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Old Apr 26th, 2016, 06:52 AM   1
AngelofTroy
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Preparing LO for new baby tips please!


We've read the books, and he definitely understands and is looking forward to the baby coming, but as my due date approaches I'm becoming increasingly anxious about how our 3.5yo will react when the baby arrives. We have 6ish weeks to go and I'm looking for any tips on preparing him and also things to help when she is here. Thanks!



 
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Old Apr 26th, 2016, 07:17 AM   2
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Dd was 2.5 when her brother arrived and it was the smoothest transformation ever!. We got dd involved in buying her brothers clothes and toys and she helped me pack my hospital bag ready to meet her brother, she also helped me with buying essentials and we talked about her brother all the time! From day one they've been crazy about each other 😄



 
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Old Apr 26th, 2016, 07:18 AM   3
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Also dd helped with making bottles and the bathing, she loved it and told everyone he was her baby to look after haha



 
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Old Apr 26th, 2016, 08:18 AM   4
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I have an exactly 3 year gap between my two boys.At first my eldest wasn't too bothered about his brother.He didn't like it when he cried but didn't pay him much attention otherwise.He did refuse to sit with him for any photos though until he was about 5 months old !!
They are best friends now at nearly 2 and nearly 5.
I think be prepared for maybe some jealously and attention seeking behaviour at first.Good luck x



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Old Apr 26th, 2016, 08:20 AM   5
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Forgot to add I tried to keep bedtime routine as close to the present baby routine as possible.My son really loved his bedtime stories etc and it was our time even with a breast feeding baby attached !!



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Old Apr 26th, 2016, 09:50 AM   6
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We have pretty much an identical age gap. First off dont expect it to be all love and sunshine, he may well have some negative reactions to his baby sister. This is normal and nothing to be worried about.

Involve him where you can but also make sure he gets his own space and own one to one attention. Try and make sure that you get one to one time with him as well, whether its when the baby naps or OH takes them.

But they will love each other. Samy cant remember life without him now and even though there are times he gets on her nerves she also loves him. He sees himself as her protector and only he is allowed to upset her. The biggest thing for her though was also being involved in naming him, he has asked why he is called Charlie and loves the fact that she called him it .

And a sling is very helpful for not breaking routine.



 
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Old Apr 26th, 2016, 10:16 AM   7
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Thanks all, so many helpful things!

Quartz, Micah has actually suggested a name that we like (Juniper) so it's good to know that you found that helped them to bond.



 
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Old Apr 26th, 2016, 11:02 AM   8
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Thanks all, so many helpful things!

Quartz, Micah has actually suggested a name that we like (Juniper) so it's good to know that you found that helped them to bond.
they both really like the fact. Charlie does ask why he we named him Charlie and loves the fact his sister picked it. For me I wanted Charlotte for a girl and its OH middle name and a family name so it made sense. But it definitely has added to the bond right from the start.

I like Juniper I think it goes with Micah



 
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Old Apr 26th, 2016, 12:40 PM   9
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I think its a great age gap 👍🏻
DS was just over 3 when DD was born. I tried to get him involved in choosing clothes etc, but he just was not interested, which made me worried

We did gift from the baby thing, but he was not bothered about present, he loved the baby

We had my mum around few weeks before and after the birth, so he got a lot of attention. He was never agressive towards baby, but to seek attention he started doing some things like puring water on the floor etc, so whenever he did that i made sure i give him loads of cuddles

You can prepare as much as you can, but it still be a big thing for your DS
It all will work fine, but dont get upset if the transition wont be very smooth, i was worried a lot about it, but give it few month and your DS wont know how he lived wothout the baby



 
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Old Apr 26th, 2016, 16:45 PM   10
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My new baby isn't here yet, so I don't know how well these things actually work, but two specific tips that I've heard from friends really resonated, so I'm trying to incorporate them as much as I can:

1. We talk a LOT about all of the things that will stay exactly the same once baby sister arrives... Mommy or daddy will still tuck you into your cozy bed every night; we will read stories to your teddy bear and play with your cars; we'll still go on adventures to the playground; Aunt Louise will still come visit for your special playtimes, etc.

2. Once the new baby is here, make a point to frequently let the older child hear you tell the baby that they need to wait for something (even if you have to make something up) bc you are helping big brother right now. The baby won't really understand or care about "waiting" to get their sock put back on, but the older child will definitely notice the times they have to wait.

We'll see how it goes. I'm preparing for drama, but mostly trying to remind myself that billions of humans over the course of history have adapted to having a sibling.



 
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