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Old Aug 16th, 2016, 04:35 AM   31
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I agree so much with what Wilsey said! When you said that he was jealous of his younger sister I went "aha!" in my mind. I think this is the nub of thing. He too wants to be your baby still as he thinks he will get more attention that way.
I have a friend whose little girl does not want to be a big girl cause being a big girl means responsibility and in her mind, very little of the comfortable known certainty of what she has had so far. And to be honest, so often that argument of you are a big boy/girl now is used to try to get them to do something that is not all that fun for them. So maybe there could be something really fun for him to do now that he is a big boy? Not as a bribe to get him to do other things but just to show him that some things are really more fun for big boys?



 
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Old Aug 16th, 2016, 06:17 AM   32
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It defends on the personality of the child really I think- my ds1 often needs to be coaxed into doing 'big boy' things and yes initially learning them is not that fun but he is definitely proud of his achievement when he masters it and that makes it so worth it



 
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Old Aug 16th, 2016, 07:30 AM   33
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I agree AngelUK about reinforcing that being a big boy brings benefits.

It doesn't have to mean expensive things, it depends on your child's personality again but often kids like helping out so you could give him an extra job to help you with and tell him he's only allowed to do it because he's such a big boy now. We also said our son could have his first trip to the cinema with daddy because he was a big boy. Or you could point out how he doesn't have to have naps any more (if he doesn't!), or gets to stay up later... basically anything you can think of that he enjoys doing that you could say is because he's big now.



 
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Old Aug 17th, 2016, 08:01 AM   34
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I agree so much with what Wilsey said! When you said that he was jealous of his younger sister I went "aha!" in my mind. I think this is the nub of thing. He too wants to be your baby still as he thinks he will get more attention that way.
I have a friend whose little girl does not want to be a big girl cause being a big girl means responsibility and in her mind, very little of the comfortable known certainty of what she has had so far. And to be honest, so often that argument of you are a big boy/girl now is used to try to get them to do something that is not all that fun for them. So maybe there could be something really fun for him to do now that he is a big boy? Not as a bribe to get him to do other things but just to show him that some things are really more fun for big boys?
Totally agree with this point. I used this with DS2 as a way to bribe him into potty training, because big boys got to do some fun things that he couldn't do if he was still using a diaper. Diapers don't mean big boy. Driving the power wheel toy was a big one for him. He wanted to drive it so bad, but I only let him ride in it with DS1 driving it until he actually potty trained so we could use it as a reward for being a big boy.

OP, sometimes it's just finding that right incentive, too. Both of my boys were absolute nightmares to potty train. I don't wish to ever repeat potty training again, lol. With DS1, I tried every type of bribe, reward system, diaper free, potty vs toilet, whatever. You name it, we tried it. He had zero interest. Then, he saw fish at the pet store and wanted one really, really bad. Bingo. That was the incentive. He potty trained within 2 days to get that fish.



 
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Old Aug 18th, 2016, 06:15 AM   35
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Thanks all. I'm definitely trying to reinforce that being a big boy is a positive thing. He really likes sitting at the back on the bus, so I've been telling him that only big boys get to do this and little boys have to sit in buggies. We're also going to thomasland for his birthday, so I've been telling him that big boys get to go on the rides.

I can't really think of anything that I can say no to until he is a big boy using the potty. Thomasland would have worked well for that but we had already promised him it for his birthday, so I can't really withdraw it.



 
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Old Aug 18th, 2016, 06:29 AM   36
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Weird question but are you just using potty. The only reason I ask is my daughter didn't like potty but went on toilet. We did pull ups and then I took her to toilet with me and just stuck her on toilet. Once she was ready took 2 weeks to fully train which was lucky as she started school 1 month after turning 4. She did love rewards though. If you have a year I would just let him tell you when ready. Have you been out and let himnpick own pants. My dd clicked when zhenwas desperate not to wee on Minnie hahaha



 
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Old Aug 18th, 2016, 09:05 AM   37
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Speaking from personal experience - though mine is 2 and 4 months old, tv doesn't help remind them to go when it's time. It's tough to turn it off but try that as well. My little guy doesn't seem phased when he wets his pants while he is playing or watching tv. Only when he is completely naked will he remember to pee in the toilet or the potty while he is playing or watching tv.
I would try turning off the tv and it wouldn't hurt to try the book too. I am going to order pirate Pete too. We have "I want my potty". It helped in the beginning but he seems indifferent to it now.



 
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I just want to update on this from last year. We gave up at the point I posted the thread and put him back in nappies. From Christmas, we moved to pull ups and I started putting the contents of his nappy in the toilet. We tried really hard to encourage him without forcing him. At one point, we managed to get him to sit on the toilet when we saw he was doing a poo and he sat on there for ages and then did it as soon as he had his pull up back on. At this point, I thought we would never get there and he would be starting school not toilet trained.

Last week I bought him a toy and said he could have it when he started using the toilet. He also chose some big boy pants. When we got home he asked to wear them and had lots of accidents. Since then, he has done so well and I'm really proud of him! He has started to co-operate and tell us when he needs to wee and will go and do it on the toilet!!! He is still having poo accidents but I'm confident he will get there. I'm so relieved!

It just goes to show that waiting until they're ready really is the way to go. I've only noticed him fiddle when he needs to wee only a few weeks ago, before that he gave me no sign at all that he needed to wee. 😀😀😀😀



 
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That is great! Well done!



 
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Edit: never mind. I see the update.



 
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