Anyone else still living with parents ? :(

beanzz · Mar 31st, 2012, 14:35 PM

Please tell me I'm not the only one. I hate that i still live at home. Are there any positives I'm not seeing??

My mum and step dad keep taking over with my LO and I feel like they don't think I can look after him myself. And because they're soo used to them being the parents, when they're talking to him they'll say things like "aw have a cuddle with mummy..... I mean nanny!" I know it's just out of habit but it breaks my heart when they do it. It makes me hate him near them, I end up hiding away in my room with him so noone can take him away from me

I can't afford a place to live at all, there's not a chance in hell I could afford anything, I doubt I would even if I got help with most of it. I'm gonna be stuck here for the rest of my life and Oakley's going to think my mum is his mum. I've failed already

I just want to move away so none of them can "help" me by doing it all. If I wasn't breastfeeding I'd never see him! Sorry for the rant, I just hate this crappy situation so much and I feel like absolute sh*t.

Rhio92 · Mar 31st, 2012, 14:57 PM

I am. It's driving me mad. Kill me now. Seriously. My mum does my head in. She doesn't respect me at all -_-

LauraBee · Mar 31st, 2012, 16:13 PM

I'm a single parent, so if I weren't living at home, I wouldn't be able to cope - I can barely do everything now by giving Bee over to someone else for a couple minutes for things like having a bath, tidying up, cooking dinner and doing homework etc.

One of the first things we discussed after telling my mom I was pregnant was that I wanted to do EVERYTHING by myself - which I did when she was a newborn and I could put her in the Moses basket to get something done, but now I really do need a lot more help trying to keep her in one place and entertained. I still don't do everything I want, but I get things done when they need to be.

I think you should just talk to them and explain that you wanna feel as independent as possible while still living at home.

Besides, even buying all of my own stuff and paying money towards rent/gas/electric, I'm still saving so much! I'm here 'til 2015 minimum and at times I hate my siblings and even my mom can annoy me, but I'd rather be here with cash to spare than struggling by myself whilst being out-of-pocket

leoniebabey · Mar 31st, 2012, 16:16 PM

Oh

maybe sit down with them and explain how you appreciate their help but you would really like to take the chance to bond with him yourself

veganmama · Mar 31st, 2012, 16:28 PM

i doooo!! only downfall is im easily annoyed and sometimes they annoy the hell out of me but they are such a great help with P

lizardbreath · Mar 31st, 2012, 16:35 PM

I recently just left fob and moved back in with my rents til I can't get money saved up and then I'm out of here I moved out at 18 and being back here is making me want to kill myself

jemmie1994 · Mar 31st, 2012, 17:19 PM

I am! and im stuck here for next 5 years minumum

do love my mam and dad to bits but they do sometimes need remember Evie is MY baby...mum does the whole 'come have a cuddle with mummy...oh grandma' thing...just put your foot down and explain that your the parent not them and they need take a back seat they are only trying to help you out but does go abit far.

tinkerbelle93 · Apr 1st, 2012, 15:49 PM

I am.. but I quite like it. It means that I have lots more time then I would if I had a whole house to keep tidy and clean and organised, and having some time to yourself is always good when you have a baby.

And it means I have way more money then if me and my OH had our own place so we can save up etc. There are some positives (:

If you think that they're a bit interfering then just say that you don't need all the help they're giving you. Don't worry you won't be stuck there forever (: xx

Mummy2B21 · Apr 1st, 2012, 16:20 PM

Aw hun I'm so sorry your feeling like that, I also live with my parents and my OH, the best advise is to SAVE SAVE SAVE whilst you live with them.

We manage to save £850 a month by living at my parents and were buying our own home this summer, Evan if you can save £50 a month its something and it will add up for moving out.

If you go to your local council they do a rent deposit scheme so they will pay your deposit on a rented place and you can get help with furnishing costs through the jobcentre I believe.

It is possible for you to move out it might just be tight sp best thing to do is save now.

I'm 23 and OH is 27 so we don't really get my parents over taking but that must be so upsetting, you havnt faoled at all its not your fault, can you voice your concerns to your parents? xx

beanzz · Apr 2nd, 2012, 04:47 AM

Thank you for the replies

I spose I should just be thankful the help is here whilst I have it and use this time to save up.

Gonna try my best to not get so stressed out when someone else is holding him.

