Baby not born yet, but yes I plan to. Otherwise it is just an idle threat and they will learn to ignore you and it is no longer a threat! My pet peeve is parents who do the count to 3 thing and then do nothing when they get to 3 while the child ignores them completely.
Oh yes!! I see no point making empty threats!
My DH makes them all the time and I just think our lo has cottoned on to the fact it won't happen so he carry's on being naughty.
I make my threats more realistic like 'If you don't stop doing xyz then you'll go on the naughty step' or something similar. He knows full well that I will not leave somewhere if we are out especially if we have paid to get in!
Yes i follow through otherwise there is no point. I try to make sure they are realistic otherwise it can be hard to follow through. Like i'd never say 'if you do that again you won't be going on holiday' as obviously we wouldn't cancel a family holiday and loose 1000's £. I try to do things like 'if you do x again you will have to go to your room/sit at the bottom of the stairs/have no pudding after dinner' etc.
Long answer: I had to with our oldest (as she could reeeeeally push limits lol)-- and tbh, it took some time, but once she knew I was serious- I didn't have to say what the consequence was, she knew, and all I had to do was ask her to stop once... so it worked well! But it was also something we dealt with on different situations- and different times as she grew and understood more and our expectations grew accordingly... but realistically.
With LO- I do stand by what I say. Although she is much younger, and doesn't really "get it" yet- she will in time. And it's just good practice for me to keep calm and follow through.
I guess I don't look at them as threats though- and I try to keep the consequence appropriate to the situation (best I can). I also try to keep my own expectations realistic as my LO is a 19mos old toddler. So I need to know her limits too, as well as my own.
Really no but its more because I dont make unreasonable threats in the first place. If you are going to say something you have to be realistic about it and make sure the punishment isnt going to make you sufger more than the child
I tend to keep mine to 'If you don't stop, you'll go on the naughty step'... I tried 'you'll not get any more treats today', but that doesn't work with Kilian b/c when he asked for a treat (a gummibear or whatever) 3hrs later, he couldn't make the connection with his earlier naughtiness as to why I refused him... Just led to a nuclear tantrum with no real lesson learned...
Lindsey gets it now though, so I can follow through with a 'harsher' consequence if need be. It is hard, though. I am kind of a 'blow up and blow over' sort of personality and half the time I'VE forgotten come later on
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