Never thought I would say this...

Amber4 · Mar 30th, 2012, 14:33 PM

I'm not sure I wanna be with my OH. He was great when baby was born (A mere 10 days ago) and now he cba. I had to beg him yesterday to take her out with him for a short walk and he still wouldn't. We TTC her too and it breaks my heart

I love her so much. Why doesn't he? I do majority of the feeding and nappies. I dress her, bath her, do bottles and wash her clothes and he moans at me when I ask for help. Which I won't now

tomorrow is my birthday and he arranged his Mum to come over (without asking me. I dont like her much) and I said she could stay till 5. As I wanna go out for a family meal (which she was invited too also) she said visiting was a waste of time if she had to leave then. Visiting your grand daughter all day is a waste of time?

OH got annoyed with me when I said that and said he won't go now either. Plus he gonna take all the money from the bank so I can't go either

what have I done that's so wrong?

I don't get it.

daydreamerx · Mar 30th, 2012, 14:57 PM

They both sound like arseholes to be honest, I know either of Finlays grandparents would love to spend any amount of time with him. I don't really know what to say though, he is out of order for taking the money though - its your birthday and not only that, you've just had a baby he should be smothering you with love

xgem27x · Mar 30th, 2012, 15:01 PM

Sorry to hear he is behaving like that, talk to him about how your feeling xx

Amber4 · Mar 30th, 2012, 15:05 PM

My Mum and stepdad visit 24/7 but his Mum and Dad don't give a crap.

I really wanna go to my Mums but I feel stuck taking her away from him. I don't want anyone to think I'd use her as a weapon cos I never would. But I can't/won't leave her. I'm just stuck upstairs while he on xbox

Lilys mummy · Mar 30th, 2012, 15:06 PM

That is horrible how he is treating you and baby ! He made her too so he should be more responsible and start helping you out more. His mum should be happy that she is seeing her grand-daughter, not moaning that theirs no point if she has to leave at five! He is taking all the money out the ank so you can't go for a family meal on your birthday ? Just because his mum can't go, that is spiteful !

Amber4 · Mar 30th, 2012, 15:06 PM

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Originally Posted by xgem27x

Sorry to hear he is behaving like that, talk to him about how your feeling xx

I did... About 4 hours ago. He got upset and apologised. Things were fine for about 3 hours

xx

leoniebabey · Mar 30th, 2012, 16:25 PM

Oh

i don't know what to say that's so selfish he'd take all the money out.

jemmie1994 · Mar 30th, 2012, 16:57 PM

*sigh* men! they just don't understand, he acting very selfishly hun and no way you deserve be treated like that go to your mums and take Brooke with you, its not using her as a weapon its doing whats best for you and her if your unhappy she'll pick up on it.

Amber4 · Mar 30th, 2012, 17:04 PM

he sleeping downstairs tonight so he doesn't have to help do night feeds.

I wanna cry for my little girl. She done nothing wrong xx

leoniebabey · Mar 30th, 2012, 17:36 PM

Oh hun that's awful so sorry he's being like this i'd go to your mums for a few days it might shock him in to realizing that's he's being out of order and if not i'd be considering wether to stay with him or not.

Mar 30th, 2012, 14:33 PM	#1
Amber4 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: UK Posts: 5,728	Never thought I would say this... I'm not sure I wanna be with my OH. He was great when baby was born (A mere 10 days ago) and now he cba. I had to beg him yesterday to take her out with him for a short walk and he still wouldn't. We TTC her too and it breaks my heart I love her so much. Why doesn't he? I do majority of the feeding and nappies. I dress her, bath her, do bottles and wash her clothes and he moans at me when I ask for help. Which I won't now tomorrow is my birthday and he arranged his Mum to come over (without asking me. I dont like her much) and I said she could stay till 5. As I wanna go out for a family meal (which she was invited too also) she said visiting was a waste of time if she had to leave then. Visiting your grand daughter all day is a waste of time? OH got annoyed with me when I said that and said he won't go now either. Plus he gonna take all the money from the bank so I can't go either what have I done that's so wrong? I don't get it.

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Mar 30th, 2012, 14:57 PM	#2
daydreamerx Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Cheltenham Posts: 958	They both sound like arseholes to be honest, I know either of Finlays grandparents would love to spend any amount of time with him. I don't really know what to say though, he is out of order for taking the money though - its your birthday and not only that, you've just had a baby he should be smothering you with love

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Mar 30th, 2012, 15:01 PM	#3
xgem27x Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Maidstone, Kent Posts: 2,235	Sorry to hear he is behaving like that, talk to him about how your feeling xx

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Mar 30th, 2012, 15:05 PM	#4
Amber4 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: UK Posts: 5,728	My Mum and stepdad visit 24/7 but his Mum and Dad don't give a crap. I really wanna go to my Mums but I feel stuck taking her away from him. I don't want anyone to think I'd use her as a weapon cos I never would. But I can't/won't leave her. I'm just stuck upstairs while he on xbox

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Mar 30th, 2012, 15:06 PM	#5
Lilys mummy Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: England :) Posts: 320	That is horrible how he is treating you and baby ! He made her too so he should be more responsible and start helping you out more. His mum should be happy that she is seeing her grand-daughter, not moaning that theirs no point if she has to leave at five! He is taking all the money out the ank so you can't go for a family meal on your birthday ? Just because his mum can't go, that is spiteful !

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Mar 30th, 2012, 16:25 PM	#7
leoniebabey Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: UK Newcastle Posts: 8,957	Oh i don't know what to say that's so selfish he'd take all the money out.

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jemmie1994 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Manchester Posts: 2,681	sigh men! they just don't understand, he acting very selfishly hun and no way you deserve be treated like that go to your mums and take Brooke with you, its not using her as a weapon its doing whats best for you and her if your unhappy she'll pick up on it.

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Mar 30th, 2012, 17:04 PM	#9
Amber4 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: UK Posts: 5,728	he sleeping downstairs tonight so he doesn't have to help do night feeds. I wanna cry for my little girl. She done nothing wrong xx

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Mar 30th, 2012, 17:36 PM	#10
leoniebabey Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: UK Newcastle Posts: 8,957	Oh hun that's awful so sorry he's being like this i'd go to your mums for a few days it might shock him in to realizing that's he's being out of order and if not i'd be considering wether to stay with him or not.

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