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Old Feb 6th, 2013, 12:45 PM   1
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14 month old has started to slap - Arghhhh help!!


Hello everyone.... First time mummy here and need some advice!

My 14 month old DS has started to slap in the last week and I'd really like some advice on the best way to deal with this. It's normally just the one slap quite lightly. When she does it she'll look at me for a reaction.... She knows its naughty. Most times I tell her no calmly and show her how to touch me gently and that'll be it.

Today she's been in a hell of a mood though. Super clingy and has been slapping me repeatedly. I've done the usual and told her no but today she's been slapping me again. When she's done this I've told her that mummy doesn't like to be hit and I've moved away from her or put her down. This results in a mini tantrum

Is this normal and should I just continue with this? Anyone have any advice for a better way of dealing with it? I've heard lots about distraction techniques or ignoring the behaviour but not sure what would work best.

She completely understands what I'm telling her. Her comprehension and communication are very good for her age so I feel it's more about rebellion and reaction. She's not talking yet apart from mum, dad, birdie, garden etc (just the basics) but she displays that she understands most of what I say to her. She will fetch the toys that I ask and when I tell her it's time to change her nappy she will pull out her change mat..... Sorry babbling its just to give you an idea of where she's at with her comprehension!

I'm still on maternity leave at the moment so she gets my attention 100% of the time so I'm not sure what's caused it.... Hopefully you'll tell me it's just normal behaviour lol. Just didn't think I'd be dealing with this so soon.

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Old Feb 6th, 2013, 13:15 PM   2
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My 14 month old little girl has also started doing this! I don't have any advice apart from wot u already do is the same as wot I do too, tell her no that she hurts mummy and show her how to touch me gently, I too get the mini tantrums!! U r not alone ha xxx



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Old Feb 6th, 2013, 13:36 PM   3
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It's difficult because I know a lot of mums have posted previously to say that distraction or ignoring works..... I suppose I just feel like I should do something rather than nothing lol. Just hope I'm not doing the wrong thing!



 
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Old Feb 6th, 2013, 13:39 PM   4
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I was very calm with my daughter. She was such a chilled out toddler. If she did something wrong, such as hitting, I would ask her to stop by saying "Caitlyn, we don't hit Mummy, it makes Mummy feel sad when you hit me." I always made sure I explained to her why she couldn't/shouldn't do something rather than just shouting no at her x



 
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Old Feb 6th, 2013, 14:21 PM   5
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Children learn what negative behaviour is from us, so your LO knows its naughty from you and does it because she gets a reaction. My LO has slapped (not trying to just the motion) etc in the past but I've just ignored it so she doesn't carry on doing it when she's trying to push the boundaries, at this age they will push you for a reaction with anything, LO's thing is dragging me to the stair gate and playing with things that are dangerous. Since she already knows its naughty, I would just ignore LO, put him down and move away, once he realises he doesn't get any attention from it he will eventually stop doing it.



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Old Feb 6th, 2013, 17:09 PM   6
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I thought initially about not even acknowledging it as I'd read about other people getting positive results from it. I think I'd like to try it but I suppose ignoring that kind of behaviour just goes against my adult instincts.... I'd just be mortified if she did it to another child.
She already knows that its naughty so i suppose that's part of the battle. Think I'll just ignore it for a few days and see how that goes x



 
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Old Feb 6th, 2013, 21:21 PM   7
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My baby has done this for about 2 months now - I don't do distraction or ignoring because to me that's not dealing with the behavior. She does it when she is frustrated or bored but it is still not okay to hit, iykwim. When she does I tell her in a calm voice not to do that, it hurts and is not nice. If she does it again, I say that again and put her down. She will pitch a fit, and I let her. I tell her that it's okay to be angry and when she is ready to be nice then she can come to me.

I'm sure she doesn't get it yet, but someday she will - who knows when it will click?



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Old Feb 7th, 2013, 02:28 AM   8
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^ this is how I would deal with it personally.



 
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Old Feb 7th, 2013, 02:34 AM   9
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Same here, my dd did it around 12-13 months when her molars where coming in, at that age we just told her no and explained why and set her down. She stopped for a while but has been doing it again recently (16 months) which is coinciding with her next 4 teeth coming in. Not saying that's an excuse but I do think she is more "angry" when teething and as she's still sleeping ok at night I'll deal with the slaps and tantrums which inevitably follow when she gets told off!



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Old Feb 7th, 2013, 04:01 AM   10
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Thanks everyone. That's how I've been dealing with it so far but theres just so many different techniques suggested in the baby books that its so hard to decide which one is best.......

First time mum syndrome!!! X



 
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