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Old May 13th, 2013, 09:35 AM   1
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Following through with threats


If you say to little one 'if u don't behave / stop doing that we're going home' do you always follow through with that?



 
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Old May 13th, 2013, 09:39 AM   2
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Baby not born yet, but yes I plan to. Otherwise it is just an idle threat and they will learn to ignore you and it is no longer a threat! My pet peeve is parents who do the count to 3 thing and then do nothing when they get to 3 while the child ignores them completely.



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Old May 13th, 2013, 09:49 AM   3
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Oh yes!! I see no point making empty threats!
My DH makes them all the time and I just think our lo has cottoned on to the fact it won't happen so he carry's on being naughty.
I make my threats more realistic like 'If you don't stop doing xyz then you'll go on the naughty step' or something similar. He knows full well that I will not leave somewhere if we are out especially if we have paid to get in!



 
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Old May 13th, 2013, 09:53 AM   4
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Yes i follow through otherwise there is no point. I try to make sure they are realistic otherwise it can be hard to follow through. Like i'd never say 'if you do that again you won't be going on holiday' as obviously we wouldn't cancel a family holiday and loose 1000's . I try to do things like 'if you do x again you will have to go to your room/sit at the bottom of the stairs/have no pudding after dinner' etc.



 
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Old May 13th, 2013, 09:53 AM   5
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Short answer: Yes.

Long answer: I had to with our oldest (as she could reeeeeally push limits lol)-- and tbh, it took some time, but once she knew I was serious- I didn't have to say what the consequence was, she knew, and all I had to do was ask her to stop once... so it worked well! But it was also something we dealt with on different situations- and different times as she grew and understood more and our expectations grew accordingly... but realistically.

With LO- I do stand by what I say. Although she is much younger, and doesn't really "get it" yet- she will in time. And it's just good practice for me to keep calm and follow through.

I guess I don't look at them as threats though- and I try to keep the consequence appropriate to the situation (best I can). I also try to keep my own expectations realistic as my LO is a 19mos old toddler. So I need to know her limits too, as well as my own.



 
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Old May 13th, 2013, 09:59 AM   6
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Really no but its more because I dont make unreasonable threats in the first place. If you are going to say something you have to be realistic about it and make sure the punishment isnt going to make you sufger more than the child



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Old May 13th, 2013, 10:09 AM   7
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I was in cafe today & LO misbehaving a bit I said you need to behave or we'll have to go home. My friend said I should not make idle threats!!!



 
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Old May 13th, 2013, 10:14 AM   8
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I tend to keep mine to 'If you don't stop, you'll go on the naughty step'... I tried 'you'll not get any more treats today', but that doesn't work with Kilian b/c when he asked for a treat (a gummibear or whatever) 3hrs later, he couldn't make the connection with his earlier naughtiness as to why I refused him... Just led to a nuclear tantrum with no real lesson learned...
Lindsey gets it now though, so I can follow through with a 'harsher' consequence if need be. It is hard, though. I am kind of a 'blow up and blow over' sort of personality and half the time I'VE forgotten come later on
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Old May 13th, 2013, 10:14 AM   9
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If that was me and i'd said it in the heat of the moment i would of followed through as i do think that it sends the wrong message if you don't.



 
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Old May 13th, 2013, 17:44 PM   10
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heck yes! "if you dont sit down and eat its going in the trash" its the same as when i give a warning for misbehaving "if you do x again you will go in time out, this is your warning"

I always follow through and i honestly believe because he knows i'll follow through the warning is normally enough to stop the problem!



 
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