she wont let me put her down..

ShanBearr_19 · Apr 4th, 2012, 09:08 AM

I understand babies need ALOT of attention and i love my lily to bits but she never lets me put her down! she just crys if i do..
have any of you girls had this? what did you do?
i know it seems like a silly thing to post but i can never get housework or anything done properly even though shes been fed, changed, cuddled for hours on end?

amygwen · Apr 4th, 2012, 09:14 AM

It's very common. Until Kenneth could crawl around by himself (around 7 months) I rarely could ever put him down without him screaming for me. It was really annoying!! The only thing that helped me was my baby carrier. I would just wear him whenever I needed to get stuff done. But I'd try my hardest to get stuff done when he's asleep but even then it's really difficult because I have to be really quiet. I don't have any advice really, other than I have a lot of sympathy for you, it's really difficult. If you have a wrap or baby carrier, wear your LO and it'll definitely help with getting stuff done around the house. If you don't have a carrier, I would invest in one! It'll help tremendously.

ShanBearr_19 · Apr 4th, 2012, 09:19 AM

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Originally Posted by amygwen

It's very common. Until Kenneth could crawl around by himself (around 7 months) I rarely could ever put him down without him screaming for me. It was really annoying!! The only thing that helped me was my baby carrier. I would just wear him whenever I needed to get stuff done. But I'd try my hardest to get stuff done when he's asleep but even then it's really difficult because I have to be really quiet. I don't have any advice really, other than I have a lot of sympathy for you, it's really difficult. If you have a wrap or baby carrier, wear your LO and it'll definitely help with getting stuff done around the house. If you don't have a carrier, I would invest in one! It'll help tremendously.

i feel like im being selfish by putting her down and leaveing her to cry so i have to pick her back up again, i wouldnt change having her in the world but its so hard, i try to get stuff done while she sleeps too but she seems to sleep longer in the day in my arms than if i put her down in her cot. then come her bedtime she'l sleep perfectly but by that time im shattered and want my shower and sleep. Her bouncer has vibration which she used to sit in quiet happily, but now she wont go in there unless i sit and bounce her.

tinkerbelle93 · Apr 4th, 2012, 11:21 AM

I'd try a baby sling maybe? My boy isn't too clingy but I've heard from other mums that have clingier babies that they carry their baby round in the sling while doing the ironing and washing up etc

I was going to suggest a chair with vibrations until I read your pp.. Oliver has a bouncy chair that swings back and forth and has music playing which usually keeps him happy that I bought from mothercare, maybe you could try something like that. xx

fuffyburra · Apr 4th, 2012, 13:01 PM

Mine's exactly the same! And she also no longer sits in her vibrating chair unless I sit there and bounce it

I've tried a carrier but she hates it. She wants to face outwards and I have a Moby so I can't do that. Sigh!!

Good luck

hopefully it'll pass! x x

octosquishy · Apr 5th, 2012, 08:44 AM

It's very common, and I'm a firm believer of the CIO method. My family friend was staying with my mum for about a week and her (at the time) 3 week old would scream at the top of her lungs if her mum tried to put her down ( she is still that way, she has to be held constantly ) , and her mum would just put her in the swing, turn it on, and walk off and tend to other things. Eventually your baby will get used to entertaining herself, if you're consistent ( that's the only reason Miley is still that way, lol ). I am so lucky in the reasoning that Isiah doesn't have to be held constantly, there are times he's a little finicky that the only way he will be calm is to hold him ( I am slightly suspicious that he was gassy though and being on his belly, upright, was helping with it. If she's gassy that could definitely be it, as well. I hear Gripe Water is really good for gassiness and colic ) but that is very rare. I've had to hold him until he was asleep all of maybe 3 times in the 3 weeks he's been here.

Kaisma · Apr 5th, 2012, 18:30 PM

When Aliina was couple of weeks old she loved to sleep on her rocker and pram inside the house... but soon after she just totally changed! Now if she falls asleep in my arms and I put her down she just starts to cry! I never get anything done properly unles I put her in baby carrier (she falls asleep on that) but it's a bit on my way when I wash dishes etc and after a while just starts to hurt my back. Sometimes when I put her on her rocker she just starts to whine, I just leave her for a bit and shes fine. Usually I start talking and smiling to her while she sits on rocker and she goes quiet and starts just smiling and making little noises. So at least sometimes it's just that shes "bored" I think.

And same with Aliina, she goes to sleep in her own moses basket perfectly when it's bedtime, but daytime no way!

Amber4 · Apr 5th, 2012, 20:01 PM

CIO method at 3 weeks old? wow. Heard it all now. My LO in the last couples of days has started disturbing a lot and won't let me put her down. Just cries. Never would I just ignore her and leave her to it. She doesn't know she's just crying. Crying is her only way to let me know she wants something - milk, nappy, needs winding, sleeping etc. I can sympathise with you though Shan as I'm struggling too.

bbyno1 · Apr 7th, 2012, 15:28 PM

Sophia is totally the same! She hates being put down even at night time! She was fine until a couple of weeks ago so I dunno what changed really! Because I also have aliyah I can't always tend to sophia straight away when she starts crying and the same goes for aliyah. I sometimes think she may have colic. Aliyah used to be the same but grew out of it so there is light at the end of the tunnel!

x__amour · Apr 7th, 2012, 20:09 PM

Unfortunately very common. It will pass though. Enjoy the cuddles while you can!

