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Old Sep 28th, 2015, 07:26 AM   11
BabyMamma93
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they came for dinner the other day and i said as soon as they walked in thst we are to be quiet, play gently and nicely because M is going to bed, i put him to bed and after about half hour of talking away to himself he went to sleep, its not that i cant do it but sometimes he will carry on until he cries himself to sleep, and that breaks my heart, i am going to be more strict with it now though and tell people no visits too late



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Old Sep 28th, 2015, 10:55 AM   12
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We haven't had any sort of routine with my LO at any point in her life, really. She will usually go to bed between 8 and 9 but sometimes stays up a bit later and we don't make a big deal out of it or tell her she has to go to bed before a specific time, especially if we have people over as she loves socializing. I think for us being relaxed with bedtimes actually ensures that she isn't a terror the next day if there's been a change to what she's used to.

I have friends who have a very relaxed approach to bedtime like I do and friends who have to leave at 7pm on the dot because their kids need to be in bed by 7:30 and I don't really notice much difference in behaviour. My LO is a spirited little thing but she's friendly, gentle, and has energy for days... I can't see anyone who knows her saying anything negative about her behaviour (aside from normal toddler stuff of course)!



 
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Old Sep 28th, 2015, 13:41 PM   13
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We're pretty relaxed too and follow her cues, and that seems to work well for her. She stayed up until around 10 the other night for whatever reason, and the only difference that had the next day was causing her to sleep until almost 9 AM. Her bedtime really doesn't seem to have an impact on her behavior.

But if she misses her 2 hour nap after lunch... woah boy. She's a cranky lady then.



 
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Old Sep 28th, 2015, 16:04 PM   14
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I think It really depends on the child. Thomas has a rigid waking, eating and sleeping routine. He gets up at 7am, has meals at 7.15/30, 12 and 4pm (with some snacks in between) and goes to bed at 6.30. He obviously has a routine at school but at home other than those 3 things It is relaxed. However those 3 things have to be rigid or He will go batshit crazy (He has additional needs). As a younger toddler/baby He didn't have much of a routine but I think I should have really stuck to one as He benefits so much from the one He has now.

No other child is like my son so what works for him probably won't work for others.



 
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Old Sep 28th, 2015, 16:40 PM   15
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We've always had a bedtime routine for the boys which has always been in place since a few weeks old. When they are very young babies it doesn't throw too much if it isn't rigid but as they get older it does. I start by following their cues which is just before 6 for ds3 (no daytime routine but starting to see a pattern) 6-6:30 for ds2 and he's only started having daytime routines in the past 6-9 months and gets overtired very easily. 7ish for ds1 but he has started wanting later bedtimes which we are experimenting with. We rarely plan times that disrupt this and it's usually when we are out. If people are over late (which is rare) we still put them to bed as needed. I can't imagine anyone has had problems before. We are more leninant to ds1 staying up late. We do have children who are early risers and late nights make no difference. I honestly think a regular bedtime routine is important tbh. If what's right for your child is a later one then that's what's right but a routine none the less. Otherwise it's just not fair on them same as it would be for you if you had to stay up 1-2 hours after your bedtime every night.
Plus like others have said it means me and oh get 2-3 hours for us, we will watch our shows oh might play on the comp etc etc. if anyone chose to visit it would be once they are in bed.



 
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Old Sep 28th, 2015, 17:27 PM   16
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Routine is important for most people and generally speaking kids thrive with routine. Certainly implementing a routine has helped with a lot of Maria's behavioral problems.

That said, we had no routine when I was a kid, and on the plus side it made us all very adaptable. I've always found it easy to adjust to new timetables etc. But I've also always had issues with sleeping which may have been caused by a lack of a routine bedtime.

I try and keep a balance with Maria between routine and adaptability so she gets the benefit of a routine but is also able to stay up later if we're out somewhere or its a special occasion.



 
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Old Sep 28th, 2015, 17:54 PM   17
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I have to hAve routine and I stick to it
Sometimes means I miss out on things but so be it
I love having my evenings to myself with oh and couldn't have kids up all night till I went to bed
Mine are 1 & half and 3 & half and go to bed at 6 & 7 they do wake early sometimes 6 sometimes 7 has been even earlier but I still wouldn't change it x I won't have kids out past there bedtime . Daytime isn't set in stone but around the same times for lunch nap tea etc x



 
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Old Sep 28th, 2015, 19:03 PM   18
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My boys thrive on routine as well. Especially Sebastian likes to stick to what he knows and even wants to cross the road at the same point every day . I think children so often feel out of control in their world that knowing what comes next can give them a sense of security. Might be different for different children and parents but I too like knowing and planning in advance.



 
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Old Sep 29th, 2015, 05:25 AM   19
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My 2 yo struggles with a late bedtime and will always wake between 6-7am no matter how late he stays up. If we know he's going to be going to bed late we try to get him to take a nap. With a late bedtime hes fine the night of the late night but the next day can be horrendous....won't listen to instructions, loses patience at the smallest of things and it's really the only time he would have a tantrum.



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Old Sep 30th, 2015, 10:46 AM   20
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quick question for routine mamas.. what do you do if your child wont nap at their normal nap time, and only go down to nap like 3 hours before bedtime??



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