Anyone else still living with parents? :( - Page 2

Amber4 · Apr 2nd, 2012, 05:38 AM

I don't live him at home but did through my pregnancy. It was stressful enough then. The positive was it did save me a fortune and I managed to afford everything we needed for our LO! My Mum has been visiting a lot since she's born so can be over whelming. I ask her for help when I need it and just tell her were fine when she tries to take over. She doesn't mean to interfere, she just loves spending time with her and doing things for her.

just remember they love Oakley to bits too. But of course let them know you appreciate help but only when you need it xx

nicoleJOLIE · Apr 2nd, 2012, 10:57 AM

I moved home at 6 months pregnant , after being on my own for almost a year .. so i see both sides of how hard it is on your own , and how irritatiing it is in your parents house .. my parents always check on me and tell me what to do (eg. not napping with cianna in my bed, when to burp her) and my moms completely taken over bath time - i dont quite mind it but still i'd like to have a handle on how to do it SOMETIMES atleast ..

but then again when i was living on my own i was on Assistance and working odd jobs with my neighbor and sometimes struggled to the point i'd have to ask my parents for 20 bucks cus i was sick of eating kraft dinner and cereal .. and i'd run out of toilet paper so i'd have to go to the walmart across the street to pee -_-

anyways , hang in there girl! your time will come when yo ucan move out and you'll love it but you'll also see how much your parents REALLY do for you ...

and as of "mummy .. i mean grandma" that wud piss me off.

LauraBee · Apr 2nd, 2012, 14:49 PM

My mom always says things like "Where's my baby?" and "Who's made me baby cry?" and we're all just like "Shut up, she's not your baby."

Bethlouise knows I'm her mother despite that, so I don't really care anymore. Although, I got a bit pissed off when she banged her head on the wall yesterday and held her arms out to my mom instead of me! But then she wanted me after a little cuddle with Nana, so it's not too bad and that's the first time she's ever chosen my mom over me.

tasha41 · Apr 2nd, 2012, 23:24 PM

Lived with my parents until she was 15 months old, then I had to move back in February because I was in an accident and I need help, OH works constantly, I can't do any housework...

I didn't enjoy it, but tried to think of people doing it w/ no help. It was hard- the interference, lack of privacy, being crowded, etc... but save as much as you can and research housing options, if none will work/are acceptable, try to make the most of things and see about schooling or something..

My LO has always known I'm mum; I've always been her favourite, etc. Don't worry about that bit

My daughter also has a GREAT, close relationship with her grandparents, aunt and uncle because of it all... and I hope she always does. I love that she has so much love in her life

emmylou92 · Apr 2nd, 2012, 23:40 PM

I dont, but talk to them hun, let them know how you feel.

brandonsgirl · Apr 3rd, 2012, 07:41 AM

I havent read all the posts. But i could have written the original post myself. I just moved in with my mum and grandad as i just came back from living in America. Yes they help alot. BUT because my son is two he understands everything. And now calls my mum (HIS NAN) mummy. Which breaks my heart and does my head in. I hate it so much..

They help in the way of letting me save up money to move out and when i want to have a shower etc. But my mum will give kent snacks and things without asking me (usualy before his dinner) and will just be like oh sorry. She will comfort him or try and make it fun if im telling him off. Basically just tries to be the one he like more by not telling him off and trying to be happy and nice once i have told him off.

Bleh trailing off into a rant now lol. Long story short, i know how you feel hun! And if you ever want to chat, im here

amygwen · Apr 3rd, 2012, 07:48 AM

First off, you definitely have NOT failed!

I'm sure you're doing an excellent job, so don't even think you've failed because you live with your parents. It sounds to me like you're doing an extremely selfless thing for not only yourself but your LO. I'm 21 (almost 22) and I still live with my parents. It can be really frustrating when I see my friends who are off at college, living with other people their age, etc.. but I know my life has changed now and I've got to think about Kenneth before I think about anyone else.

I've had my mom slip up a few times and call herself mama, but I immediately correct her and say "You're not mama! I'm mama!" It's an easy mistake to make, I've slipped up and said it to one of my friends babies

haha! Anyways, don't kick yourself about your mom and dad calling themselves mama or dada or something, it is a common mistake to make, but when they do, definitely correct them. You don't want your LO getting confused.

At the end of the day, just be thankful you have somewhere to live and you have parents who obviously love you and your LO. I have to agree, it can be a pain living with my parents, but I know that at this point in my life, I'm not really stable enough to move out on my own. Plus I'd be pretty lonely by myself.

