth every moment. I really love being a mummy

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Mar 23rd, 2012, 07:49 AM	#20
amygwen Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: San Antonio, Texas Posts: 9,583	My LO was born when I was 20 years old and even though I'm not a teen, I still find it extremely difficult. I think no matter what age you are, 16, 36 or 50.. being a first-time mom is difficult in itself because you're experiencing a bunch of new things and it can be really hard to cope. In my own experience, I have found it hard. In the beginning its hard because you have a newborn and you're so paranoid. Plus being young I'm still in the process of university so it's difficult working full-time and going to school as well, but you do learn to manage, in the beginning it can be difficult. Thankfully OH (FOB) is still around and he's been there since day one. I do have to say that I had my doubts about him whilst I was pregnant because I thought that he wouldn't be involved but he's exceeded my expectations and is an excellent father.

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