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Old Sep 1st, 2016, 21:00 PM   11
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I have a 4 year old, and he is pretty much like this too. Yep.



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Old Sep 2nd, 2016, 01:20 AM   12
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My lg will be 5 next month and lately she has been a NIGHTMAR. She had sleep issues anywau and some nights will be awake for 3 hours so she is tired in the day. She has been very cheeky, pushing boundaries and just being a devil. Hope it will pass! Lol



 
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Old Sep 2nd, 2016, 02:47 AM   13
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Woke up this morning, doing so well until it came to me leaving for work

Mega meltdown. Only the last two days has he done this when I go to work? xx



 
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Old Sep 2nd, 2016, 12:52 PM   14
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I swear age four has been way way harder than any other age so far. Our daughter is currently going through this. She has a tantrum when I say no to things or say it's bedtime or cleaning up time....and then she gets mad and says she can't love me and my heart breaks. She changes her mind later and loves me again but yeah.. 4 has been a challenging age in her and my first. Thankfully, he is 6 now and has been getting a lot easier. Good luck! I know it's really challenging!



 
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Old Sep 2nd, 2016, 13:28 PM   15
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It sounds normal to me too. I have a just over 4 year old and still have various battles over control. It sounds like you do lots of lovely things together. Try and alter how you communicate with him. It sounds like you are in a pattern of behaviour. He does something, you respond, he reacts etc. Try changing what you do. For example rather than telling him not to do something ask him a question to come up with the reason not to do it - like rather than tell him not to go near the waters edge ask why it's dangerous for people to go near the edge, what does he think could happen. Or if you have battles at particular times in the day like getting ready to leave, change your routine so you don't enter into the same battle. Try and have days when you only give him positives and distract from the negatives. I find that just feels better to me and gives a positive relief from the battle your in. Most of all though it's just a phase and will pass. Good luck.



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Old Sep 2nd, 2016, 17:07 PM   16
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I have started to praise him more when he is good so that he realises it's good to be good.

Like today I was talking to my MIL and I was telling him to wait as he was interrupting, he waited so when I was finished I said well done for waiting jenson that was very polite of you what did you want to ask mummy? And for the first time in what feels like a very long time, we have sat down tonight for tea and a film and we haven't had one tantrum or argument. I can't tell you how good it feels to not be at loggerheads.

Alas tomorrow is a new day, but I'm hopeful this won't go on forever.

Thank you for all your comments, it's nice to know you aren't alone sometimes xxxx



 
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Old Sep 2nd, 2016, 17:51 PM   17
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With my 4 year old i find this all comes in cycles. He has a bad week, then a couple of good ones, then a bad one again... Some weeks he is just really on edge and emotional. Who knows what is going on in their little heads? I just try to be as calm and patient as I can and not take things personally (easier said than done after a night of very little sleep - we can only do our best!). Whenever we are having a really bad week (like me this week! Lots of very stressful moments with my 4 year old) I remind myself that next week will almost certainly be much better! Just the way it seems to work for us.



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Old Sep 3rd, 2016, 11:01 AM   18
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Three is definitely the age to push boundaries. My 3 year old is a threenager. It's normal behaviour and some days I also just want to sink a bottle of prosecco.

If you like reading...anything by Janet Lansbury is brilliant. I also like a book called the Wholebrain Child. Also Happy Mum Happy Child (nlp techniqies).

One sentence above most has helped me immensely. Sometimes I forget to say it but when I remember it's incredible. Ask them 'what are you trying to do'.

For eg my daughter was having a tantrum on the rope swing. She wasn't happy and wasn't sharing. It turns out she didn't do the first swing correctly. So instead of me telling her to share and go to the back of the queue, she was helped to do the swing correctly. She'd been so frustrated and went to happy child instantly. It doesn't always work but in the majority of cases it does.

Another thing that works for friends I'd a good behaviour jar and treasure box. Buy ping pong ballls or something similar and when your son behaves well acknowledge it and put a ball in the jar. Pick an amount that works for you or when the jar is full, your son gets to pick a wrapped present from the treasure box. Maybe raid the dollar store/pound shop.

Sounds like you're a great mum and doing and awesome job.



 
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Old Sep 4th, 2016, 14:53 PM   19
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Spud... Can I check the title of happy mum happy child please? Can't find it on Amazon. Thx!



 
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Old Sep 4th, 2016, 17:37 PM   20
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It's actually Happy Kids Happy You by Sue Beaver. I must read it again now my daughter is a bit older. It's also really easy to read too.



 
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