Never thought I would say this - Page 2

Amber4 · Mar 30th, 2012, 17:40 PM

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Originally Posted by leoniebabey

Oh hun that's awful so sorry he's being like this i'd go to your mums for a few days it might shock him in to realizing that's he's being out of order and if not i'd be considering wether to stay with him or not.

I think I might just do that tbh. I'm not sure how I feel anymore about him. Never thought he'd be like this in a million years. =/

leoniebabey · Mar 30th, 2012, 17:45 PM

Elizax · Mar 31st, 2012, 03:50 AM

He probably knows he has control over the situation and thinks you wouldn't dare leave with your daughter for a few days but do it, show him your serious and tell him you're not coming back till you both talk about it like adults and sort something out.

I know it sounds harsh but it sounds like he knows he's getting away with doing what he wants and making you feel like your in the wrong when you're not.
Tell him if he wants to see her while your at your mams he's more than welcome too or meet up with him somewhere, that way nobody can say that you're using LO against him.

If OH was like that I'd tell him to sling his hook, he needs to do his fatherly duties as well as bond and spend time with your daughter otherwise this is how it's always going to be

As for his parents it sounds like their attitude stinks as much as his, why wouldn't they want to spend a few hours with their grandaughter, sounds like they're spoilt and want everything their way exactly the same as your OH.

jemmie1994 · Mar 31st, 2012, 04:10 AM

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Originally Posted by Amber4

he sleeping downstairs tonight so he doesn't have to help do night feeds.

I wanna cry for my little girl. She done nothing wrong xx

thats pathetic! dont let him get away with not doing his share he seriously needs a wake up call xx

trinaestella · Mar 31st, 2012, 06:09 AM

Things change after having a baby

beanzz · Mar 31st, 2012, 08:23 AM

sorry he's being a jerk. I thought my OH was being pretty useless but for yours to sleep somewhere else just to avoid helping out

I'd walk downstairs tonight when she's hungry or needs changing, wake him up as say "your turn" as you pass her to him. If he doesn't then as someone's said you need to go to your mums for a bit.

I have to tell my OH to do things for Oakley but he tells me he's scared and that's why he doesn't want to do anything as he doesn't want to hurt him. Is there a possibility Damon could be scared too and just not showing it? Don't let him ruin your birthday, do what you wanna do and if he and his mum dont bother you know not to bother for their birthdays

x__amour · Mar 31st, 2012, 10:33 AM

He sounds awful.

I know he needs time to adjust but oof. Try talking to him, express your feelings. And happy birthday.

Amber4 · Mar 31st, 2012, 11:32 AM

Little update - He came up to bed not long after I went up. He got up with her and did his turn. When we woke up this morning we ended up talking. I think his brother might of spoke to him (I speak to his brother for support) and told him how upset I was and planning to leave. He been trying to make it up to me all day. Breakfast in bed, birthday presents, doing my jobs around the house, watching baby and now were out having a meal. Things aren't okay and he knows he can't behave like that again or I will be gone. So see how things go...

beanzz · Mar 31st, 2012, 11:39 AM

Hope he changes his act for good and this isn't a one off

Keera1Aiden2 · Mar 31st, 2012, 17:55 PM

That is aweful hun, don't have much advise as to what to do except the other girls are right when they say you are not using her as a weapon by leaving, it is much more beneficial to the baby to have 2 happy parents separate or just one if he wants nothing to do with her then to have 2 miserable parents together for the sake of her. At this point she would be happier if you are happier as you are the most important person in her life.

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Elizax Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: UK, Cleveland Posts: 1,706	He probably knows he has control over the situation and thinks you wouldn't dare leave with your daughter for a few days but do it, show him your serious and tell him you're not coming back till you both talk about it like adults and sort something out. I know it sounds harsh but it sounds like he knows he's getting away with doing what he wants and making you feel like your in the wrong when you're not. Tell him if he wants to see her while your at your mams he's more than welcome too or meet up with him somewhere, that way nobody can say that you're using LO against him. If OH was like that I'd tell him to sling his hook, he needs to do his fatherly duties as well as bond and spend time with your daughter otherwise this is how it's always going to be As for his parents it sounds like their attitude stinks as much as his, why wouldn't they want to spend a few hours with their grandaughter, sounds like they're spoilt and want everything their way exactly the same as your OH.

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Mar 31st, 2012, 08:23 AM	#16
beanzz Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Cornwall, UK :) Posts: 5,713	sorry he's being a jerk. I thought my OH was being pretty useless but for yours to sleep somewhere else just to avoid helping out I'd walk downstairs tonight when she's hungry or needs changing, wake him up as say "your turn" as you pass her to him. If he doesn't then as someone's said you need to go to your mums for a bit. I have to tell my OH to do things for Oakley but he tells me he's scared and that's why he doesn't want to do anything as he doesn't want to hurt him. Is there a possibility Damon could be scared too and just not showing it? Don't let him ruin your birthday, do what you wanna do and if he and his mum dont bother you know not to bother for their birthdays

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x__amour Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Colorado Posts: 16,579	He sounds awful. I know he needs time to adjust but oof. Try talking to him, express your feelings. And happy birthday.

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Amber4 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: UK Posts: 5,721	Little update - He came up to bed not long after I went up. He got up with her and did his turn. When we woke up this morning we ended up talking. I think his brother might of spoke to him (I speak to his brother for support) and told him how upset I was and planning to leave. He been trying to make it up to me all day. Breakfast in bed, birthday presents, doing my jobs around the house, watching baby and now were out having a meal. Things aren't okay and he knows he can't behave like that again or I will be gone. So see how things go...

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beanzz Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Cornwall, UK :) Posts: 5,713	Hope he changes his act for good and this isn't a one off

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Mar 31st, 2012, 17:55 PM	#20
Keera1Aiden2 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Posts: 133	That is aweful hun, don't have much advise as to what to do except the other girls are right when they say you are not using her as a weapon by leaving, it is much more beneficial to the baby to have 2 happy parents separate or just one if he wants nothing to do with her then to have 2 miserable parents together for the sake of her. At this point she would be happier if you are happier as you are the most important person in her life.

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