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Old Jun 18th, 2016, 07:02 AM   1
Sarah125
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Behaviour problems since new baby arrived


I haven't posted in a long time but I'm feeling totally out of my depth at the moment.

Sophie (nearly 3 years old) has always been a determined independent little girl but since the birth of Emily (4 weeks old) her behaviour seems to be getting worse and I'm not sure how to deal with it.

The main issue is she keeps hitting and kicking the dog, so much so that the dog is now scared whenever she goes near him. At the moment when she does it I'm sending her up to her room to calm down and then once she's calm I speak to her and tell her that hurts the dog etc but it doesn't seem to be sinking in at all. She is a very bright, little girl and her language skills are excellent so she knows what I'm saying.

She is also not getting enough sleep as she is literally refusing to go to bed but also wakes up early!

She is also refusing to leave house, refusing to use toilet/change nappy (she was toilet trained before) amongst other things but I can cope with this if she wasn't hurting the dog.

She has been lovely to her little sister and loves to help with everything. I've also been making sure I spend time with her as much as possible and we have went on a few days trips since Emily was born as a little treat for her.

Any advice to deal with this or will it just pass once Emily is older?



 
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Old Jun 18th, 2016, 07:31 AM   2
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I had similar things when i had my second/third i would personally praise her for everything good she is doing and everything bad i would totally ignore..obviously with the whole dog thing just keep the dog away from her for the time being i would just make sure that they arent in a room together for the moment she is probably just doing it for attention..Maybe just give it a go and see how she is after a week or so..this is what i had to do and it did help us.
sorry i cant be of much help x



 
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Old Jun 18th, 2016, 14:33 PM   3
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If it helps, my lo is a month younger and is suddenly really angry. No life changes here (well except potty training and moving nursery room in the last 8 weeks) but suddenly she's kicking, lashing out, trying to bite, throwing things. I think it must be a developmental leap and they find it hard to deal with. For example Imogen seems to have just become aware of smells - keeps saying 'I can smell something' and has become resistant to loud noises which has never been a thing before. I'm just trying to model appropriate responses and have explained it's fine if she gets angry and wants to throw things but it has to be a soft toy and not aimed at anyone. Maybe explain that if she feels the need to hit she needs to use a pillow?



 
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Old Jun 18th, 2016, 17:05 PM   4
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Ds1 is playing up a lot since ds2 was born he does just about anything to get attention and he's getting plenty already as ds2 is a calm easy going baby. He has been annoying the dog but not kicking. He gets lots of time and attention, we are out to parks etc every day and have had lots of projects together like egg cress heads and we always have time together doing play doh or puzzles when ds2 naps in the afternoon. I don't know what more to do will be following for any ideas as we are struggling too X



 
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Old Jun 19th, 2016, 00:04 AM   5
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I'd say it's a phase and will pass. In the meantime, keep the dog away from her.



 
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Old Jun 21st, 2016, 01:21 AM   6
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Thanks everyone. She seems to have been better the last few days. I don't think she's hit the dog at all which is great! Here's hoping it will pass soon and hopefully will for everyone else struggling too. It's hard to keep her seperate from dog as it would mean he would be put away most of the day as my partner works long shifts - hopefully they are back to being best friends again anyway fingers crossed.



 
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