Apr 4th, 2012, 09:08 AM	#1
ShanBearr_19 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: UK Posts: 349	she wont let me put her down.. I understand babies need ALOT of attention and i love my lily to bits but she never lets me put her down! she just crys if i do.. have any of you girls had this? what did you do? i know it seems like a silly thing to post but i can never get housework or anything done properly even though shes been fed, changed, cuddled for hours on end?

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Apr 4th, 2012, 09:14 AM	#2
amygwen Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: San Antonio, Texas Posts: 9,581	It's very common. Until Kenneth could crawl around by himself (around 7 months) I rarely could ever put him down without him screaming for me. It was really annoying!! The only thing that helped me was my baby carrier. I would just wear him whenever I needed to get stuff done. But I'd try my hardest to get stuff done when he's asleep but even then it's really difficult because I have to be really quiet. I don't have any advice really, other than I have a lot of sympathy for you, it's really difficult. If you have a wrap or baby carrier, wear your LO and it'll definitely help with getting stuff done around the house. If you don't have a carrier, I would invest in one! It'll help tremendously.

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Apr 4th, 2012, 11:21 AM	#4
tinkerbelle93 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: UK Posts: 1,941	I'd try a baby sling maybe? My boy isn't too clingy but I've heard from other mums that have clingier babies that they carry their baby round in the sling while doing the ironing and washing up etc I was going to suggest a chair with vibrations until I read your pp.. Oliver has a bouncy chair that swings back and forth and has music playing which usually keeps him happy that I bought from mothercare, maybe you could try something like that. xx

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Apr 4th, 2012, 13:01 PM	#5
fuffyburra Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: West Sussex, England Posts: 4,543	Mine's exactly the same! And she also no longer sits in her vibrating chair unless I sit there and bounce it I've tried a carrier but she hates it. She wants to face outwards and I have a Moby so I can't do that. Sigh!! Good luck hopefully it'll pass! x x

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Apr 5th, 2012, 08:44 AM	#6
octosquishy Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Arkansas Posts: 285	It's very common, and I'm a firm believer of the CIO method. My family friend was staying with my mum for about a week and her (at the time) 3 week old would scream at the top of her lungs if her mum tried to put her down ( she is still that way, she has to be held constantly ) , and her mum would just put her in the swing, turn it on, and walk off and tend to other things. Eventually your baby will get used to entertaining herself, if you're consistent ( that's the only reason Miley is still that way, lol ). I am so lucky in the reasoning that Isiah doesn't have to be held constantly, there are times he's a little finicky that the only way he will be calm is to hold him ( I am slightly suspicious that he was gassy though and being on his belly, upright, was helping with it. If she's gassy that could definitely be it, as well. I hear Gripe Water is really good for gassiness and colic ) but that is very rare. I've had to hold him until he was asleep all of maybe 3 times in the 3 weeks he's been here.

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Apr 5th, 2012, 18:30 PM	#7
Kaisma Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: UK Posts: 2,409	When Aliina was couple of weeks old she loved to sleep on her rocker and pram inside the house... but soon after she just totally changed! Now if she falls asleep in my arms and I put her down she just starts to cry! I never get anything done properly unles I put her in baby carrier (she falls asleep on that) but it's a bit on my way when I wash dishes etc and after a while just starts to hurt my back. Sometimes when I put her on her rocker she just starts to whine, I just leave her for a bit and shes fine. Usually I start talking and smiling to her while she sits on rocker and she goes quiet and starts just smiling and making little noises. So at least sometimes it's just that shes "bored" I think. And same with Aliina, she goes to sleep in her own moses basket perfectly when it's bedtime, but daytime no way!

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Apr 5th, 2012, 20:01 PM	#8
Amber4 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: UK Posts: 5,728	CIO method at 3 weeks old? wow. Heard it all now. My LO in the last couples of days has started disturbing a lot and won't let me put her down. Just cries. Never would I just ignore her and leave her to it. She doesn't know she's just crying. Crying is her only way to let me know she wants something - milk, nappy, needs winding, sleeping etc. I can sympathise with you though Shan as I'm struggling too.

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Apr 7th, 2012, 15:28 PM	#9
bbyno1 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Londonn Posts: 18,652	Sophia is totally the same! She hates being put down even at night time! She was fine until a couple of weeks ago so I dunno what changed really! Because I also have aliyah I can't always tend to sophia straight away when she starts crying and the same goes for aliyah. I sometimes think she may have colic. Aliyah used to be the same but grew out of it so there is light at the end of the tunnel!

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Apr 7th, 2012, 20:09 PM	#10
x__amour Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Colorado Posts: 16,597	Unfortunately very common. It will pass though. Enjoy the cuddles while you can!

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