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Old Aug 6th, 2012, 13:33 PM   1
kayleigh1985
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LO won't fall asleep by herself


My daughter is 13 months old and has always fallen asleep with my help whether it be rocking her to sleep when she was younger or feeding her to sleep as she got older. She usually falls asleep when I give her her bedtime bottle and then I transfer her into her cot and she sleeps through most of the time.

Lately she is not falling asleep on her last bottle so I lay her in her cot and she cries. If I sit with her she cries until she wears herself out and falls asleep if I leave the room the cries turn into screams until I go back into her. I hate hearing her cry and know she's going to bed upset

I have no idea what to do. Has anyone got any suggestions?



 
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Old Aug 6th, 2012, 13:43 PM   2
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Right up until a week ago i had to hold/cuddle/rock paige to sleep, or lay beside her in my bed and then transfer her. This also resulted in her waking up numerous times during the night and screaming to come into my bed, which i usually gave into and she ended up with me/her dad.

not once in her life had she sttn and me and her dad decided to do somehing about it. We decided to give CC a go... It was our last hope! The first night she cried for 90minutes, and we went in and lay her down every 15/20 minutes. After that first night, she has cried for a maximum 5 minutes and thats it!

And... She has STTN ever since!

We can also put her in her cot for her nap too and she only moans for a couple of minutes before dropping off.

tonight, she never cried at all. I carried her into her room and told her i loved her, and would see her in the morning, lay her down walked out and closed the door... Not a peep! I know cc isnt for everyone, and i used to say i could never do it, but its been so much easier and effective than i thougt it would be and im so glad we did it. We have our bed back!



 
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Old Aug 6th, 2012, 14:00 PM   3
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That's really reassuring MrsMurphy... we are contemplating it with our almost 2 year old as she is horrendous. I have also always said I would never do it and truth be told I'm still not sure I will be able to but something has to be done as we are all exhausted and it's not doing our daughter any favours either.



 
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That's really reassuring MrsMurphy... we are contemplating it with our almost 2 year old as she is horrendous. I have also always said I would never do it and truth be told I'm still not sure I will be able to but something has to be done as we are all exhausted and it's not doing our daughter any favours either.
I know exactly how you feel. I was so sceptical about it and had decided against it for so long. It was definitely a last resort for us but I honestly couldnt believe the result after just one night! I think also, that as she is a bit older than alot of toddlers/babies who go through CC, she realised very quickly what was happening, and the second night she was crying when getting taken to bed but once she got there it was as if she decided "oh well, didnt work, might as well go to sleep". I know that its so hard to even contemplate doing it, but I dont regret it at all. And it has done Paige the world of good too, because liek you said... all the up and down and rocking and feeding etc does them no favours! Good luck whatever you decide to try!



 
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Old Aug 6th, 2012, 14:26 PM   5
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Oh god I don't know how you're managing Kayleigh. You and your husband deserve medals to be still rocking to sleep.

We have been doing a story after bottle so he doesn't drift off. He then has to have his bunny and little scout with environmental sounds which go for 20 mins. He actually loves going in to his cot. I then have to leave the room or he will want to play! Does she have a toy or sounds that she goes to sleep with?

I would be thinking cc if I was in your shoes! I hope you all work it out soon xx



 
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That's really reassuring MrsMurphy... we are contemplating it with our almost 2 year old as she is horrendous. I have also always said I would never do it and truth be told I'm still not sure I will be able to but something has to be done as we are all exhausted and it's not doing our daughter any favours either.
I know exactly how you feel. I was so sceptical about it and had decided against it for so long. It was definitely a last resort for us but I honestly couldnt believe the result after just one night! I think also, that as she is a bit older than alot of toddlers/babies who go through CC, she realised very quickly what was happening, and the second night she was crying when getting taken to bed but once she got there it was as if she decided "oh well, didnt work, might as well go to sleep". I know that its so hard to even contemplate doing it, but I dont regret it at all. And it has done Paige the world of good too, because liek you said... all the up and down and rocking and feeding etc does them no favours! Good luck whatever you decide to try!
Thank you - we are seriously considering it. How old is your daughter? We've also worried as we have an older daughter who isn't the best sleeper either and is woken up by Lucy crying and gets upset at hearing it too. But with it being the summer holidays she hasn't got to be up for school (she's almost 7) we thought now might be a good time to try.



 
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We don't rock her anymore but she usually falls asleep with her bottle but this isn't happening any more. She has the fisher price seahorse that she goes to sleep wih only problem is the music stops after 5 mins! She does have my pal violet but I've never used her at bedtime maybe I should give her a go...

We have given controlled crying a go tonight. I really didn't want to go down that route but I don't think I have much choice cos she's crying at night now anyway even though I'm sat with her! She fell asleep after 35 minutes of crying, I went into her every 10 minutes. I feel like an awful mum and hoping tomorrow is easier. Me and hubby have agreed to try it for 5 nights.



 
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Oh I forgot my sig had been deleted, oops. Shes 18.5 months not as old as your LO but shes definitely old enough and smart enough to know that shes not getting what she wants! It was tough hearng her the first night, but it wasnt too bad because I could hear she was screaming with rage at not getting her own way, rather that sobbing and crying her heart out because she wants mummy/daddy. We were actually laughing at her a little (cruel, I know) but she was shouting, "DAD DAD PLEASE" and "BOBO!" Any excuse to get us to come in! She knew what was happening the next night as she was fighting her dad when he was taking her in the room, but after that she gave in and fell asleep.

I didnt expect it to affect her sleep during the night, and I am still in shock that she sttn now! I thought that would never happen, and I was preparing for a 5 year old who still gets up in the night



 
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We don't rock her anymore but she usually falls asleep with her bottle but this isn't happening any more. She has the fisher price seahorse that she goes to sleep wih only problem is the music stops after 5 mins! She does have my pal violet but I've never used her at bedtime maybe I should give her a go...

We have given controlled crying a go tonight. I really didn't want to go down that route but I don't think I have much choice cos she's crying at night now anyway even though I'm sat with her! She fell asleep after 35 minutes of crying, I went into her every 10 minutes. I feel like an awful mum and hoping tomorrow is easier. Me and hubby have agreed to try it for 5 nights.
Good on you for giving it a try. Its hard isnt it? But 35 minutes is goood! (alot better than my LOs 90 minute first night)
I hope it works as good for you and your LO as it did for me and mine. Im sure you will see a huge difference in just a couple of nights



 
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Let's hope so!



 
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