Hi, apologies if this gets long, dd2 has several food allergies. She's cmpa and gluten intolerant and has epi pens for soya, lentil and pea allergies. I thought I was doing ok with it all. Got her diet sorted, had a happy and thriving baby. Then I had our first near miss and it's scared me half to death!
We were at a play group in a big hall, they have a box of biscuits on a table which parents can help themselves to or give to their children. I always take dd2 a snack, which I'd given her, but she was hanging around the table looking all starving and pathetic in that special toddler way. I moved her away countless times and then dd1 wanted a drink. I took dd1 over to our bag in the opposite corner, handed her a drink and then turned around to see some random woman handing dd2 a chocolate chip cookie! I screamed NO and legged it across the room to snatch the biscuit back. My heart was in my mouth and I've honestly never felt so panicky before in my life. The woman just looked at me like I was a loon, even after I explained about the epi pens she just shrugged and walked off.
I know I should have expected that someone would try to feed her at some point, but we've managed 18 months without it happening. I think I got complacent.
Dd2 is 18 months old and, with the best will in the world, she doesn't understand her allergies. If someone hands her something she likes the look of she would simply eat it. Does anyone have ideas on how to keep her safe?
I try to be with her, but I have dd1 too and sometimes my attention is divided. I don't want to be the helicopter mum, I want her to be able to play. She won't wear bibs anymore (not even to eat). I'm struggling to find allergy alert bracelet that would even fit her.
I really didn't think people fed random small children! Even before my allergy baby I just wouldn't have done it. Is anyone else struggling with this? Or even better got a magic answer? I just keep thinking what could have happened if I'd not looked round in time
My 2 year old son also has multiple food allergies. Until recently he was allergic to milk/diary, soy, eggs, and peanuts, but fortunately he has recently outgrown the milk & soy allergies. I've been in similar situations multiple times. It is scary. There's no easy answer, other than I just try to frequently remind people and always have his epi pen on us. I guess I don't have any real advice, just that I know the stress and you're not alone.
I would also go with some sort of badge or even a message on a t-shirt or something for occasions like these.
Frankly, though, the woman was a bit of a prat and shouldn't have given her anything. With all the allergy awareness that is around these days, people should know better. I don't even give random dogs bits of food just in case!
Etsy and safetots do alert bracelets for toddlers but to be honest most people won't pay much attention. May be a little dramatic and annoying but for those types of places that have the risk of her getting to food (or people who give her food) could you use reins. That way she wont ever be far away enough from you to get it and saves the worry and potential harm or need for using the epi pen on her. May be tiring for you and a little restrictive but at least it keeps her safe until she's old enough to know what she can and can't have x
Wow that must have been super scary. Glad she's ok though.
My DD2 also has CMPA only recently diagnosed . She's nearly 15 months. I think she's also allergic to soya too but waiting to see a dietitian and get some allergy tests done.
With regards to keeping her safe I would definitely look into a badge something that can be visible at all times. Which I am going to do myself ! . People do randomly feed other people's children. I always ask first cause you never know. I'm more alert now but thankfully we haven't done any play groups lately and ours only have fruit!.
Don't let this knock your confidence. Like pop said your not alone !
Thank you all for your suggestions and support. I really like the idea of a badge, it would probably be more visible than a bracelet and much more likely to stay on!
I think more than anything I still can't believe that giving junk food to a toddler you don't know is an actual thing! Typically no one has ever tried to feed my eldest (no allergies) and if they did now, she is so cautious, she'd ask me if it's ok anyway!
I've calmed down again now and I know we just have to carry on and try not to let allergies get in the way of her fun and learning. I don't want them to limit her. We've had good news today too, blood test for her allergies came back negative, so we will be starting in hospital trials of soya soon. I really, really hope she is starting to out grow some of her allergies.
No allergies here but if a stranger fed my child a cookie without asking I would be so annoyed! How people can be so ignorant is beyond me.
When I have my friends over I wouldn't even offer their kids junk food without asking the adult first.
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