Mar 31st, 2012, 14:35 PM	#1
beanzz Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Cornwall, UK :) Posts: 5,717	Anyone else still living with parents ? :( Please tell me I'm not the only one. I hate that i still live at home. Are there any positives I'm not seeing?? My mum and step dad keep taking over with my LO and I feel like they don't think I can look after him myself. And because they're soo used to them being the parents, when they're talking to him they'll say things like "aw have a cuddle with mummy..... I mean nanny!" I know it's just out of habit but it breaks my heart when they do it. It makes me hate him near them, I end up hiding away in my room with him so noone can take him away from me I can't afford a place to live at all, there's not a chance in hell I could afford anything, I doubt I would even if I got help with most of it. I'm gonna be stuck here for the rest of my life and Oakley's going to think my mum is his mum. I've failed already I just want to move away so none of them can "help" me by doing it all. If I wasn't breastfeeding I'd never see him! Sorry for the rant, I just hate this crappy situation so much and I feel like absolute sh*t.

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Mar 31st, 2012, 14:57 PM	#2
Rhio92 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Nottingham, UK Posts: 5,178	I am. It's driving me mad. Kill me now. Seriously. My mum does my head in. She doesn't respect me at all -_-

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Mar 31st, 2012, 16:13 PM	#3
LauraBee Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Southampton, England Posts: 1,739	I'm a single parent, so if I weren't living at home, I wouldn't be able to cope - I can barely do everything now by giving Bee over to someone else for a couple minutes for things like having a bath, tidying up, cooking dinner and doing homework etc. One of the first things we discussed after telling my mom I was pregnant was that I wanted to do EVERYTHING by myself - which I did when she was a newborn and I could put her in the Moses basket to get something done, but now I really do need a lot more help trying to keep her in one place and entertained. I still don't do everything I want, but I get things done when they need to be. I think you should just talk to them and explain that you wanna feel as independent as possible while still living at home. Besides, even buying all of my own stuff and paying money towards rent/gas/electric, I'm still saving so much! I'm here 'til 2015 minimum and at times I hate my siblings and even my mom can annoy me, but I'd rather be here with cash to spare than struggling by myself whilst being out-of-pocket

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leoniebabey Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: UK Newcastle Posts: 8,957	Oh maybe sit down with them and explain how you appreciate their help but you would really like to take the chance to bond with him yourself

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Mar 31st, 2012, 16:28 PM	#5
veganmama Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2011 Posts: 2,783	i doooo!! only downfall is im easily annoyed and sometimes they annoy the hell out of me but they are such a great help with P

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Mar 31st, 2012, 16:35 PM	#6
lizardbreath Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Canada , Ontario Posts: 2,158	I recently just left fob and moved back in with my rents til I can't get money saved up and then I'm out of here I moved out at 18 and being back here is making me want to kill myself

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Mar 31st, 2012, 17:19 PM	#7
jemmie1994 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Manchester Posts: 2,681	I am! and im stuck here for next 5 years minumum do love my mam and dad to bits but they do sometimes need remember Evie is MY baby...mum does the whole 'come have a cuddle with mummy...oh grandma' thing...just put your foot down and explain that your the parent not them and they need take a back seat they are only trying to help you out but does go abit far.

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Apr 1st, 2012, 15:49 PM	#8
tinkerbelle93 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: UK Posts: 1,941	I am.. but I quite like it. It means that I have lots more time then I would if I had a whole house to keep tidy and clean and organised, and having some time to yourself is always good when you have a baby. And it means I have way more money then if me and my OH had our own place so we can save up etc. There are some positives (: If you think that they're a bit interfering then just say that you don't need all the help they're giving you. Don't worry you won't be stuck there forever (: xx

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Apr 1st, 2012, 16:20 PM	#9
Mummy2B21 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Essex, UK Posts: 10,030	Aw hun I'm so sorry your feeling like that, I also live with my parents and my OH, the best advise is to SAVE SAVE SAVE whilst you live with them. We manage to save £850 a month by living at my parents and were buying our own home this summer, Evan if you can save £50 a month its something and it will add up for moving out. If you go to your local council they do a rent deposit scheme so they will pay your deposit on a rented place and you can get help with furnishing costs through the jobcentre I believe. It is possible for you to move out it might just be tight sp best thing to do is save now. I'm 23 and OH is 27 so we don't really get my parents over taking but that must be so upsetting, you havnt faoled at all its not your fault, can you voice your concerns to your parents? xx

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Apr 2nd, 2012, 04:47 AM	#10
beanzz Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Cornwall, UK :) Posts: 5,717	Thank you for the replies I spose I should just be thankful the help is here whilst I have it and use this time to save up. Gonna try my best to not get so stressed out when someone else is holding him.

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