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Old Jul 29th, 2013, 16:25 PM   1
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Nursery - is it beneficial?


A question for anyone who's had LOs at nursery.

Max has been going since Jan when he was 10 months old, two afternoons a week. I don't work at the moment, but I didn't want him to miss out on independence and socialising that other babies would get at nursery, so I send him for his own benefit.

The thing is, I really miss him. I feel like I spend too much time away from him (he has Wednesday afternoons with grandparents and I don't think they'd be prepared to give that up!) and I always end up picking him up early. He still doesn't like it when I drop him off there though he's always happy enough when I sneak a look at him before going in to get him. So I guess I'm wondering, in your experience, do LOs get much out of nursery, socially or developmentally? OH thinks I should leave him in, it does him good etc, and I want to do the best for him, but I also want to hang out with my little fella as much as possible because he's growing up so fast.

We do go to plenty of classes, clubs and play dates.



 
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Old Jul 29th, 2013, 16:29 PM   2
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I think it definitely helps. And I think the structure of nursery school can be really beneficial. It is a very worthwhile thing to do.

However, if you miss him and want to be with him, do it! No matter how worthwhile nursery is, being with mummy is just as good for them!



 
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Old Jul 29th, 2013, 16:30 PM   3
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I think that is totally your call-- our LO is home with MIL during 4 days. And she takes her to play groups or the park- etc... but we are putting her in daycare (two half days a week) starting August. For me, that decision was made to give my MIL a bit of a break- but also, to help get LO used to that structure and socialization... I think at her age, it can be beneficial (especially in preparing for pre-school). She is almost 2yrs. And before, she just really played on her own or next to kids- not really with them, if that makes sense... but that has changed over the last few months so we felt it was a good time to get her started.

It's all such a personal choice though- it's not like my LO wouldn't be social if she didn't go to daycare-- she's a social kid by nature. Very friendly and outgoing- and loves to play and be active. She's be just fine either way- but like I said, we had our reasons to start her now.

I think you know what is best for your LO (and you). So just do that. You could maybe back it down to one day a week for a while- then go back to 2dys later on when he's older? Just an idea



 
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Old Jul 29th, 2013, 16:48 PM   4
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At that age i Don't think there's anything at nursery that can't be beaten by family time. He's got his whole life to socialise and it sounds like you're a,ready doing toddler groups etc and him being away from you with grandparents. So if you feel like you're missing out, you probably are. I personally think 2.5 onwards is abut right for first time nursery experiences.



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Old Jul 29th, 2013, 17:07 PM   5
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If at all possible i think children under 3/4 benefit more being at home.

Children under 3 tend not to socialise anyway.

Personally i wouldnt send a child to nursery until i had too for work or at pre school age.



 
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Old Jul 29th, 2013, 17:28 PM   6
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My children won't be going to nursery, I don't see the point, they'll be staying with me until they start school!

I've gotten ALOT of criticism over this decision but its my personal opinion.x



 
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Old Jul 29th, 2013, 17:42 PM   7
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The majority of research suggests that there aren't any real benefits to nursery until 2.5-3 years. If he doesn't need to go and you want to take him out, then do it! You will never get this time back and there is no better place for him than with his mummy.



 
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Old Jul 29th, 2013, 18:10 PM   8
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My children won't be going to nursery, I don't see the point, they'll be staying with me until they start school!

I've gotten ALOT of criticism over this decision but its my personal opinion.x
I can't understand people criticising that at all. Children do equally well whether at nursery or at home, to me it is, purely down to what works best for the whole family. So, if a mum or dad is at home, and the children are with them, what's to criticise?



 
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Old Jul 29th, 2013, 19:14 PM   9
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Im off university for the summer and withdrew lo until i return in september... as he is so young still and he will have plenty of time in the future to go to nursery/school and develop and socialise but at the moment i love being with him every day. although i think he will love going back in september and i am sort of lookin forward to having a little break again sometimes or just time for a cuppa tea in peace lol x



 
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Old Jul 29th, 2013, 19:32 PM   10
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Asher will be put into a daycare 2 days a week once the baby arrives. I want him to adjust to it because when the baby is around 6 months old, I'd like to have them both in daycare full time so I can go back to work.

I'd like to do it when the baby comes because it would be nice to have some quieter days with just the baby.



 
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