would you ignore this behavior?

oct-bump · Oct 1st, 2010, 18:40 PM

I think Elle is going through a stage. If she falls on her bum while walking, she cries. I know she's not hurt because I help her up, she just goes on walking. I've been trying to ignore it, but I don't know if I should

I don't want to the be person who always runs to the kid when the kid cries because that will turn into a bad habit for LO.

McStars · Oct 1st, 2010, 19:10 PM

Sounds like it's just a stage, maybe she needs some reassurance. My son does that too, I just tell him "you're okay!!" and clap and sound really happy then tell him to get back up or help him up. So now when he falls or something he says "it's okay" and moves on. It's cute!

MotherBeth · Oct 1st, 2010, 23:36 PM

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Originally Posted by McStars

Sounds like it's just a stage, maybe she needs some reassurance. My son does that too, I just tell him "you're okay!!" and clap and sound really happy then tell him to get back up or help him up. So now when he falls or something he says "it's okay" and moves on. It's cute!

I do a similar thing. When there's that moment after she has a "nothing fall" where she's deciding whether to cry or not, I throw up my hands with a big smile and say, "Uh-oh!" in a sing-songy way. And that helps her make the decision to laugh instead of cry. And then we keep going. Seems to work!

Lu28 · Oct 2nd, 2010, 03:06 AM

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Originally Posted by MotherBeth

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Originally Posted by McStars

Sounds like it's just a stage, maybe she needs some reassurance. My son does that too, I just tell him "you're okay!!" and clap and sound really happy then tell him to get back up or help him up. So now when he falls or something he says "it's okay" and moves on. It's cute!

I do a similar thing. When there's that moment after she has a "nothing fall" where she's deciding whether to cry or not, I throw up my hands with a big smile and say, "Uh-oh!" in a sing-songy way. And that helps her make the decision to laugh instead of cry. And then we keep going. Seems to work!

We do the same

special_kala · Oct 2nd, 2010, 03:07 AM

I think early on you need to be the person who runs to everytime she falls over so she is secure iykwim.

When River falls down i say oh dear and pick her up. If she crys we have cuddles.

Laura2919 · Oct 2nd, 2010, 03:48 AM

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Originally Posted by MotherBeth

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Originally Posted by McStars

Sounds like it's just a stage, maybe she needs some reassurance. My son does that too, I just tell him "you're okay!!" and clap and sound really happy then tell him to get back up or help him up. So now when he falls or something he says "it's okay" and moves on. It's cute!

I do a similar thing. When there's that moment after she has a "nothing fall" where she's deciding whether to cry or not, I throw up my hands with a big smile and say, "Uh-oh!" in a sing-songy way. And that helps her make the decision to laugh instead of cry. And then we keep going. Seems to work!

Same here too.

oct-bump · Oct 2nd, 2010, 06:28 AM

Thanks, I'll try your suggestions.

AppleBlossom · Oct 2nd, 2010, 06:32 AM

When Grace would fall over I used to pick her up and just say "Oh dear, be careful" but I never made a big fuss. Now when she falls unless she really hurts herself she just gets up and says "Oops I fell over!" and carries on

Cariad_bach · Oct 2nd, 2010, 06:46 AM

I will try the 'Oops you softy! up you get!!' routine at first but whilst there little if theres tears i will do hugs.
OH always says i'll make them soft but none of my others are .. sometimes the tears are frustration and shock rather than pain, they still need a hug xx

oct-bump · Oct 2nd, 2010, 09:34 AM

I tried "Uh-oh" and clapped today. She thought that was fun and stood up and started clapping. I think this is a good idea

Oct 1st, 2010, 18:40 PM	#1
oct-bump Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 1,025	would you ignore this behavior? I think Elle is going through a stage. If she falls on her bum while walking, she cries. I know she's not hurt because I help her up, she just goes on walking. I've been trying to ignore it, but I don't know if I should I don't want to the be person who always runs to the kid when the kid cries because that will turn into a bad habit for LO.

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McStars Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Texas Posts: 2,046	Sounds like it's just a stage, maybe she needs some reassurance. My son does that too, I just tell him "you're okay!!" and clap and sound really happy then tell him to get back up or help him up. So now when he falls or something he says "it's okay" and moves on. It's cute!

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special_kala Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: West sussex, england Posts: 20,512	I think early on you need to be the person who runs to everytime she falls over so she is secure iykwim. When River falls down i say oh dear and pick her up. If she crys we have cuddles.

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oct-bump Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 1,025	Thanks, I'll try your suggestions.

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AppleBlossom Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Liverpool, UK Posts: 25,860	When Grace would fall over I used to pick her up and just say "Oh dear, be careful" but I never made a big fuss. Now when she falls unless she really hurts herself she just gets up and says "Oops I fell over!" and carries on

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Cariad_bach Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: North Wales Posts: 5,649	I will try the 'Oops you softy! up you get!!' routine at first but whilst there little if theres tears i will do hugs. OH always says i'll make them soft but none of my others are .. sometimes the tears are frustration and shock rather than pain, they still need a hug xx

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Oct 2nd, 2010, 09:34 AM	#10
oct-bump Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 1,025	I tried "Uh-oh" and clapped today. She thought that was fun and stood up and started clapping. I think this is a good idea

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