My 4 year old is potty trained but wears a pull up to bed as he pees the bed. He refuses to poop in the potty though. He will hold it even if his tummy hurts, he will NOT poop in the potty. He waits until morning when he first wakes up and goes in his pull up. I can't take those away from him because he doesn't wake up to pee and has an overactive bladder. His baby sister poops on the potty and he praises her and is so proud but will even say to me "I am never going to poop on the potty, I use pull ups!" He's not scared of the potty and has never had any traumatic experiences, he just seems to be being very stubborn. There is not lack of communication because he talks very well, he gets a lot of attention, he isn't lacking anything, he just won't do it. I don't know what else to try!!
Sorry, when I say potty I mean toilet. I can't take away the pull ups because he has overactive kidneys and bladder, he pees all the time and will wake up several times a night wet. He sees a specialist about it, but is too young for the medication, he can start it when he's 10, until then he will be a bedwetter and in goodnights.
Aww poor boy
I would try reward charts, with a DVD/book/toy for when he earns enough stickers for pooping in the toilet. Try making it a game and explain pull ups are only for big boys wee not poops, that's for little boys.
Such a tricky one due to his bladder
Hope you get a solution soon.
My 3 1/2 year old is the same hun, but he has very limited communication and speech so hes not grasping it. Hes dry over night and wee's in the toilet all day but has never ever poo'd in the toilet, always his pants Hopefully one day itll just click! good luck x
Bless you. Is there no way you can intervene and get his nappy off right when he wakes. My 3 old, nearly 4, wears a nappy at night too, but I go into her room when i hear her in the morning and take it right off before she's even out of bed.
I would take it at his pace. William would only go in a nappy there for a while and I let him go, now does in toilet. He was constipated to so that slowed it down. Defo dont create negativity around it, take it slow and be on his side and he will come around. Gentle encouragement. Loads of empathy to.
Hey! Just wanted to say, that minus the bladder condition, my almost four-year old is exactly the same. He will hold it in until the night-time diaper comes out. And quite frankly, I am far more worried about him developing chronic childhood constipation issues than I am about the late pooping-on-the-potty skills. It absolutely sucks, but I have tried every trick in the book and am now working on acceptance and letting him make the poop decisions. Everything I have read has supported this, so I am just going to cross my fingers that my kid can have a bowel movement on the potty before he starts kindergarten. I wish I was kidding.
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