Lissa3120 · Apr 4th, 2012, 13:51 PM

totally off topic... but just saw OP's avatar, did you give birth at RCH...? if you did... i think i totally had my son in the same room lol. the lay out was the same at my hospital anyways lol!! room 10 or 11 i think... if it is the RCH.

beanzz · Apr 4th, 2012, 16:39 PM

Thanks girls

I'm trying to focus more on the positives now

Omg Lissa I was in room 10!! And yes at RCH

Lissa3120 · Apr 4th, 2012, 16:55 PM

knew it haha, recognized the scary machine behind you. small world eh :P

Apr 2nd, 2012, 05:38 AM	#11
Amber4 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: UK Posts: 5,728	I don't live him at home but did through my pregnancy. It was stressful enough then. The positive was it did save me a fortune and I managed to afford everything we needed for our LO! My Mum has been visiting a lot since she's born so can be over whelming. I ask her for help when I need it and just tell her were fine when she tries to take over. She doesn't mean to interfere, she just loves spending time with her and doing things for her. just remember they love Oakley to bits too. But of course let them know you appreciate help but only when you need it xx

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Apr 2nd, 2012, 10:57 AM	#12
nicoleJOLIE Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Toronto Posts: 887	I moved home at 6 months pregnant , after being on my own for almost a year .. so i see both sides of how hard it is on your own , and how irritatiing it is in your parents house .. my parents always check on me and tell me what to do (eg. not napping with cianna in my bed, when to burp her) and my moms completely taken over bath time - i dont quite mind it but still i'd like to have a handle on how to do it SOMETIMES atleast .. but then again when i was living on my own i was on Assistance and working odd jobs with my neighbor and sometimes struggled to the point i'd have to ask my parents for 20 bucks cus i was sick of eating kraft dinner and cereal .. and i'd run out of toilet paper so i'd have to go to the walmart across the street to pee -_- anyways , hang in there girl! your time will come when yo ucan move out and you'll love it but you'll also see how much your parents REALLY do for you ... and as of "mummy .. i mean grandma" that wud piss me off.

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Apr 2nd, 2012, 14:49 PM	#13
LauraBee Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Southampton, England Posts: 1,739	My mom always says things like "Where's my baby?" and "Who's made me baby cry?" and we're all just like "Shut up, she's not your baby." Bethlouise knows I'm her mother despite that, so I don't really care anymore. Although, I got a bit pissed off when she banged her head on the wall yesterday and held her arms out to my mom instead of me! But then she wanted me after a little cuddle with Nana, so it's not too bad and that's the first time she's ever chosen my mom over me.

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Apr 2nd, 2012, 23:24 PM	#14
tasha41 Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: The True North Strong & Free Posts: 25,636	Lived with my parents until she was 15 months old, then I had to move back in February because I was in an accident and I need help, OH works constantly, I can't do any housework... I didn't enjoy it, but tried to think of people doing it w/ no help. It was hard- the interference, lack of privacy, being crowded, etc... but save as much as you can and research housing options, if none will work/are acceptable, try to make the most of things and see about schooling or something.. My LO has always known I'm mum; I've always been her favourite, etc. Don't worry about that bit My daughter also has a GREAT, close relationship with her grandparents, aunt and uncle because of it all... and I hope she always does. I love that she has so much love in her life

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Apr 2nd, 2012, 23:40 PM	#15
emmylou92 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Uk Posts: 5,523	I dont, but talk to them hun, let them know how you feel.

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Apr 3rd, 2012, 07:41 AM	#16
brandonsgirl Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Lincolnshire Posts: 4,048	I havent read all the posts. But i could have written the original post myself. I just moved in with my mum and grandad as i just came back from living in America. Yes they help alot. BUT because my son is two he understands everything. And now calls my mum (HIS NAN) mummy. Which breaks my heart and does my head in. I hate it so much.. They help in the way of letting me save up money to move out and when i want to have a shower etc. But my mum will give kent snacks and things without asking me (usualy before his dinner) and will just be like oh sorry. She will comfort him or try and make it fun if im telling him off. Basically just tries to be the one he like more by not telling him off and trying to be happy and nice once i have told him off. Bleh trailing off into a rant now lol. Long story short, i know how you feel hun! And if you ever want to chat, im here

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Apr 3rd, 2012, 07:48 AM	#17
amygwen Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: San Antonio, Texas Posts: 9,581	First off, you definitely have NOT failed! I'm sure you're doing an excellent job, so don't even think you've failed because you live with your parents. It sounds to me like you're doing an extremely selfless thing for not only yourself but your LO. I'm 21 (almost 22) and I still live with my parents. It can be really frustrating when I see my friends who are off at college, living with other people their age, etc.. but I know my life has changed now and I've got to think about Kenneth before I think about anyone else. I've had my mom slip up a few times and call herself mama, but I immediately correct her and say "You're not mama! I'm mama!" It's an easy mistake to make, I've slipped up and said it to one of my friends babies haha! Anyways, don't kick yourself about your mom and dad calling themselves mama or dada or something, it is a common mistake to make, but when they do, definitely correct them. You don't want your LO getting confused. At the end of the day, just be thankful you have somewhere to live and you have parents who obviously love you and your LO. I have to agree, it can be a pain living with my parents, but I know that at this point in my life, I'm not really stable enough to move out on my own. Plus I'd be pretty lonely by myself.

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Apr 4th, 2012, 13:51 PM	#18
Lissa3120 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Cornwall Posts: 367	totally off topic... but just saw OP's avatar, did you give birth at RCH...? if you did... i think i totally had my son in the same room lol. the lay out was the same at my hospital anyways lol!! room 10 or 11 i think... if it is the RCH.

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Apr 4th, 2012, 16:39 PM	#19
beanzz Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Cornwall, UK :) Posts: 5,719	Thanks girls I'm trying to focus more on the positives now Omg Lissa I was in room 10!! And yes at RCH

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Apr 4th, 2012, 16:55 PM	#20
Lissa3120 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Cornwall Posts: 367	knew it haha, recognized the scary machine behind you. small world eh :P

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