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Old Dec 1st, 2017, 09:14 AM   1
Louise88
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Applying for Catholic school for DS but he isn't christened......


My DD goes to a Catholic school but she was christened as a baby in my opinion it's the best school and then links onto a good high school aswell my DS wasn't christened not sure why but it just didn't seem to get booked when he was a baby. I would like him to go to the same school as his sister but not sure if he will get accepted or not. I have ended up booking to get him christened early next year but it's causing alot of arguments and fall outs as his dad isn't attending (his choice) as he lives 6 hrs away but I'm getting screamed at by him as people are ringing him havinga go at him for not attending and then their ringing me telling me how disgusted they are that he's not attending etc. To the point I want to cancel the christening and just hope he gets into the school.

Do you think he'd stand a chance at getting in without being christened especially with his sister being in the school? I have also thought about maybe telling everyone the christening is cancelled and just having the godparents attend but not sure how the prest would feel having an empty church

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Old Dec 1st, 2017, 10:11 AM   2
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I think just attending with the godparents is a good idea , thats what I did as I didnt want a fuss. If you explained to the priest you are kerping it small because his dad cant come he should understand.



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Old Dec 1st, 2017, 12:47 PM   3
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It's a big risk not having him christened so I'd definitely go ahead with that. They are usually full and those who aren't baptised are considered last so it will be who applied first that gets the place as I'm sure you are aware, him having a sibling there might help but it's up to the school board not the head teacher.

If it's causing a lot of stress I'd go with what you say. The priest doesn't need to know how big a family you have. As far as he will know you only have 2/3/4 members in the family. Some people it's like that. He won't judge you. It's only for the sake of getting in to school so it's not a big deal.



 
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Old Dec 1st, 2017, 13:39 PM   4
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Thankyou for the replies I think I am just going to stick with close family and godparents and not involve friends etc. As it shouldn't have to be made into a stressful event. I deffinatly want him christened as really don't want to risk him going to the other schools (going off ofstead reports etc.) As I don't necessarily live in a great area so his school is really important to me.



 
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Old Dec 2nd, 2017, 03:14 AM   5
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I wasn't christened and none of my family, including myself, even really believes in God, but I went to a Catholic secondary school. It was considered a good school, which I suppose is the only reason I was sent there. The faith factor was not an aspect in my attending. It was a private school, so I don't know if that makes a difference in being accepted? However, I attended on a 50% fee reduction academic scholarship, so me not being christened didn't seem to affect their decision there either - there were only two scholarship places for maximum discount to be won per year so presumably they would have been quite picky and could have chosen someone with a religious background, but as I recall, it never even came up during my interview with the headmaster.



 
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Old Dec 2nd, 2017, 10:09 AM   6
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It's a big risk not having him christened so I'd definitely go ahead with that. They are usually full and those who aren't baptised are considered last so it will be who applied first that gets the place as I'm sure you are aware, him having a sibling there might help but it's up to the school board not the head teacher.

If it's causing a lot of stress I'd go with what you say. The priest doesn't need to know how big a family you have. As far as he will know you only have 2/3/4 members in the family. Some people it's like that. He won't judge you. It's only for the sake of getting in to school so it's not a big deal.
I'm sorry you've got this dilemma. My son goes to the local catholic school even though he is not baptised - in Scotland you can't discriminate against a child for schooling, as long as they are in the catchment area they will be allocated a place. They can say no to placement requests from outside the area on religious grounds though and we had several catholic children have placement request turned down this year when a couple of non catholic children from the area were admitted.

Personally, even though I have no religious beliefs, if I thought not being christened would effect my child's chances I'd probably go away quietly and have it done. I'm sure your local priest would happily do this for you if he felt you genuinely wanted your Ds raised within that faith.

Good luck with whatever you decide and I'm sorry this is causing problems for you and your Ds's father.



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