I have the opportunity to meet up with a potential new friend sometime very soon. However I am terrified as she has a disabled son ( I don't know the specifics yet, but I know it is both physical and mental). I have lead a 'sheltered' life in that I have never had the chance to meet many disabled people.
I don't know how to act, what to say. Do i ask questions? ignore it?
I know I sound ignorant but that is why I am asking!!
Not ignarant AT ALL angel id feel exactly the same, i know may be difficult but maybe try to find out the exact disabilty and read up seo you can ask things without feeling silly. If not im sure she is more than used to qestions and wont mind talking openly!
I went to deliver xmas prezzies with a collegue at work one day and opened the office door of a customer only to find him in a wheelchair... was a complete shock and i wish i had known before so i felt comfortable asking things, i felt dreadful after as i wasnt sure if i actually LOOKED SUPRISED too xx
Aw, bless you for your honesty. I expect many of us would feel a bit anxious! I would advise on not 'ignoring it', and instead ask questions. This will demystify the whole issue for you, and in turn help you to enjoy the experience of meeting your friend and her son The first part of overcoming prejudice is admitting to it, which is basically what you have done. Well done, your friend is lucky to have a friend like you xx
i would definitely ask questions, and ask not just for you but for your child as well. Your child is going to ask questions as that's thier nature so you need to have the information to be able to answer them. What better way to do that than to ask them together. I am sure that the meeting will go well and hopefully both of you will make some life long friends.
You're not a horrible person! My nephew was severely disabled. Of course you won't be able to ignore it, but you can speak to them like anybody- they just may or may not be able to respond to you like anybody.
It might be easier to just say 'I don't know anything about... her-sons-name / the name of his disability' - that way you don't feel like you're saying the wrong thing and she can offer as much information as she wants. Even with the same person it can vary from day to day how much they feel like talking about it. Kids are all amazing, I hope you have a lovely time
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